jsfantome's Journal, 29 June 2013

Evaluation is just part of the process. And I have been evaluating some recent choices - and their impacts in my life. This has been good on multiple levels.

It's kind of like when I go thru my closet. Have I worn this...touched it even...in the last year? if not... bye bye! Clearly there is a reason I don't wear it. And I don't have the patience to keep things around that are not useful to me anymore.

Thinking this has something to do with getting older...


I have been evaluating my past week. Great food choices. Did ok on the exercise front. (3 times.) And all in all, I do think I might have dropped a pound or two in water weight...as some of my 'tight' clothes are not 'tight' anymore. All good things!

I have managed to bring FS back into my daily life...that's a great choice...and it's been incredibly helpful. Your support, my willingness to re-commit - it puts this in it's proper perspective for me. A major lifestyle change doesn't come about without some major planning and effort in one's life.

There is however a negative that has cropped out of this evaluation process. Maybe it's because I have been at this such a long time. Or maybe it's due to my type of personality. But I have a hard time (sometimes) when I do come here.

Everyone has a journey. A story. And a right to be respected in it. I am certainly not talking about the events in people's lives that need to be shared - God knows...I've done my fair share of sharing!!!

But sometimes I see the same people online - that I have seen for the last few years... and they are still whining about 'cheating' or 'weight gain' at the expense of the pizza and beers they scoffed down the night before... etc.

So as part of my evaluation process, I discovered - I don't need to be the support system to the entire FS community. I do love you guys...really I do. But I just can't handle trying to give advice to deaf ears! (Does that make me a terrible friend?) I'm sorry.

Just trying to remain focused on finding my own way out of this weight gain. And I am 100% serious about doing what I need to do. My standards are high. My goals are set before me. And I don't want to be distracted by the random social chit-chat of those who just come here because misery loves company. That's not me. I want progress. Forward motion. Positive input. Help. Honesty.

Oh, and btw...if you are reading my journal, I can assure you - I am NOT talking about YOU. But you have all seen them. Heck I have probably been them in a past post or two.

I am just tired of misdirecting my energies in life.

All in all, my week was successful. And I feel very good about it. That's enough for me! Hope you are well too!!! Happy Weekend.

Much Love.
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I love your honesty, perspective & determination. I think many of us are in a similar place in our lives where we're reevaluating who we are, how we want to spend our time & who we want to spend it with. I've recently thought about this with the friends I choose to spend time with, in much of the same way. I won't take the time to pursue friendships with those whose company I don't truly want to be with, or who constantly bring me down. Like you, I'm finally putting myself first... and it feels good! Glad we're on this journey together! xoxox 
29 Jun 13 by member: Ruhu
Glad you are feeling better. FS is like everything else - we have to help ourselves first before we can help others.  
29 Jun 13 by member: BuffyBear
Understood Paula. Love Buffy's comment.. To that I'll just say, "what she said..." 
29 Jun 13 by member: Helewis
Very much understood Paula! And I completely agree!!! 
29 Jun 13 by member: Sandy701
WOW,you and I are on the same page this time. Actually I always felt we had a common connection. All you can do Paula is take care of you! You can let someone know, if asked what you think, but YES I run into friends that eat the wrong stuff and then complain about their body or try to convince me to go 'off' with them. My BFF that I've know since 6 years old is like that. I love her, but I will not go back to eating things that make me sluggish ANYMORE! I have to do this for ME. I tried to help her but she found excuses about why she couldn't eat things I suggested. But enough of that. I will be her friend and I will still be true to ME! Take care of YOU Paula :-) 
29 Jun 13 by member: JMA312
Glad your are back and trying again. Just keep moving forward everyday! 
30 Jun 13 by member: JenKatja
well said Paula! I know that I haven't been on in a while, but I understand exactly how you feel time to put FS back into my life as well! I haven't posted I have been reading your journals and its been very inspiring. Do what's best. for you and don't worry about everybody else. 
30 Jun 13 by member: lilsmurf74
I, too, have read your recent journals. I am glad to see you are back on here. I had changed my way of eating for over two years and then slipped back so very slowly into the past harmful way... but I, too, am back. I have a goal, not just of losing the weight, but to my life long change of good daily choices. I will be praying for you, Paula. Thanks for your insights. They are inspiring. ~Suzie 
01 Jul 13 by member: suziem


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