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Good Morning FS buddies!
Well, so much for the challenges... I didn't do all that great this week. So much going on in my life and my focus just is not there. I have one more trip coming up this month, then I will be mostly staying in town for quite some time, so hopefully I can get back in the swing of things.
Did do good yesterday... Hubby and I got up at a decent time, took daughter to work, then hit the gym for a cardio workout. I was amazed by myself... normally I walk on the treadmill at about 3.5 for 30 minutes... I was able to walk at 3.8, and even jogged at 5 for 10 minutes!!! In the past, when I've tried to jog, I give it up after a very short time (like 2 minutes at the most!), but I'm guessing that my lower weight has led to higher stamina.?..... So, because of that, in my 30 minutes on the treadmill, I went more than 2 miles!!
Hubby made a deal with our youngest daughter last night concerning the gym... Since the cell phone is her life, he told her that for every day that she goes with us to the gym, she will be given her phone, but if she has the ability to go and chooses not to, the phone will be ours. I hate that we have to 'bribe' her, but I'm at a loss. I worry about her health since she is so young and so heavy.... there's no way that can be good for her at all, so we feel like we need to do something!
We also had my company picnic yesterday. Once again, I was surprised at the comments I received. Many people saying "Wow, you look great! What have you been doing?" It's nice to get that recognition.
Not a lot more going on. Regular busy day off today getting ready for my work week to begin. Had both Saturday and Sunday off, which is a rarity, but didn't DO a whole lot. Have to finish up some shopping today, get some more laundry done (daily!), organize my office area, work on some spreadsheets for work, etc, etc, etc.... I wish I could say I was just going to go shopping all day today and buy whatever I want, but unfortunately, I didn't win the lottery over the weekend ;(
Have a SUPER FANTASTIC day everyone!
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150.0 lb
Lost so far: 46.2 lb.
Still to go: 15.0 lb.
Diet followed poorly.
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gaining 2.4 lb a week
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Awesome on getting all the great recognitions!! Great on getting to the gym to start working off the not so great weekend, too. lol ;) Hey on your daughter, gosh that's got to be really tough. But if it's any solace.... both of my nieces got "bigger", especially around this age, but hitting 15/16, they both slimmed right down. I can only suggest keeping her "bad foods" OUT of the house. If it's not there to eat, she'll naturally have to turn to a healthier choice. I know, it's not easy to do that, but if it's for everyone's better health, it's well worth it. I work really hard at not keeping cookies/chips/candy/cakes in the house, as I know I will get into them, too. Maybe only once in a while and only a small amount to be sure that I don't get to have "much", anyways. Also, ... can I suggest a "reward" for her getting to the gym, maybe like a girls night, or something after so many visits in say a month?? It may be more "inspiring", then the "bribe". ? :) Just a few thoughts that came to mind... I remember feeling like the 'fat one', our freshman year... and all my life before that. However... guys became much more of an interest, so that's when I decided to do something about it... nothing else worked. ;) lylas xoxo
08 Sep 08 by member: bullytrouble
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Yeah... she's having the 'guy' thing going on, too, although none of them seem to have a problem with her weight. I am more concerned about health. I really do try to keep junky food out of the house... the problem is friends, school, etc., where I really don't have control. I may be able to do something like a girls night out eventually, but for now, I really feel that we almost have to FORCE her to go. Maybe after going for a time, she will see and feel the differences and feel more self motivation.... We'll see...
08 Sep 08 by member: katrinat
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Great job with the exercise and improving your fitness level! Congrats on all the compliments, too. I know you deserve them : ) As for your youngest daughter's weight problem, I know it must be difficult to watch her go through life at an unhealthy weight. But, speaking from my experience as an overweight teenager, I don't think that your bribe is going to have the effect you desire. Bully's suggestion of keeping only healthy foods in the house and offering a reward rather than a punishment for going to the gym could be helpful. But ultimately, it is up to your daughter to decide. She can still overeat on healthy food and you have no control over what she consumes outside the home. Taking her phone away, especially when you say it's "her life", may have an opposite effect of what you were aiming for because it will upset her and could push her into a cycle of emotional eating. Instead, try helping her find activities that give her a sense of accomplishment to boost her self image. Find some books that address self-esteem and weight issues for her to read. And more importantly, just do what you always do, love her and support her. (((HUGS)))
08 Sep 08 by member: evelyn64
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Thanks guys... I have tears running down my cheeks reading your comments. It's so hard being a mom-- you want to do the right thing, but what is it???!!! Thanks for your suggestions. I'll try anything!
08 Sep 08 by member: katrinat
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(hugs) =) It's okay... that's why we are all "here", together. We are some fine family and truly do care. I think "forcing" as evelyn said, can backfire and cause the opposite and even more food related issues, too. I remember when I was little (grade school), my mom and grandma got me into latch hooking (you know, the rugs that you make or hang on the wall), for "something do". Evidently, I would get bored and need to go find a snack. So between not allowing the bad foods in the house and having plenty to do that kept me interested and busy, it "helped" some. When I said a girls night, I was thinking like a night w/some friends over to watch a movie or go play volleyball together, go skating, etc., and you could prepare, with her help a healthy selection of snacks and dinner and have them have a FUN time, with some activity, too. :) I really think that "rewarding her" with something that she really loves to do/have is key. ;) "More bees w/honey than vinegar", ya know? If she's into clothes, make some room for a new article of clothing at the end of a month if she gets to the gym 3 times a week. Something like that! =D The "least amount of pressure" emphasized on the attempts of trying to be healthy and rewards. I know that I feel my mom did really good with not emphasizing anything negatively... only rewards for getting a new latch to do, etc. Think positively,... you'll be fine! Also, maybe at her next check up, as the doctor if there is any blood work that can show if everything is alright too? Probably she is FINE and just needs encouragement to get out and move some more... dancing, skating, taking friends to have fun, too. :) No beating on the mama now, ya hear?? xoxo
08 Sep 08 by member: bullytrouble
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Thanks again... Had a bunch of bloodwork done on her about 2 years ago and they found absolutely nothing... she just doesn't like activity and NEVER has! Since a toddler, if she was asked to help clean up after playing with toys, there was always something 'wrong' with her... "my legs hurt", "I have to go to the bathroom (for 15 minutes!)".. etc... I am working on it, though. This is one of my biggest regrets of the necessity of being a working mother... they are left to do their own things for too much of the time. Oh, well, just gotta keep trying....
08 Sep 08 by member: katrinat
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It must have felt great to have comments from your colleagues. That's always a good feeling. Congratulations on the great pace at the gym! That is really great! I hope you find a good way to motivate your daughter, everyone has offered so much good advice here.
08 Sep 08 by member: fraise
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I think evelyn is right. you cant force her to do this, you can't control her excercises at the gym, or make her eat healthy. you have to teach her. you have showed a wonderful example showing her its possible already. thats really good. i think you may have to let her know you may have been wrong on forcing this on her, let her know even you make wrong choices sometimes (only if you agree this was a wrong way to address it). she will know her health is your main concern. ask her what HER goals are, some people ARE healthy a little overweight aren't they? its all about how she feels. she may need self confidence to want to do this, if she wants to. also you can try little rewards, say every 2 or 5 pounds. or ever week of workouts like buly says, but i think pounds off are a bit more motivating, Id get pedicures every 5 pounds... haven't had one in months. :( lol
08 Sep 08 by member: cindyshine
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I think you are doing wonderful stickin it out in the gym! Jogged at 5 for 10 minutes!! Good job! I hate running... lol, let alone 10minutes straight!! You are doing wonderful!
I think it's great that you and your husband are being proactive with your daughters weight and health issues. Maybe you should show her pictures of what happens to the "inside" of the body when your are overweight. That might also be an eye opener. LOL... then again, a girl without her phone might just mean a girl in the gym! haha!
08 Sep 08 by member: Leesah
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I think you are doing great by leading by example. I also agree with not having the junk around the house. I know that teens can always get that kind of stuff on their own, but it doesn't have to be in the house. That's a tough one. It's a slippery slope. I have a friend going through the same thing and she said the same she can't force her. Great job going for the jog. I think by you and your husband showing your commitment to the gym that may be the best for her to see. ((HUGS))
08 Sep 08 by member: chefchristabug
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Great job on the treadmill! You are setting a good example for your daughter. Not sure if this would strike a chord with her, but what would happen if you told her YOU need HER help to stay motivated, and that if she works out with you it helps keep you on track?
08 Sep 08 by member: amryk
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hang in there MOM! it's such a tough job, lemme tell ya! My son was really over weight when he was 9-11 years old. He loved food and was eating way different (his own conconctions) and way more than any of us in the household. and it showed! I had to put him on a diet and every day, I coerced him (he'll tell you I forced him!) to go running for 2 miles. He still thanks me TODAY for the fact that he was able to get his life back on track...and has had no problems since then! we also did the ATkins diet, and I educated him on how it worked. I was tough...but I'm glad I did it! Stick to your guns, MOM!
08 Sep 08 by member: BadAndee
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