RiverRes's Journal, 20 January 2013

Life is full of ah ha moments. Today, I was blessed to have two in the same day.

1st Ah ha. I had to get up early to drive an hour and take my parents to Mass this morning. I got up before my alarm and worked out for an hour before showering and hitting the road. I felt great all day, and it was easy to stay focused on my food choices.

I have always been a morning person, but I balked at getting up early to work out. I thought it would make me more tired, and I am very protective of the 7 hours of sleep I get. What a revelation to have more energy throughout my day! I don't think I will need to do a full hour every day, but a nice half hour start on my exercise might just be the solution to my recent "weight loss funk".

2nd Ah ha. I asked my parents for help. Not help for me, but help for them. My parents scrimped and saved their whole lives so that they could have a comfortable retirement. For the first few years of retirement, they went on trips and cruises and really enjoyed themselves. Now that their health is declining, they are so frugal, it drives me crazy! I spend hours every week cleaning their house and doing their shopping. All the while their bank account grows.

I don't want a damned inheritence! If they are miserable in their final days because they are scrimping and saving to give their ADULT children something, I cannot face the mirror! There are a number of services available that will run errands for them, or cook and clean, or take them for a hair appointment. I told them today that I will pay for it if they will just accept the help. I can get a cleaning service in every week for a reasonable amount. I can hire seniors helping seniors to take my Mom for a hair cut and a pedicure. Money well spent in my book!

And that will free me from the tedious chores that I am currently strapped with. I want to enjoy my parents. I want to spend quality time with them; not have them watch me scrub their floors.

I have lost a ton of weight today. A bunch of emotional baggage that was slowly whittling away at my resolve. I am glad that I finally came clean (pardon the pun!) with my parents and told them that I need help to keep up with all of their needs. Hopefully, that will help me get my butt out of bed extra early and spend a half hour on me!

Diet Calendar Entries for 20 January 2013:
1074 kcal Fat: 20.44g | Prot: 53.62g | Carb: 176.83g.   Breakfast: Instant Oatmeal - Apples & Cinnamon, Milk (Nonfat), YOPLAIT VERY CHERRY YOGURT, stevia, Flavors French Vanilla Ground Coffee. Lunch: kroger seasoned herb croutons, cucumber, Cos or Romaine Lettuce. Dinner: wanchai ferry. Snacks/Other: raspberries, carrots. more...
3681 kcal Activities & Exercise: Desk Work - 4 hours and 30 minutes, Gilad - 1 hour, Housework - 4 hours and 45 minutes, Shopping - 15 minutes, Driving - 3 hours and 30 minutes, Resting - 2 hours, Sleeping - 8 hours. more...
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Oh my gosh Paula - you're incredible! Good for you! Great journal and fantastic 'aha's! You are one inspiring woman! 
20 Jan 13 by member: FullaBella
Good for you. I have a Mum like yours that doesn't spend hardly anything and has far more than she needs. She won't pay for a taxi to go to the hairdressers or doctors and will only go if we take her (I live an hour away and about 50 miles, have 3 young kids and can't be there all of the time). We tell her that she should spend some of her money, but she won't. I might see if I can persuade her to get a cleaner and see what services there are re anything else. Thanks for the inspiration, although I suspect it's different here (I'm assuming you are in the US). 
21 Jan 13 by member: sandred
Thanks ladies! Stubborn parents come in all conditions and are worldwide, I guarantee! I hope you are able to find a service that can help with your Mum! 
21 Jan 13 by member: RiverRes
Your parents are so blessed. I have to PAY my MH's greedy step daughter to sit with him when I have to be away hours to do a trade show. Again.. bless you Paula for all that you do. I'd offer to adopt you but your parents need you. Bless you. Bella. 
21 Jan 13 by member: FullaBella
Yes, parents certainly can be stubborn and a real worry too. I feel like I'm the parent now and she's the child! My Mum hasn't been the same since my Dad died almost 3 years ago. My sister and I try our best, but nothing seems to be good enough and her expectations of us are very high. I'm going over on Monday and will talk to her about help. However, if she thinks that we feel that she isn't managing she gets even more stubborn. Love her but at 81 she's not always easy. Unlike yours, she won't let me clean or help around the house (she does what she can herself). If I go into a different room to do something she just follows me, she just wants the company I think. 
21 Jan 13 by member: sandred

     
 

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