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amandawl's Journal, 08 January 2013
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Over the holidays my quite tipsy mother let my actual weight loss numbers and goal slip to friends and family. I REALLY didn't want everyone to know that I had lost 23 kgs but there it was out in the open. Over time I just wanted to shrink into a tighter version of myself. I didn't want to open myself up to the comments of others and their views on weight loss and what I needed to be doing. But now, courtesy of my mother, it's all out there and it is strangely liberating.
Most were incredibly encouraging and I have even inspired a friend of mine to start his own weight loss journey. But, I wouldn't be me if I didn't get hung up on the people who chose to go negative.
One female told me that my goal size 2 was far too small and I should be happy if I get down to a size 6, as it is more difficult to lose weight when you are at a smaller size. I would like to think she meant well with this comment but it really just served to incense me. I am a short woman and I finally want to be short AND tiny - not short and fat. My goal of a size 2 by bikini season may be lofty but I feel as though I am on track and based on my performance so far this is a realistic and achievable goal. Her implication that I have only lost weight because I was so fat to begin with really ticked me off. So did her suggestions that since she was a size 8 I should be happy if I got down to an 8. I would never tell her that she would look optimal if she dropped down to a size 6 so why the need to tell me that I shouldn't aim to be smaller than her?
One female shared that if I really want to lose weight then I need to switch to organic foods only as that is the way to true health. If I 'were truly serious about losing weight' I would 'really commit and go vegan'. I understand becoming a little militant in your views on weight loss once you have finally found something that has worked for you. But lecturing someone who is already leading a healthier lifestyle and refusing to accept that they have found something that works for them is just obnoxious. Weight loss is personal to everyone and just because one way worked for you doesn't mean it will be the only way that will ever work.
Eating out I discovered that portion disortion may always be a problem when out with friends. The amount of food that is put on plates really is not appropriate. I don't need to be eating 3 cups of fries with an 8 oz steak after I've already eaten a salad appetizer. I don't appreciate being accused of being anorexic now simply because I stop myself from eating everything on my plate. I ordered the steak with the fries to begin with... it isn't as if I'm denying myself foods that I enjoy - I just eat with the fullness of my stomach in mind. Heaven forbid I not eat dessert when I'm full because now that my weight loss goals have been shared it is suddenly viewed as self denial by others. Why do some people try to force 'dieters' to eat to excess or indulge 'just this once'? I really do cringe at thinking of myself as on a diet, as lame as it may sound I like to think of my eating habit shift as making healthier choices.
I wish that others could be happy and supportive without my own goals bringing up their own weight insecurities.
Diet Calendar Entries for 08 January 2013:
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1498 kcal
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Fat: 44.20g | Prot: 63.92g | Carb: 213.10g.
Breakfast: Coffee with Cream and Sugar, Nutri-Grain Bars, maple brown sugar oatmeal quaker. Lunch: caesar dressing, salad. Dinner: skim milk, spaghetti. Snacks/Other: rice cake. more...
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2195 kcal
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Activities & Exercise:
Circuit Training - 40 minutes, Resting - 15 hours and 20 minutes, Sleeping - 8 hours. more...
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 Comments
That is very frustrating. I guess you just have to rise above it and be happy in your own progress, but I know that's so much easier said than done! I also really dislike people dogmatically presenting their own approach as 'the' way to do things... what you're doing is now is obviously working for you as you've made such fantastic progress!
I know what you mean about it being strangely liberating when some of your weight secrets get 'revealed' though ... I've always been very cagey with my boyfriend about saying my exact weight, saying really round about things like 'oh, I'm down another pound, if I lose one more I'll break through to the next stone down'. But yesterday after having always being like this I suddenly got sick of acting so ashamed of it and just told him my exact weight... I figure as long as I'm making positive steps in the right direction, there's not so much to be embarrassed about!
I hope you continue on your current course without all their unwanted advice and opinions bothering you too much... just go and look at your nice graph and stats that fatsecret so kindly makes for us if you want a boost as you really are doing great!
08 Jan 13 by member: phibs
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