Sharons Victory's Journal, 18 August 2018

I get it,, lost 40 lbs thought I was looking good even knowing I still needed to lose 50 more but saw pictures of me from a function I went to and thought I looked fat,, staying on my quest to get there  

But you are working to change that! Keep on going and you will not be that way for long! 

This is me too. I’ve lost 44 pounds total and I’m crazy happy about that, but then sometimes I look at myself and just see FAT! But I do the same thing with my face too, some days I think I don’t look too bad for my age and then the next day all I see is a wrinkly mess! LOL You’re normal! Just let it motivate you instead of getting you down. ❤️ 

tell me about it, we all go through so much to get to our mini goals and then sit back and fuss. I am just grateful to feel so much better and able to work on the fitness aspect of my change. I could not do that before! 

I get it! Sometimes you feel good and then something sets you back. Mine is the rolls on my tummy! Not to mention the arm flab! I do look and FEEL much better, give yourself a break 😊 

You’re so pretty. Keep plugging away 

Having this same feeling. We can't stop because its working but I thought I wouldnt be do fat right now! 

I feel I *totally* get what you're saying. However, I hope you re-focus on 'gratitude' :) I am in soo much better shape, but I am still 25 years older than I wanted to be at this weight :) If I don't get 'humble' and have 'gratitude' it leads to -depression-, -anger-, and -resentment- in me. This will kill me. But, anyway I can only speak for myself :) 

Try not thinking in terms of ‘huge’. That messed with my mind. Instead think things like ‘I’m bigger than I like but smaller than I was last month’. ‘I’m not losing as fast as I thought I would, but I’m still losing so I need to work on patience’ has helped me on many days! Patience is NOT my strong suit lol. 

You’re probably not as big as you think you are. I gain weight all over. Even my fingers are big, but everyone tells me I’m not that big. Just keep going. Sometimes it takes a while for all your hard work to yield results. Hang in there. 

Slow and steady wins the race. 

Feels. Hang in there, you are going to get to your goal! 

From what pictures you have on here , your not huge , you are very beautiful. 

But you’re working hard to be healthy. And you are an inspiration to many. I saw your tummy pic and mention of planks...I now plank every day too because of you! Thank you! Please hang in there, keep going...You. Got. THIS! 

Keep going Sharon...I started out @ 255 lbs. 3 weeks ago I lost in that time 8 lbs....all by just eating 1600 calories a day no more than that and no less than a 1000 calories per day... Its not a diet put a lifestyle change and it takes time to iron out all the kinks in your eating habits; but it is a start...don't give up! 

You know it will always be a struggle but don't beat yourself up and be self-defeating. Remember, you are "Sharons Victory" :) Stay tough. 

You are beautiful and not huge at all! 

Maybe huge isn’t the kindest way to think of yourself. As my weight (slowly) goes down, I realize people loved me no matter how I looked - that my value as a person existed and still exists independent of my appearance. In some African cultures, and also some island cultures, there is a deliberate effort to fatten up the bride-to-be! She is more greatly valued when she shows the signs of wealth (being able to afford lots of food) and fecundity - fertile ness) She resembles the Mother Goddess, worshiped for tens of thousands of years before Yahweh spoke to His people.) Our culture has taken a terrible turn in both the 1920’s and late 1960’s, and when you appear to be starving, you get to star in TV shows and movies. Every pound is scrutinized and criticized. But if you look at these thin, popular celebrities, their arms above and below the elbow curve in - if you look at this indicator, they appear malnourished. You can count every rib - and this is the standard of beauty that has been drummed into women for the past 50 years. And if they do reach their goal weight - they are criticized for appearing anorexic! It is a case of misogyny, woman-hating, gone wild. And our culture has placed all value in being underweight rather than a normal weight, perhaps 30 or more pounds above a size 2 or 0. What is important is to value yourself, and stop comparing yourself to everyone who passes by. It is hard to do, but once I stopped making the constant self-criticisms I began to lose the weight. Keep trying, keep an attitude that you are a wonderful, beautiful woman as you are, and that you are CHOOSING to lose weight. Empower yourself!