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I noticed that when someone is clearly struggling with something difficult and expressing it on here, everyone's impulse is to jump on them and insist they need "tough love" to snap out of it, rather than seeking to help someone gain clarity through compassion. We know for a fact that shaming someone for something does not get them to reframe their situation and set themselves on the correct path and build healthier habits, and a recent example is everyone's reaction to a young person on here obviously struggling with their self-image to the point where they actually seem to have been chased off the site, and having read the replies to them, it seems like it must've been overwhelming to deal with all of this tough love/bluntness (""telling it like it is""-style of communication) so many on here seem fond of. I experienced this when I struggled to get started, and everyone's criticsms and "tough love" just made it worse and I only began to thrive when I found supportive, compassionate folks on here who, ironically, have themselves been chased off the site! I may reconsider my own presence here in light of how negative so many interactions seem to be on here.
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