ConniebytheSea's Journal, 16 July 2012

I really really hope it's just temporary because MY scale was screaming "OMG!! what DIDN'T you eat this weekend??". lol! It was a FUN weekend though!! :-) Trust me Connie..... You didn't gain 5lbs! I was up 7lbs when I got home last night and that was down to 4 this morning! Give it a day or two for your body to readjust to your regular lifestyle.  

......I do agree: DON'T let the scales rule your life!!!! We have all been, well at least I have been there. It happens, don't let it get you down. Damage is done, now move on. No better day to start again :) 

You do have the right to put whatever you like in your journal. That's what it is there for. I am in the same boat you are in with my weight. As long as we look at the broad picture we will do fine. We can look at the tiny needle on the scale. That perspective is narrow. Instead of viewing the day or the week - let's look at the month - even the year. Within the month we will be doing GREAT! Within the next year we will be right on course! Let's keep going!  

I know from my own experience that when you get back from a vacation with a gain, most of it "melts" off pretty quickly if you get right back on track. I think it is the same as when we start a diet and the first week is always a big loss and then it levels off - must be that carbs and extra calories make us retain water. I, too, have the same debate with myself about whether there is any benefit in delaying a weigh in or not. But I only seem to have that debate with myself when I'm in the moment, knowing the scale will show a gain. When I'm sitting here from an objective standpoint, I know that there is no benefit to putting off a weigh in. The weight is real at that moment whether I choose to see the number or not! So good job facing reality rather than trying to create an illusion. You've taken the balance of power away from the scale and now you are in control of what happens next. The latest question I've been asking myself is why do we make a psychological shift when we go on vacation (or to a party or a family dinner, etc.) that makes it "okay" to eat and drink things in amounts we know aren't good for us? Why is having a good time equated with overindulgence? Being able to observe so many fatsecret buddies deal with their vacations as well as my own this summer has really opened my eyes to this issue. It's made me begin to look at these situations differently - to try to stop seeing the food and drink as something I reward myself with because "I deserve it" or "this is my vacation so I should be able to ENJOY myself". These are all just little lies I tell myself to make it okay in my mind to sabotage myself. I am finding this new mindset is helping to curb the impulses to stop caring "just this once". And that's not to say I can't or won't have that cocktail or that yummy looking appetizer. I think it means I can learn to enjoy a few bites or a few sips as much as if I ate the whole plateful or drank 3 or 4 sugary cocktails instead of just one. I need to make peace with my impulses and say, "Okay, here's a little something to make you happy" but have the wherewithal to know how much is enough before it will make me unhappy in the long run. I think it will always be a work in progress but when we see it's the behaviour and not the food that is the problem, we can make real changes that will last a lifetime. 

I'm in the same boat. I got to133 and now I keep gaining and losing the same 3 ponds and I can't figure it out. I tried adding carbs (other than fruit and veggies) back, took them back out, added diff kinds of protein, did spike days, etc... all the things that have gotten me through a plateau before and now I just can't do it. There's no way you gained 5 true pounds... 1 or 2 sure and those will come right back off. Good luck! 

Connie ... Wouldn't it be nice if this healthy eating gig got easier? I'm starting to think that this will always be a battle for me. My default setting is to "over eat". It just is. Maybe we should all be considering brain surgery? Maybe the surgeons could put jumper cables on that area on our brain that craves food? Today is a new day. A new opportunity to not just enter the battle but to celebrate some victories.  

FS buddies are so great!!! Thanks to each of you for posting a note today. I feel much better this evening. I made it to the gym this afternoon and feel much better about my "fitness level" this evening over how I felt this morning. The scale will not dictate how I feel! As Evelyn would say "crossing arms and stomping foot down!" ;-) It really is great to have other people who understand what I'm going through and hopefully I'll be able to help encourage each of you in this journey as well! Thanks guys! 

Speaking of which - - Guess what! My husband just announced that - in addition to our already scheduled overnight shopping trip - he'd like to take another "little trip" before school starts. That's two (2) overnight trips between now & August 16. Those "little" trips are times that I am tempted to EAT & DRINK BIG! What's a happy wife to do? Life in Fat Secret Ville marches on! Right? Right!