StrayCat58's Journal, 15 May 2018

OK so I am really stressing. Boyfriend just told me last night that he "signed" me up to make my potato salad for a family thing on Saturday. That's well and good and I am fine with it even though I can't eat any of it. (I love my potato salad (sniff, sniff). Would have liked a little more notice though we live in the boonies and the nearest decent grocery store is an hour drive one-way. Not to mention it's all under construction right now too. Then I asked him what else was on the menu and he rattled off a list of foods I cannot have, like ham salad sandwiches, brownies, Aunt Jean's Tarts, etc. Mostly sweets. You get the picture.

Bread, mayo and the sweets are definite no-no's for me....HELP! How do you handle these situations?

Diet Calendar Entries for 15 May 2018:
879 kcal Fat: 52.62g | Prot: 54.06g | Carb: 48.76g.   Breakfast: Sweet Leaf Liquid Stevia, Traditional Medicinals Dandelion Root Tea, Ocean Spray Ruby Red Grapefruit Juice (No Sugar Added), Ice Mountain 100% Natural Spring Water (16.9 oz), Simply Balanced Greek Yogurt Plain, Blueberries. Lunch: Coca-Cola Diet Coke (Can). Dinner: Creamy Chicken Greens, Traditional Medicinals Dandelion Root Tea. Snacks/Other: Egg Pesto Muffins, Ice Mountain 100% Natural Spring Water (16.9 oz), Coca-Cola Diet Coke (Can). more...
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Teach your bf to make your potato salad?? Good luck! 
15 May 18 by member: jengetfit123
Can you take along things you may be able to have....I take pork rinds the hot ones to the movies...maybe some cheese sticks etc...what do you have that will be easily toted along with you to the event ...hope it works out for you;) 
15 May 18 by member: maxie4
Are the bread, mayo and sweets no-no's to the point you can't indulge a little bit on one day and simply focus on portion management? If so, forget the tater salad and make a dish you CAN have at the gathering regardless of what BF 'signed' you up for (without checking first). If you can allow yourself the no-no things, do so while simply managing how much. And if you go over targets, no big deal, because its only one day in a broader effort. Its the long game that matters. Bottom line is to take control of the situation (mentally or with action) in the best way you can for you. 
15 May 18 by member: JLente
Excellent suggestions! I just got so i wouldnt go to functions with menus out of my reach. Then talked w/doctor & friends. Made what I could eat and started telling hubby to stop volunteering for me. I contribute what i know i can enjoy and attend more.. We argue less, and I'm on track. saying no isn't always the answer, adjusting the playing field helps too. 
15 May 18 by member: Mikesjulie94
Eat healthy BEFORE you leave the house & just enjoy a beverage & tell everyone you just had a Huge Meal b4 showing up or simply No Thank You I’m cutting back. Be firm & honest. I don’t eat cake at bday party or Mothers Day this past weekend & everyone respected my choice. 
15 May 18 by member: Monica.Arras
I have extra money and don't care what people think of me, so if the hostess said I absolutely HAD to bring potato salad, I would go to the grocery store and buy potato salad, and not the good kind, and not a big container of it. Otherwise, if I was told I could bring whatever, I would do what my friend does and bring a big platter of veggies and dip or whatever it is that you CAN eat. 
15 May 18 by member: abbadabba
make some extra dressing after you make the main batch of potatoe salad, and then make it with steamed cauliflower. plot makes a terrific substitute, especially sprinkled with Bacon and Bleu or sharp cheddar cheese! 
15 May 18 by member: Chef Martin
Bring a platter of things that everyone (including you) can enjoy. If the potato salad is mentioned, ask for forgiveness. 
15 May 18 by member: witherornot
Eat at home before you go. You are going to the party because you want to be with your family and friends not because you are hungry and cannot eat anywhere else. Put something on the plate, preferably something you don’t like very much, and just nibble. Don’t mention dieting. The moment you do, people will start telling you that it is ok to eat it just once. Don’t get stressed out. It is a party, enjoy it. 
15 May 18 by member: Ingria
I went to a party recently where I just knew all the food would be inedible. I put a snack in my pocket for when I wanted to eat it and then had a laugh with people around me about eating nuts out of my pocket. Don't feel pressured to eat 'that' food. Take something just for you if you need to eat. That's my tip. 
15 May 18 by member: Seanbelles
Just make something special that YOU can eat too. If they ask why no potato salad simply state that you had no potatoes in the house and didn't think driving two hours to get them was reasonable. In other words, be truthful. Sounds like your boyfriend needs a talking to. He should have talked to you before volunteering your services. Maybe it was he, who wanted potato salad and thought this was a way to con you into making it. Make something special for him, that you don't like. He should support you first. 
16 May 18 by member: BlueFront
I was at a wedding buffet last week and watched how people are like pigs it felt good and empowering to be in control! 
16 May 18 by member: radiomike
I make a mock potato salad from cauliflower, works for me, sub the cauliflower for potato in your recipe !!! and make both !!! That way you won't feel deprived !!! 
16 May 18 by member: DO N OK
tell him to pick up the potatoes on the way home. 
16 May 18 by member: baskington
Sometimes I look for something that I already have in the house and put it in some nice dish and hurry up to place it on the buffet table at the family function. Then it looks like you bought something and nobody will notice anyways because there will be so much food. I even bring a bowl of apples or grapes. cracker and cheese.. 
16 May 18 by member: jdeuster
I eat before I go. Or, bring something (in addition to the requested potato salad) that you can eat. How about a nice spinach, strawberry and grilled chicken salad? 
16 May 18 by member: agraceffomartin
These are all great suggestions and comments. I did offer to make the potato salad, but he should have told me they took me up on my offer. It's a pet peeve of mine with him and his family and how I feel like an outsider even though we have been together for almost 15 years now. I've decided to bring some of my stand-by favs that maybe no one will notice like some shaved turkey and grape tomatoes, carrot and celery stix... they may think they missed the tray. If not, oh well. Too bad, So sad. BTW...I used the "make your own" comment last night on something else when my boyfriend tasted something and said "these are good, you just need to add some bacon or ham." Learn to make your own or you are welcome to eat some of mine. Thanks again everyone for your thoughtful and helpful comments. I am stressing less. 
16 May 18 by member: StrayCat58
Maybe make the potato salad and something you can have. One of my favorite go to salads (I take this to everything, no one even asks what I am bringing anymore) When I make it, it’s for 10-15 people 10 tomatoes 5 cucumbers 1/2 - 1 red onion 10-12 basil leaves Chop it all up and mix with apple cider vinegar; salt, pepper and sometimes I add feta. 
16 May 18 by member: MandeelynnCollingham
Okay this is maybe a little weird, but then so am I... I take rolled up Lavash flat bread (4g net carbs per serving) in my purse. I can then deconstruct any sandwiches that would otherwise contain good stuff, but they slapped it between heavy bread. I roll up the yummies in my Lavash and have a delicious meal anyway. If anyone comments, I tell them I have a yeast intolerance. 
16 May 18 by member: Nidoqueen
It sounds like there will be a lot of unhealthy stuff there and some vegetables might be welcomed by others with some health sensibility. I like to bring deviled eggs. 
16 May 18 by member: erikahollister

     
 

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