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Posted: 21 Mar 2013, 19:35
Is anyone else not v=crazy about telling people they are "dieting?" Maybe even haven't told anyone because they are embarrassed? Why is that?

I don't tell people because of 2 reasons: a) my friends and family think that i'm very healthy already, and b) I think i feel ashamed that i don't like myself how i am or that I want to be something else.

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Posted: 21 Mar 2013, 22:57
It's not dieting which suggests something temporary its eating and living healthier for life

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Posted: 22 Mar 2013, 01:36
For me, it has been ESSENTIAL to let everyknow that I decided to lose weight. Every single person that knows about my journey has been supportive and more than helpful.

Keeping it in the open and talking about it, having friends ask about it, etc. has helped me focus on it constantly.

It's a lot easier to skip the cake served at the meeting if everyone else at the table knows you're not supposed to have it. Smile

I know it's hard to convince yourself of this, but it is REALLY helpful to do it. Heck, I even announced it - with daily updates - on Facebook. Smile It was SCARY to begin with, because I had to admit my weight. But it only hurt to do it once, then it was all good, and it kept me commited.

I say announce it! LOUD! Go!
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Posted: 22 Mar 2013, 05:21
I didnt tell to start with for 2 reasons....... no 3 reasons lol

1) I was, and still am, a very vocal 'anti fatist'.... just cant stand those judgements made on size alone...... though I never could or would argue against the health issues associated with size.
2) I'm a bit of a control freak when it comes to me and dont want 'interference' from others..... not to mention fear of failure
3) I fell into it accidentally by trying to ensure I ate 5 a day which took up so much of my stomach I lost weight! I then carried on from there.

However!!! You can only keep it quiet for so long and by then I was so involved I enjoyed discussing it. I enjoyed the feedback to a certain extent. Mind you, not many people made the mistake of saying 'You must feel sooooo much better' twice lol. I didnt feel 'bad' in the first place!!! Ooops... anti-fatist strikes again!

This time round I have had to make it plain so other people understand why Im not eating the same as them, which is very useful if you are in an eviroment where theres a lot of food sharing going on.

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Posted: 22 Mar 2013, 08:22
I don't tell unless someone asks. Why? Because my family gives me such a hard time about losing weight. They tell me not to so I don't even bring it up anymore.

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Posted: 22 Mar 2013, 09:00
I'm ashamed to tell my husband that I joined Weight Watchers because he had made a comment awhile ago as we watched a WW commercial that 'only suckers pay for something like that, it's so easy to do on your own.' This, coming from a body builder with loads of self-discipline and who can eat a bag of potato bread rolls daily while I look on with my steamed veggies and dry chicken. So he knows I've been counting calories, but I haven't officially disclosed that I'm using WW to keep track of it all.
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Posted: 22 Mar 2013, 09:29
I don't tell people I'm on a diet mainly because it's a lifestyle and like someone said, diet seems temporary. What I do today I hope to always be doing otherwise, I'll gain all the weight back.

But I didn't announce my "lifestyle" change to anyone but I knew I wanted to lose weight. I never had to lose weight before or if I had to shed a few pounds all I had to do was exercise and eat right and it came right off. This time, something was very different and no matter how much exercise and eating right, I could NOT lose weight. I blame my age and health reasons for that. So bottom line, I didn't want people at every turn scrutizing what I was took the pressure off and allowed me to experiment and ultimately find my key to losing weight.

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Posted: 22 Mar 2013, 09:50
I told my dad - a self confessed foodie - that I was dieting. Straight away it was 'that won't work, you'll always be fat'... charming!! He came up to see me last weekend with my 2 sisters (also foodies) and I was FORBIDDEN to eat anything healthy! Absolutely ridiculous!

I can't believe that some people can be so ignorant about health and diets in this day and age...

P.S. Gordita, I know what you mean. I quite often watch my boyfriend scoff a big bar of chocolate, muffins, jam tarts... and not gain a pound! Sigh.

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Posted: 22 Mar 2013, 10:00
I'm in the same boat, i don't want people to know bc of interferences, criticisms, feeling bad that i feel my boyfriend knows and it makes it easier sometimes when he encourages me to do what makes me happy..

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Posted: 22 Mar 2013, 10:16
Spacey47 wrote:
It's not dieting which suggests something temporary its eating and living healthier for life

I agree with this. That's what I tell people, that I'm eating healthier and exercise because I want to be a healthy person. Not that many people really just outright ask me about "dieting", but I've had family members who ask and my hubby is very supportive of me wanting to be healthy.
It's not a bad thing to want to be healthy, sure some people may see it as vain, that all you want is to look good, but those people are always out there and the looking good is a bonus. I have family memebers who have diabetes, and I don't want to end up that way, and I already have health problems of my own that can be helped with eating right and exercise, so I'm going to do everything I can to be able to stick around as long as I can for my family. I don't see anything wrong with that. Smile
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Posted: 22 Mar 2013, 13:24
Jesyfm wrote:
I told my dad - a self confessed foodie - that I was dieting. Straight away it was 'that won't work, you'll always be fat'... charming!! He came up to see me last weekend with my 2 sisters (also foodies) and I was FORBIDDEN to eat anything healthy! Absolutely ridiculous!

What a terrible thing to say. And what a bad "foodie" he is... And I say this as another one who runs a "foodie" forum (where a lot of us are actively trying to lose weight right now).

Personally I would turn it back on them and tell them it's their responsibility to help you reach your goal so that in the future you can _CHOOSE_ to indulge sensibly. There are a ton of foodies who are healthy and it's our responsibility to come up with healthy delicious recipes that aid people in their journey.

mars2kids wrote:
Spacey47 wrote:
It's not dieting which suggests something temporary its eating and living healthier for life

I agree with this. That's what I tell people, that I'm eating healthier and exercise because I want to be a healthy person.

I'm afraid I disagree to a point. I think it depends on how big you are when you start and how close you are to your goal.

Right now what I am doing is a DIET. I am close to hitting my goal for my diet... But that goal was to get to a point where I could take a step back and actively make my decisions as to how I can progress further in a controlled fashion. And work out a new lifestyle for myself.

Yes I will be keeping a few things from my diet (like my lunchtime walks and other exercise. Keeping a regular eye on my weight, and my waistsize etc etc).

What I have done for the last 8 months or so is not sustainable (actually I've done a few things which I am not proud of looking back, and have been downright bloody stupid). And yes I know that once I hit this goal I have a much harder job to start. And that's not only to keep the weight off (and continue down to a healthy weight for my size) but to build a lifestyle, pretty much from the ground up, where I can indulge myself (occasionally) without going back to my previous eating habits.

Because this DIET has been bloody hard work and I sure as hell don't want to ever do it again!

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Still keeping to my 26" jeans, but they are too tight for comfort. too many tasty things in the US, and over Xmas.

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Posted: 22 Mar 2013, 14:10
I'm not on a diet although everyone assumes I am because of my weight loss. I refuse to allow others dictate what goes in my mouth. My health is my responsibility. If they ask me if I'm on a diet, I tell them no, that I've simply cut out unhealthy foods out of my life.

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Posted: 22 Mar 2013, 16:50
I didn't say anything about my weightloss because I read this article:

When people asked me "are you on a diet?" I'd say "Nope, I'm just eating right and exercising."
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Posted: 22 Mar 2013, 21:28
I have told people that I am trying to loose weight, but find that the only person that really cares is me. When you keep family and friends around you that like or love you for who you are not what you weigh, they don't recognize that you might be overweight (sorry don't care for the words fat or obese). They support me and cheer me on, but tend not to dwell on it.
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Posted: 23 Mar 2013, 05:42
I often find myself not telling people just making the changes. For one, I have a mother-in-law that insists that you can lose weight if you just eat in moderation. This could be true for her. I have to cut carbs! Second, I am surrounded by skinning people and it is hard to talk to people about weight loss or what food plan works best for you when they can eat anything under the sun.

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Posted: 25 Mar 2013, 15:15
So true! My sister and Mom are all thin-healthy! I'm the fat one, and as far as they are concerned, losing weight should be SSSOOOOO easy. They constantly say stuff like "Oh, just lose 20 lbs!" Like it's something I could just throw out overnight if I wanted to.

I have'nt said anything to them, just because I know how this will end, WHEN I'm finnally where I should be. I'm going to go clothing shopping with them, and take great delight in picking out a size they assume will NOT fit! (And then proving them wrong!)

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Posted: 25 Mar 2013, 18:24
Your boundaries are all up to you. Even your sister and mom have no SAY over that. Take one day at a time. You'll get there.

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Posted: 25 Mar 2013, 19:31
Sorry that your dad was so unsupportive "foodie" doesn't mean you can't eat healthy!!! I've been a "foodie" I guess for 40 years--long before it was popular.. Love cooking and eating all types of foods--still do. Just ordered a pasta machine to learn how to make pasta. My friends and family think I'm nuts cause I buy cookbooks to read. I have also eaten healthy most of my life and have never been one for lots of fast foods,junk foods or deserts. You can eat awesome good food and lose weight. I gained my lbs due to the meds I was on for several years and a completed change in my job from very active to sitting at a desk so the lbs snuck on. Not cutting out any specific foods just watching the calories and exercise.
"The way we eat in America makes us sick, and if we change our diet--simply incrementally-- we will be healthier." Mark Bittman Food Matters


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Posted: 25 Mar 2013, 20:19
Don't go on a diet, just make a lifestyle change. I did and it's staying off.

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Posted: 25 Mar 2013, 20:22
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