Self-Conscious infront of your man

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marley609

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Posted: 08 Jan 2013, 13:07
I recently started dating a man who is in perfect shape and works out 2 hours a day. I am 185 with stretch marks all over my stomach and am constantly so self conscious around him. I am dieting, exercising, but I know it will take months or even a year to get to my goal weight. Any tips on how to be less self conscious about your body infront of your man?
Spacey47

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Posted: 08 Jan 2013, 13:46
If he didn't find you attractive he wouldn't be dating you do its in your head, he may well be into curvier women

There is nothing more unattractive than a woman going on about how she looks
Be confident and comfortable with how you look and he will to


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jonnybadback

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Posted: 08 Jan 2013, 15:51
I think what you need to remember is most people are self conscious of there appearance. There are people trying for the most ripped bodies and these can be the most self conscious and it might be down to simply wanting to be loved and are lacking somewhere else in their life.
You have a man who wants to be with you and that should make you very happy as he is with you for you. I can appreciate how you feel and like losing weight it will take time to be comfortable around him in all your glory. But thats is how it is between a loving couple, its learning to be comfortable. Take your time and doubt rush. Talk to him about how you feel in situations and how you can both help to give you confidence.
SherylInIowa

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Posted: 08 Jan 2013, 16:20
Negliges help too. You can look sexy, but not be completely covered.
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xskittlesx

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Posted: 08 Jan 2013, 17:04
My husband is only 58kgs, and is frankly scrawny, and I weigh 74kgs (over weight by about 14kgs). I too had the same dilema when we started dating, questioning how he found me attractive, not wanting to let him see me fully. You need to teach yourself to relax, and let it go. I now romp around home in my underwear with all my jiggly bits out, and he still adores me! Self confidence is really sexy too Very Happy
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Cthulhu

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Posted: 08 Jan 2013, 20:02
I'd curb the whole tell him how you feel thing. It perfectly OK to be shy or self conscious, many men find it very appealing. But no one wants to listen to the Debbie downer routine. The easiest way to please someone is to do what they ask Very Happy

“The last of the human freedoms is to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances.” ~Victor E. Frankl
selenap20

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Posted: 08 Jan 2013, 21:26
Ask him what he likes most about you physically and then put emphasis on it to draw attention to it. If its your breasts get a sexy bra or undies if hes a butt man, thigh highs for legs. It will get him going, giving you confidence and itll make you more comfortable knowing he loves this particular asset. Once you're feeling like a tiger you'll forget all about those stretch marks and a llittle extra weight and you can enjoy yourself as much as I'm sure he does Wink
redgirl1974

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Posted: 08 Jan 2013, 23:13
I with everything all said above but just want to add that you can try and work out with him and that might make you closer and boost your confidence level. Also, flameless candles! Dim the lights and make it romantic, the lower light will hide what every your worried about. I am chubby but cute and you are too!! Try glitter body spray, that worked for me! Also once it gets warmer you can tan those areas. Palmers makes a good oil for scars and marks but not sure what its called though. Remember you are beautiful inside and out an he is lucky to have you and you him. It gets easier with time!!



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