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Jessica_027

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Posted: 19 Nov 2012, 07:19
I thought this way a site where people can go and everyone can help one another out with there weight loss goal. I have received some very bad mail from a person on this site which I have reported. with the mail that they have sent me telling me that I have a eating disorder. Which I don't and never will have in my life that is a very bad thing to have and I've had my aunt die from it. If you are here to bash people then you, yourself need medical help. We are all here to be healthy and to lose weight and FYI i don't log in every single thing that I do eat during the day. I can only log in my coffee in the morning and if I can do lunch I will dinner id out of the question for me b/c I go home to my family and cook for us. I just ask do not send me a friend request just to be rude.
eKatherine

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Posted: 19 Nov 2012, 09:27
Some people are busybodies who are overly concerned about others. Don't worry about it.
Juls63

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Posted: 19 Nov 2012, 12:11
As a former anorexic (many many moons ago) and now utilizing the sight for a healthy weight loss I feel for you Jessica.....don't let them get to you - do what is best for you!!
Starting weight: 160
Short Goal 1: 145 Pedicure (take pic and measure)
Jessica_027

Joined: Nov 12
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Posted: 19 Nov 2012, 12:15
I'm so happy to see that there are such good people on this site thank you for your support, and keep up with your journey to reach your goal.
erika2633

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Posted: 19 Nov 2012, 13:01
Ok, this post is obviously written towards me. For the record, you are the one that sent ME a friend request, and this is what I sent you, in a private message so as not to try to call you out in public:
"Thanks for the buddy request, but looking through your journal really concerned me. Talking about not eating at all, only having a salad and lemon water all day or just three glasses of milk?!? That's not enough for your body to survive! If that's really all you're eating, I really think you need to find some help."

Since you were the one that sought me out as a buddy, I just couldn't bite my tongue. I understand that some people can't keep up with their diet calendar and don't log everything, but you were posting in your journal that you only had 3 glasses of milk in a day or just a salad and lemon water. You then responded back to me about a diet program that you are on, so to be honest, I thought I was being spam-buddied and de-friended you.

My goodness, it appears as though I am a magnet for drama.


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Sk1nnyfuture

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Posted: 19 Nov 2012, 13:11
Erica... Don't fret yourself... I KNOW you are a good encouraging buddie, who cares about people x

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Lindsay6384

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Posted: 19 Nov 2012, 13:17
From what I understand...the private message you sent was exactly what the title of this post is all about "helping one another." You obviously were concerned for her well-being and yet-she took it as "bashing."
“What you get by reaching your destination is not nearly as important as what you will become by reaching your destination.”
Rpalmst

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Posted: 19 Nov 2012, 13:19
You have done a lot of good out here for over a year E. Way to attack it head on and get the facts on the table. Not sure what the agenda of a post like this is...but you have a long track record out here that speaks for itself.
philanddeb

Joined: Oct 12
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Posted: 19 Nov 2012, 15:53
Jessica,

Sometimes help comes in ways that either hit your issue spot on, or could be disregarded as a miss. I think you're going to succeed well with your plan if it includes healthy meals. With that said, please don't see this post as a bash. Sometimes offerings are offensive when they touch a nerve, and with the loss you suffered from the death of your beloved Aunt, I believe you were hurt on a very deep level. Sometimes our reactions are dominated by such a loss. I think it's important to learn about what it is that gives us the nutrients we need to maintain a healthy weight loss and if I may be so bold, you might want to consider that Erika really cared enough about you to offer her opinion. A real buddy will be honest with you. It's up to you to examine the advice and choose whether it applies to you or not. Best to you always, Deb
"Time and pressure; strength and courage; and most of all things, God"
Jessica_027

Joined: Nov 12
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Posted: 20 Nov 2012, 09:11
At Erica I don't need your petty ass drama at all I am a nurse who works and don't need you stalking me keep what ever you think to yourself I don't have a f##king Darien.g disorder and I'm learning how to use this site but you clear don't know to leave people alone and are a bully in many ways. So I'll ask you just to leave me alone and I'm not worried about what you think so go and worry about yourself.
Ingria

Joined: Oct 11
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Posted: 20 Nov 2012, 09:52
Wow, we don't always know how to keep our emotions at bay while discussing dieting, but if the last post from Jessica is not abusive and is not bullying, I don't know what is. Jessica, if you want to be left alone, writing posts is not the best way to achieve it. Close your journal, don't buddy people and don't read their e-mails, and don't start any discussions that might not lead where you think they would lead. And you will be able to use this site in perfect anonimity in any way you want. Whatever people say or think cannot affect you, so please stop bullying others into thinking what you want us to think about you and other members. This is not a place for such kind of activity.

Erica, we all love you, you brought so much to FS. Stand tall and keep running and helping people. Please don't get discouraged.
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The first thing you lose on a diet is your sense of humor. ~ Author Unknown
It doesn’t matter what diet you follow… What matters is what makes you follow your diet. ~ Tom Venuto
erika2633

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Posted: 20 Nov 2012, 22:20
Ingria wrote:
Erica, we all love you, you brought so much to FS. Stand tall and keep running and helping people. Please don't get discouraged.


Thank you, Ingria. I appreciate it very much.


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