Rude people

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pam-u-la

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Posted: 10 Sep 2012, 12:29
How do you handle rude people? People who stare?
people who come across as bullies? or my personal favourite people with little to no respect for anyone.

I believe everyone at one time or another has been stared at, not that wow I admire you stare, but that stare that makes you want to shrink away.
I personally stare right back, and try my hardest to mirror their facial expressions.
Or those disrespectful people who will openly point at you or you hear them whisper something rude.
"those people" are the ones I wish I had the courage to go up and say excuse me? If you want to talk about me make sure I am out of earshot.

This post is curtousy of a rude person who has made me a tiny bit upset.
sarah_cook20...

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Posted: 10 Sep 2012, 12:44
This is exactly what my last journal entry is about. I can't stand rudeness. It is my number 1 pet peeve! Bullies hurt my feelings but I try to never stoop down to their level. I always keep in mind treating other people the way I would like to be treated, and even those who treat me as less than anyone should ever be treated, I try to politely put them in their places Smile
jessabridge4...

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Posted: 10 Sep 2012, 13:45
I do one of two things - get upset and express how their rude behavior is hurting/bothering me, which is sometimes rude, too. Or I fall apart and yell "you're rude!". This is usually followed by me bursting into tears. I can not STAND rude behavior, or basic lack of manners. Don't talk with your mouth full. Don't use your phone in a movie theater. Try not to interrupt a conversation. Use excuse me and acknowledge an “excuse me” if said to you. These are some of the BASIC manners for a polite society. I try to let most slide, but it does make me steam!
Jessa
Snow833

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Posted: 10 Sep 2012, 14:30
One day I was walking down a street and a guy came up to me and told me: "You are too pale" I just thought: well at least he didn't tell me that I'm fat. I don't understand people making rude remarks to strangers on the street. They have problems with their own looks I think so they make other people miserable to make them selfs feel better.
triaby

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Posted: 10 Sep 2012, 14:40
Some people are just not worth the effort of fighting with....shrug and walk away.... Smile

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LaraStar

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Posted: 10 Sep 2012, 15:33
These people have their own insecurities. They use these remarks to make themselves feel better and distract from their own rubbish lives. It's rather sad. Simply ignore them, that shows them what a waste of time their behaviour is.

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Achabacha

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Posted: 10 Sep 2012, 17:49
I try to ignore bullies. Its not worth it to waste time on such rude people. I just smile and walk my way ahead. No matter what they talk behind me. I hardly notice. If I try to be what they are then it will be my loss only. Not only it will be waste of time and energy but also it will affect my mental health. So better to keep these bullies / rude people out of your mind by not responding to them.
Jannabelle

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Posted: 10 Sep 2012, 18:01
You know what really throws off people like that? A big old smile! Gets them every time. Try it! Makes them feel really small for being rude when you show them an act of kindness.
riocaz

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Posted: 10 Sep 2012, 18:18
If they are rude to me, I'll usually ignore them (I don't always succeed). If they are rude to someone else I know I have a bad tendency to jump to their defence, even when sure as heck don't need me to defend them.

42" jeans(25/01/2013) 40"(28/02/2013) 38"(20/03/2013) 36"(25/05/2013)
Down from 60" waist jeans since June 21st 2012.

Still keeping to my 26" jeans, but they are too tight for comfort. too many tasty things in the US, and over Xmas.

Onwards and Downwards! Smile
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bigpete137

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Posted: 10 Sep 2012, 18:41
asfar as school goes i never really been bullied i was more like a popular guy, even the bullies hanged around with me, but i never really took their approach i never bullied anyone

asfar as randoms on the street
ive always been looked at even when i wasnt as fat as i am right now
with that being said i kinda got used to it so i doesnt really care about it even tho now im fat.
i think sometimes its just funny when i enter a bus, train or just a room, its like all eyes on me for minutes, sometimes i actually enjoy it hahahahahaha, now thats weird.
also i never had a stranger come at me with rude remarks, yet. maybe sometime in the future.
Eringiffin

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Posted: 10 Sep 2012, 19:11
I haven't really been picked on since high school and never for my weight. I am not sure how I would handle it, *especially* after having lost a lot of weight and then to be singled out for being chubby, or some such. I think I would be very incensed by the irony and injustice, hehe.
Terrylm1

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Posted: 11 Sep 2012, 07:28
It depends on the situation as to how I'll respond. There are many different variables, but I'll either ignore the situation, or I'll "kill it with kindness".

In instances where people stare at me, the first time I catch their eye I'll just give them a smile, maybe say hello, and then continue doing what I'm doing. It's been my experience that sometimes people are just thinking, and when they think they "people watch". It's a little disconcerting to the ones being watched, but I can understand they're just trying to sort some things out.

If I can still feel them staring at me, I'll purposely turn and make eye contact again and I'll ask if they're okay, or if there is something I can help them with. They'll usually reply with a no or that they don't need anything, and then I will keep pursuing the matter and just say, are you sure you don't need something. I'm happy help. It's been my experience that they get frustrated or flustered with me keeping on asking if they need something and they quickly turn away. The only instance where this hasn't worked was when a pervy guy was checking me out. I actually had to call security on him (he was a contractor working on the building I worked in.)
Terrylm1

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Posted: 11 Sep 2012, 07:32
riocaz wrote:
If they are rude to me, I'll usually ignore them (I don't always succeed). If they are rude to someone else I know I have a bad tendency to jump to their defence, even when sure as heck don't need me to defend them.


I'm the same exact way. I don't even think about it, it's instinct.
Terrylm1

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Posted: 11 Sep 2012, 07:37
Snow833 wrote:
One day I was walking down a street and a guy came up to me and told me: "You are too pale" I just thought: well at least he didn't tell me that I'm fat. I don't understand people making rude remarks to strangers on the street. They have problems with their own looks I think so they make other people miserable to make them selfs feel better.


Today's generation has been taught that sarcasm and harsh criticism is funny, without concern to the feelings of others. It's one thing when you're amongst friends and poke jabs at one another, but it's another thing when you do it to strangers who don't know you or your sense of humor. That's something that I think the younger generation doesn't understand...

I had something similar like this happen to me. I just raised my eyebrow, looked at him like he was stupid, and said "Okaayyy". And then just keep looking at them like they're stupid. And I don't mean a harsh look, but a bemused look. Maybe laugh a little. Often times they'll laugh too and that starts a conversation.
pam-u-la

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Posted: 11 Sep 2012, 07:50
I forgot to tell everyone something pretty funny... I was once told "your fat" and I replied with " I maybe fat but your butt ugly and I can diet!" lol
Or the other rather rude comment was: "oh you'd be so much prettier if you lost weight!" now I see these people and they are larger then I was.. thank goodness I can bite my tongue and not repeat what they once said to me... Smile
riocaz

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Posted: 11 Sep 2012, 08:43
Terrylm1 wrote:
Today's generation has been taught that sarcasm and harsh criticism is funny, without concern to the feelings of others. It's one thing when you're amongst friends and poke jabs at one another, but it's another thing when you do it to strangers who don't know you or your sense of humor. That's something that I think the younger generation doesn't understand...


See random stupid comments like that I can shake off. What really gets me going is when a random (almost always IME much older so 70s/80s) person in the street starts in on how you can XXXX about your weight.

Invariably if you tell them (as politely as possible) to mind their own business you will get told to respect their experience (At which point I either lose it, or walk away)...

If you aren't me, aren't a doctor with access to my history, then making random comments like "eat less burgers" really doesn't help. And the Pseudo medical claptrap you've picked up off the TV is still claptrap even from you.

(That said though the "eat less burgers" one was kinda funny... Mainly because I eat maybe 2 a year tops, and my response of "Check... I'll halve my intake to 1 a year then, I'll be svelte in no time!" completely flummoxed them long enough for the bus to arrive and me to get away without being rude).

42" jeans(25/01/2013) 40"(28/02/2013) 38"(20/03/2013) 36"(25/05/2013)
Down from 60" waist jeans since June 21st 2012.

Still keeping to my 26" jeans, but they are too tight for comfort. too many tasty things in the US, and over Xmas.

Onwards and Downwards! Smile
http://www.menu52.com/
K.K12

Joined: Sep 12
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Posted: 11 Sep 2012, 12:39
Ive had complete strangers tell me i would look better if i lost some weight, Ive also had complete strangers compliment me on my figure.

You cannot let what other people think dictate your life. ITS YOUR LIFE. Stay positive, even though you may not be where you want to be... you are on your way!

There will always be rude people in life. the world is not perfect... dont let it get you down =) The energy you waste on being upset about what others may be thinking could be used for more constructive purposes.

best of luck.
sugar is the devil XD
QuirkyNat

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Posted: 11 Sep 2012, 13:36
OH my have I got stories about rudeness. I've had strangers tell me the meanest things to my face and behind my back in my lifetime. It's given me some serious issues, I know. The staring thing- meh, I can ignore most of the time, I've learned to be oblivious. If I've learned anything, it's that people that take up issue with me have problems of their own that they are projecting- whether it be hate, or fear, or ignorance. It's frustrating, but letting it go is often the best option.
Terrylm1

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Posted: 12 Sep 2012, 08:02
[quote=K.K12]
You cannot let what other people think dictate your life. ITS YOUR LIFE. Stay positive, even though you may not be where you want to be... you are on your way!
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This is VERY true. EVERYONE has different opinions, so by basing your self worth on the opinions of other people, your setting yourself up for constant misery, because you'll never be happy living like that. Look how you want to look and be happy with you!
angel_face01...

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Posted: 13 Sep 2012, 03:56
I'm a fire cracker, mostly due to my bi-polar, and mood swings, so like always I stand my ground and say something right back to them. One time I had on a gray t shirt, some woman said out loud to everyone "Watch out theres a hippo coming though" and me being in a already bad mood answered her back "dont talk about yourself like that" lol. Sorry about my typing skills today, they are normally better.
No one said it would be easy....But it's sure gonna be worth it!



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