Are you a Positive or Negative Dieter

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Posted: 14 Aug 2012, 05:12
One thing I have learned about life and dieting is that you have to keep a healthy, positive attitude otherwise you are probably going to fail again.

You own your life. You are in control even though you may feel that you are not. "Feelings" are not the reality.....but they play a big part in creating our reality.

I try to read as many posts a day that I can. If I start to read one that is "negative" I stop immediatley. Poor me, poor me, I have this problem and that problem. Poor me I need attention.

I am a big believer in the law of attraction. What we put out in life is what we get back. The more we focus on how bad things are the more they will stay the same.

Every time I started to diet I would tell myself how hard this is, its not working, I just can't lose the weight. But then I realized how I was blocking that positive energy I needed. How stupid of me...of course I can lose the weight. I can do anything I set my mind to. I don't need to spend the rest of my life over weight. I know what I need to do I just need to do it.

As soon as I made that decision the pounds started to drop. 7 pounds down so far this summer!!!

I will meet my goal, I will be wearing those smaller size clothes, I will be healthier and I will be stronger and I will live longer. Isn't life great!!


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Posted: 14 Aug 2012, 06:11
I understand some of your logic here, but "feelings are not a reality..."???? The pain of losing someone, the joy at seeing someone you love...not real???

I support my friends through good days and bad days, because that is just if any of my buddies are having a bad day, please feel free to express it in your journal all you want - sometimes just venting it in writing helps lift your mood, sometimes others can relate to it and it helps them get out of a negative by discussing it with is by no means an attention seeking exercise.

The law of attraction is a wonderful thing....I have met some of the most incredible people through this site and they have helped me in so many way....yes life is great and sometimes it's sh!t, but mostly great!


I actually have a body like Cindy Crawford, I just keep it well covered to protect it!

Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.

♥ I am the captain of my soul ♥

Take care of your body. It's the only place you have to live.

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Posted: 14 Aug 2012, 06:17
happihart wrote:
If I start to read one that is "negative" I stop immediatley.

If I start to read one that is critical...I stop too!
Live, Love, Laugh ...make each day memorable and enjoy the journey.

The bar noted below, does not tell the entire story!

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Posted: 14 Aug 2012, 07:45
Here here to the law of attraction. I choose to stay positive. Hopefully I can stay positive and at the same time be supportive!

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Posted: 14 Aug 2012, 09:57
I am not saying feelings are not real, I am saying that they are not reality.

Just because, for whatever reason, you may feel you do not deserve good things does that make it true, does it make it real?


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Posted: 15 Aug 2012, 02:39
I'm with you. A positive approach makes pretty much everything possible.
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Posted: 15 Aug 2012, 03:34
From Live How Emotions affect your life

Your emotions are a daily part of life that lets you know how you are feeling. They can range from pure joy to depression.

They are broken down into positive feelings and negative feelings. Your positive feelings are happiness, love, excitement, enthusiasm, passion and any other emotion that makes you feel good.

Your negative feelings are sadness, anger, despair, jealousy, worry and anything else that makes you feel bad.

It's very important to understand that in order to achieve what you want in life you have to stick to the positive feeling ones.

You are born with an emotional guidance system which comes from within. This guidance from within comes from your

source energy. Following this guidance system will allow you to live the life you desire.

When you are feeling good from that state of being, you are giving off a vibration that allows you to create what you are desiring at that time.

When you hold on to these good feelings, you are in a state of becoming more aware of who you really are.

When you feel happy, you attract more and more things into your life that make you happy.

You have to remember that you must be in a good feeling state in order to attract what you want-or it will not happen.

For example, let's assume you are feeling worried (a negative feeling) about not having enough money. From that state of being, you cannot attract more money.

You can wish anything all day long, but if you are in a negative state of being when you are asking, it will not come to you.

The same principle goes for when you are feeling unloved: you cannot attract loving relationships.

Knowing this information can help you tremendously in your daily life.

Pay attention to the emotions you are feeling and remember that you are attracting into your life from that state of being.

It's not enough to think positive you have to feel positive. With practice, you can shift how you are feeling throughout your day.

Meditating first thing in the morning can help you start your day in a positive way. Practice this daily. If you don't have time in the morning, try thinking good feeling thoughts during your morning shower.

Bath time is also a good time to focus on what you are grateful for. Getting your day started this way it a great way to stay focused on what is important to you.


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Posted: 15 Aug 2012, 03:40
More simply put, if you believe in God, trust Him. Let it go, turn it over, give it to God and then believe that All Things Are Possible.

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Posted: 15 Aug 2012, 07:44
I agree with you happihart and this is the view that I am taking right now. I have stopped beating up myself about how I look and am just working on being more disciplined little by little.

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Posted: 15 Aug 2012, 08:05

Being positive & staying focused is bonus, but life isn't always that kind to folk. Folk handle the ups 'n' downs in what ever way that they feel works for them. I have yet to come across two people that are the same, but saying that I have met many mindless automaton.

Remember - ‘Love your neighbour as yourself.’

Cymru Rydd

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Posted: 15 Aug 2012, 10:05
I'm naturally positive, but I have my cranky days days where it's just not happenin. If you're one who can easily be positive and keep that game-face on, that's awesome! But for those who have a harder time, vent it out regardless. It's better to get it out then to hold in the negativity and let it fester. But in the end remember, it could be a whole lot worse! Glass half full or glass helf empty? It doesnt matter, it's the same amount of fl oz!
Stay the course, stay on point, stay motivated, dedicated, and you won't be stopped. Discipline. Perseverance. Focus. Dig deep and you will be victorious.

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Posted: 15 Aug 2012, 10:19
I like this post because you bring up important points about our emotional states and how they impact our eating. I am mostly a positive person with some cranky days, too...BUT the most valuable part I am able to do is separate my emotions from the food! Many people eat to comfort, eat to celebrate, eat out of anger, boredom, fear, guilt, etc. Accepting that we feel what we feel, and learning to manage those emotions appropriately is essential. Food does not play a role in emotional expression in most healthy people; and to be succesful at weight loss and maintenance, we want to achieve the same attribute.
If it is important to you, you will find a way. If not, you will find an excuse.

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Posted: 15 Aug 2012, 10:40
Great points! When I feel a flood of emotions, I tend to turn to working out as my vent. It's a win-win situation- I expel all that bottled up frustration and energy and get in shape at the same time. Then afterwards I feel better inside and out. And when that still doesnt work, well, I'll be honest, I'll hang out with my buddy Jameson, get a little dehydrated, and wake up leaner in the morn. Keke.
Stay the course, stay on point, stay motivated, dedicated, and you won't be stopped. Discipline. Perseverance. Focus. Dig deep and you will be victorious.

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Posted: 15 Aug 2012, 10:50
CJT1217 wrote:
I'll hang out with my buddy Jameson, get a little dehydrated, and wake up leaner in the morn. Keke.

Roger that! Though it's Lagavulin for me. (but I'll gladly accept any good single malt or Irish whiskys! Cool
dx w/inoperable brain tumor 9/12, so nutrition is vital. Dedicated to slaying this beast.
Approaching 4 yrs post diagnosis this 9/16, slow & steady boy, slow & steady.

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Posted: 15 Aug 2012, 11:15
Interesting where this post has headed. For the record I like a Tanqueray martini with 2 olives, but not too often. Wink Emotions pretty much fuel my entire existence. Hubby's life is ruled by logic. I am quite chubby (ok, fat) while he is a stick figure. Are these two things related? I believe they are. When he is upset he meditates and listens to music. I eat carbs. Emotions are real and they do influence what we do. Praying comforts me when I remember lost loved ones, but losing this weight is on me.

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Posted: 15 Aug 2012, 11:35
I agree 100%. If you live in a state of perpetual helplessness and hopelessness, you not only give up opportunities for joy and growth, but you won't recognize when opportunities do happen. I am not a religious person, but I have learned that negativity isn't helpful in any way, and wishing things were different won't make them different, only action can do that.

Please realize that I am not judging anyone based on their feelings, or how they express them (as long as it does no harm to others) I believe that everyone has a right to their emotions, and it isn't wrong to feel hopeless or angry or hurt, but it simply doesn't serve you in life. If you really want to make a change, you need to let go of the negativity, and deal with the real issues that are causing it. Some emotions, like grief, are unavoidable at times, and can be cathartic and adaptive, but self-pity, bitterness and hopelessness can't possibly be helpful.


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Posted: 16 Aug 2012, 22:19
Emotions are neither good nor bad...they just ARE. The so-called "negative" emotions can be harnessed in order to do much good in your life...
Every day I wake up breathing is a good day!

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Posted: 17 Aug 2012, 00:21
Here's the thing... Try to be as kind to yourself as you are to your dearest friends!... None of us are going to be on the perfect diet 24/7 There will be times we don't loose when we think we should be loosing... but we all need to learn to treat ourselves with kindness and compassion and understanding... Honor how you feel... own it... it's better to have a good cry now and then rather than hold it in... holding in emotions causes dis-ease... the key is to find good healthy outlets for all those emotions so you CAN bring your energy back up into the positive..

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Posted: 17 Aug 2012, 05:08
There is an old saying ' a little of what you like does you good' . I love chocolate and biscuits, so i don't cut them completely out but i don't shove them down like i used to. Instead of 3 biscuits i have one. instead of a bar of choco i have half. Stay positive don't cut them out completely and foot feel guilty. Sure they are not good for you but in the big scheme they are not bad either. Everything in moderation, another old saying which holds true. Food is to be enjoyed its only the amount which is bad. eat less but take your time eating it. Present it on a plate that looks nice instead of slopping it on change a 12" plate for a 10th" one as you won't see the difference as the vision is changed in your brain. Stay positive if you eat too much one day it doesn't make it s bad day. It was just a filling day.

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Posted: 17 Aug 2012, 06:18
Yes some journals are negative.. as are some posts.. perhaps the poor, poor pitiful me individual is reaching out, in a state of mental instability. Perhaps by commenting or responding to these posts helps the individual see that life can be better.
However we all have a choice of what we do and don't read or participate in.
Anybody who is excessively positive all the time is probably using it as a cover up to the real problems..
It takes more strength to admit your weakness and ask for help, then it does to pretend that life is great 100% of the time..

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