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Posted: 26 Jan 2012, 14:43
Okay, my birthday is in a few weeks and my husband wants to go out for dinner, dessert, some drinks. If I am careful all day before and after this event. Do you think it would be awful if I let my guard down for one meal? I don't want to have the event ruined because I have to watch calories. I mean I can make smart choices, but not be as cautious about it. Good idea? Bad? Help.

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Posted: 26 Jan 2012, 14:45
Do it! You need to indulge once in a while, and a b-day is a perfect excuse! My biggest problem is the recovery-and not falling into old habit afterwards. If I were you I would have a game plan for the next day, so that you can feel guilt free about the dinner and dessert and be right back on track! Good luck and happy birthday in advance!
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Posted: 26 Jan 2012, 14:46
I think the secret to long-term weight loss success is to make it fit in with your life. So enjoy your birthday! Treat yourself to a few splurges without going overboard and then get back to it the next day. Deprivation gets you nowhere! Besides, it will probably make it easy to stay on track over the next few weeks knowing that you have this special ocassion to look forward to Smile Some people even notice that a spurge day helps their weight loss.
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Posted: 26 Jan 2012, 14:51
Well if I figure out where we're going and/or doing, I could somewhat plan ahead for the occasion as well. Which I think will help. I could splurge a bit but as I said, try and make descent choices. And your definitely right gnat824, it has helped knowing that I have something to look forward to! Thanks for the opinions and thanks Lindsay6384 for the advanced birthday wishes!

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Posted: 26 Jan 2012, 14:51
My birthday is this Sunday and we are going out to celebrate on Saturday night, so I'm planning on having a KingKeld indulgence night.. but I will be a good girl during the day so that I don't get too out-of-control.. Smile

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Posted: 27 Jan 2012, 12:34
Do not deprive yourself. Eat what you want however pack half of it up and take it home. In fact so you do not overindulge ask your server for a box when the meal arrives or if they could box up half before bringing it to the table. If you don't want to do that it is no big deal but look for menu items that say baked or grilled, ask the server for the chef to not use butter or oil whenever possible. I was in Las Vegas for my birthday this month, drinking eatting and walking a ton, but I came back got on the scale and LOST weight! You can do it too! Good Luck and Happy Birthday!

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Posted: 27 Jan 2012, 13:25
My vote is for enjoying yourself. But plan the next days meals ahead of time so you know you get back on track right away. I am celebrating a friends birthday tomorrow and that's my plan. It's good to confuse your body from time to time it helps with the weight loss Smile
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Posted: 27 Jan 2012, 13:48
I also like to look for other ways to celebrate, not just with food and drinks. Like getting a massage, tickets to a show, buying some beautiful flowers, unlimited time to browse in a bookstore - or something along those lines, and if I do that on the day of celebration, then I can tone down the food/drink, I don't have the overbearing "I deserve everything on the menu" feeling since I treated myself in other ways as well.

Also, I find that nice restaurants with their lovely atmospheres can lower my guard, and next thing I know I am ordering yet another glass of wine and creme brule. Once in a while that is okay.

Since it is your birthday, if this invitation by your hubby stresses you out, maybe you can request that he cook you a special dinner at home and that way you can have a better contol over the menu and how much you eat. It's nice that he wants to take you out for drinks, meal, dessert, but it's your birthday and it makes sense to me that you get to choose how you would like to celebrate. If you like the idea of going to a restaurant, then go and enjoy yourself.

Whatever you decide - have a wonderful birthday!
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Posted: 27 Jan 2012, 15:39
I agree with the first few posts - enjoy yourself! I plan ahead my cheat days. Valentines day, anniversary, birthdays, Super Bowl - days where I can TRULY enjoy myself and my company, along with a few drinks, and not worry about a THING. Have fun!

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Posted: 27 Jan 2012, 15:54
I don't agree w/ any of them. I just read your profile and you neglected to say you have Graves' Disease, and have had your Thyroid removed. Noted in this profile is a commitment to reduce Sugars and Carbs.

Then I read today's journal entry. You are struggling. And I really want to see you succeed. I am not writing this to call you out, or embarrass you or make you feel bad.

But you put yourself out there and said this is what YOU WANT for YOU. To lose weight, to get back into shape, to get healthy.

Every day cannot be a special treat, or an occasion to indulge. You won't get anywhere that way. Of course planning ahead for your birthday is a different story. And only you can choose to find a happy medium between enjoying that with your honey, and staying within some limits that you can feel good about the next day ...

Perhaps you will do better to focus on getting some 'legs' under the plan you have started... and setting some personal goals to reach by this b-day celebration. Staying on target w/ your eating plan, or being consistent w/ your activity and workouts... but something has to give. Or you will simply see no progress and get frustrated.

Keep reaching out here on fatsecret... there at a lot of folks here able to help you get this up and working for you! Good luck.
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Posted: 27 Jan 2012, 16:57
I'm also going to go with the negative... Don't take this the wrong way and I'm not pointing fingers at anyone.

Life is about living and enjoying moments - not about food and eating. I would really try to find some new activity for your new lifestyle that does not involve overindulging on food and drink. Why? Many people go way over during "celebrations" or "holidays" and find it very difficult to get back on track. All you have to do is look at all the posts dated 1/15 and beyond-- over ate over the holidays and gained 10 lbs, got to get back to work... There are tons of those posts. I strongly feel you need to learn to deal with celebrations, holidays, and stressful times if you are going to truly be successful.

Why not find an active thing you can do, so that you burn more calories - go dancing or something Smile
Maybe try a new healthy restaurant.
Or try a new healthy dish.
Load up on veggies and proteins and maybe split a dessert. Do you really need to have lots of alcohol or would 1-2 drinks be satisfying. Maybe save the overindulgences for after you reach your goal. Of course, you still have to be able to get back on track.

It's up to you. I took this stand over the Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays and I don't feel I missed out on anything. I was able to continue with my weight loss efforts and actually lost instead of gained over the holidays. No regrets that way. But to each their own. By all means, do what you feel you can live with and what brings you joy. It's all about being successful, one way or the other.

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