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shellysue55

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Posted: 27 Nov 2011, 22:17
Who else is doing this alone? I have no live person to relate to with my weight loss challenges and victories. Husband just jokes at me and most of my friends don't have a weight issue. I feel so alone most days and wish I had someone to talk to every day.
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sweetsorrow

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Posted: 27 Nov 2011, 22:53
You are not alone Shelly, now do you need an help to do it. The only person who can motivate yourself and keep it going it you. use you husbands jokes as motivation and I bet in the end, even though you won't do it because you are probably to nice to him, you will make fun of him. You can talk to me any time you want. I feel awful this week because of how badly I've eaten and how I've hardly goen to the gym because now I am sick... You need a boost and then you will feel the urge to want to go and workout and eat right everyday because you will feel so much better period.
kingkeld

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Posted: 28 Nov 2011, 02:00
It can be tough to go through a weight loss journey without support. One thing that is AMAZING about FatSecret is the buddy system. Get going on getting some buddies, start journaling, be active on the website and in no time you will not feel so alone. I'll be happy to be your buddy. Smile

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Sheryl10

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Posted: 28 Nov 2011, 06:09
Why do you think your husband makes jokes? Is he overweight and feeling self-conscious about it? Is he worried about you leaving him behind if you improve yourself? Maybe he could be better support with some reassurance from you??

And I agree, if you're not finding support elsewhere, FS is good!

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gnat824

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Posted: 28 Nov 2011, 08:20
It's tough to not have the support, but don't let that hold you back! No excuses! Kingkeld gave some excellent advice for being more engaged and I suspect that Sheryl is right on with her assessment of your husband. If you can find some way to shift his thinking, that will probably help you quite a bit in the long run - the last thing you need is someone unconsciously (or consciously) sabotaging your efforts to be healthier!
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shmiller

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Posted: 28 Nov 2011, 08:39
I've got great support at home from my husband and daughters, but not from my extended family. My approach has been to keep on keepin' on, and as I've been successful, it's been delicious irony. You can do it. And no matter how much support you have from anyone anyway, in the end, it really is a solo mission for everyone. Only you can make good food choices and portion choices. Only you can decide to workout and give it your all.
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pam-u-la

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Posted: 29 Nov 2011, 06:27
Like replies before this, being on this site is a really good start. There are many wonderful and support of people on here. The act of reaching out shows that you are motivated.
As for your husband... if he jokes about all this, then don't get mad just get even.. watch his laughing jaw drop when you look absolutely fabulous in a kick ass outfit...
You can and will do this, do not let anyone or anything stop you..
People are here to help.. all you have to do is reach out.. GOOD LUCK
ntaylor2011

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Posted: 29 Nov 2011, 07:44
It may feel as if you're alone if you feel like you're not recieving support from the ones around you. The good news is that you really aren't alone at all. There are many people on this site that support you in your weight loss journey. I feel like I am doing this all by myself until I found this website at 10 pm last night and that was enough for me to feel encouraged that there are people in the same boat as me! You CAN do it! Smile
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Posted: 29 Nov 2011, 08:05
One of the things I like about FatSecret is there are so many people on the same journey as you and I. We may be at different stages of our program, and following different regimens, but we can all support each other to our successes and through our setbacks. Like many of the people here, I also say, if I can do it, you can do it. The tools are here for you.
shellysue55

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Posted: 30 Nov 2011, 19:55
Sheryl10 wrote:
Why do you think your husband makes jokes? Is he overweight and feeling self-conscious about it? Is he worried about you leaving him behind if you improve yourself? Maybe he could be better support with some reassurance from you??

And I agree, if you're not finding support elsewhere, FS is good!


My husband has a very physical job and says to me I need to work harder on something productive instead of exercise or working out. I should get paid to exercise. so....I am going to... my goal is to become a fitness instructor and life coach. Then I can say see I'm getting paid to exercise. I was thinking a long time on what makes me the happiest. When I was the happiest in my life. It was when I rushed to the gym to get me workout in for the day. Spend hours at the gym on the weekend cause I loved every minute. Then I got married and he didn't like me going to the gym after work cause it took time away from him and it cost money. Back to the first point getting paid to exercise. We tried going together; he complained and wanted to be so competitive, it ruined my time there too. I gave it up being the young good wife.......... 7 years later and 2 kids; I've learned a bit more about life. I can not change his view and attitude, I can change me and continue to love him in the process. It just hurts me when I can't talk to one of my best friends about this part of my life. There is a lot fo support and buddies online, however it's not the same as talking to someone verbally. Thanks everyone for the encouragement. I'm begining this weight loss journey different than any other in the past attempts. Not just diet and exercise, but mental awareness of who I want to become.
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Marcyja1

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Posted: 07 Dec 2011, 18:20
Hi, all. I am new to this group and new to caring about what I eat in general. I didn't start gaining weight per se until after 3 kids and entering my 40's. Then, every year it seems like I put on a couple of pounds and at 51, I woke up and realized I had gained twenty pounds. I am not comfortable at this size AND I recently remarried and my husband is not only shorter that I am (I am ok with that!) but because he works in a third-world county on projects, he has lost so much weight that now he weighs less than I do! That is not all right with me. I realize I don't have as much weight to lose as some others do and kudos to all for working on improvements and helping yourself get healthy. BUT, I too am alone on this lifestyle change. My problem is really the opposite in some ways. My husband says I look wonderful, he loves the way I look, I don't need to lose weight, I'm perfect, etc, etc, etc. WHile I appreciate it, I have to disagree. So, it makes it harder for me when he returns home and because he has gone without American food for so long, he wants to go eat things that I don't want to eat! So...I'm kind of alone in reverse!
MaggieMoo2

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Posted: 08 Dec 2011, 16:00
shellysue55 wrote:
Who else is doing this alone? I have no live person to relate to with my weight loss challenges and victories. Husband just jokes at me and most of my friends don't have a weight issue. I feel so alone most days and wish I had someone to talk to every day.


Oh yes Shelly... Yours trully is doing it alone. I come from a long line of skinny people; in my family. Hence me looking so obese to them. Same with my friends. They are all quite trim, taught and terrific, whilst yours truly worksout, watches what she eats, drinks half of Melbourne's water. Ha ha.

No luv, you are not the only one. Myself and probably many others here, are on their own. I have to say this site is my workout buddy. Everyone here is just like me. All counting calories, trying to eat right, walk, run or whatever. But we're here. And that's the main thing.

Oh feel free to add me as your buddy. We can console each other via pm, if you like. Lately I have been signing off my pm's as "ok now let's go get a drink of water." Smile

Ciao for now... And yes... Let's get a glass of water. Smile
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Lexie37

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Posted: 08 Dec 2011, 18:09
Shelly,

I know what you mean. Though my live-in bf doesn't joke around about it and tries to push me to do the right thing, he has a HORRIBLE habit of eating things that I really really want, right in front of me. Cake, ice cream, etc... None of my friends have weight issues either. I'm behind you and support your efforts 100%! GO GET EM' SHELLY!!!
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kitty-eared-...

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Posted: 10 Dec 2011, 20:09
Kudos, first and foremost, for taking your hubby's stern words about the gym and using it as motivation to reach your dreams of becoming a fitness instructor.

I don't think saying I'm alone in my dieting is quite the right term, so much as my boyfriend is apathetic about it. He tells me he loves the way I am, but wants me to happy, too. While he doesn't tease me about what I eat or don't eat, he does indulge in chips and eating out on his lunch breaks while I'm constantly monitoring my calories. I don't mind that he eats the way he wants, because I certainly wouldn't want to have to eat what he does just because he wants to. It just takes a little more willpower on my part to say that those couple chips aren't worth the little bit of satisfaction in calories Wink

Hang tough, you'll get there.
Dani_Suave

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Posted: 11 Dec 2011, 00:50
I feel your pain! I'm the heaviest person in my life. I'm bigger than everyone at my workplace and in my family. Luckily I don't face the derision of anyone I care about but I lack the support of anyone in particular too.

I'm depending on help from above when my strength fails. I've been good so far but we're still in week 1! I have faith that this is achievable and that I can live life in a healthy body. You can too!

I'm thankful that I have found this site because so many people have reached out in a very short amount of time. Thank you all for believing that what we're doing is possible and right, no matter what path we are following to get there.
"I choose to be on the positive side because negativity sucks the color from my world - and I like my rainbows." Me
MaggieMoo2

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Posted: 11 Dec 2011, 02:18
So glad you joined us Dani_Suave... Go for gold with us. Smile
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shellysue55

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Posted: 11 Dec 2011, 13:22
ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! My fed up attitude has kicked me into gear to really look at what I truly want in life. I have to work hard and will see the efforts, 5 lbs in 10 days! I have not seen that in a long time. Thank you to myself for getting up in the morning and busting my ass with the workouts. I am not giving up and all of you show great support in my efforts. thank you thank you thank you!!!
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MaggieMoo2

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Posted: 11 Dec 2011, 18:26
Shellysue55 you go girl. Smile Smile
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Kphillips200...

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Posted: 29 Dec 2011, 12:54
I completely understand where you are coming from. My best friend persuaded me to start going to the gym. Then just a short few months she dropped me like a hot potato (she needed to lose far more than me!)and decided the party life was more her style. Then I started a new job that keeps me away 12 hours a day! I am determined not to quit on myself! I get home from the gym after being up 15 hours and sometimes my husband cooks....and knowing I am trying to live healthier and lose weight. Inevitably he will cook something that isn't on either of our diets! He has high blood pressure, diabetic and has cirrhosis of the liver, so he is on a special diet himself....it’s just a constant battle, but we have to put ourselves first in this case!
ps. He refers to me as the "Food Nazi" ! lol, I accept that title!
GOOD LUCK!
Karen
“I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
Dani_Suave

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Posted: 29 Dec 2011, 13:29
Food Nazi - LOVE IT. My grandma keeps saying 'when I get my brain back' things will be better. She cracks me up. 15 lbs in 4 weeks says I'm right where I should be. Its a daily choice yes but it is making a huge impact on the rest of my life...and my daughters.
"I choose to be on the positive side because negativity sucks the color from my world - and I like my rainbows." Me



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