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kingkeld

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Posted: 02 Nov 2011, 08:57
I think it's about time I open a new can of worms. Smile

Here goes:

Before this weight loss journey, I had one earlier attempt with FatSecret. I call it my false start, because I took off nicely, lost about 10 kgs, lost interest and gained it back. It wasn't until a couple of talks with my doctor that I realized that I needed to do this, do it seriously and finish the project.

When I told him about my false start, he asked me why I quit. I had many reasons, but at each one he just simply swept it off the table, saying "That's just an excuse." Then he gave me a reason why it was a bad excuse.

This is something I've been thinking about a lot lately. We have all made excuses in the past. We still do. I still do. If you ask me when I last went to the gym, and why I haven't gone since, I will have a million excuses. So I am in no way saying I am perfect in this.

However, we have so many excuses to NOT diet and exercise.

We have already established, that we NEED to diet - for many of us, it's a matter of life and death. Still, we delay - over and over again.

"My girl dumped me". Well, start looking better to find a new girl.

"I'm really busy". It's a matter of priorities. How much time do you spend on things less important than your survival?

"I don't have time in the morning". Well, wake up 30 minutes earlier.

And so on.

What is it that makes us do this, when we at the same time know that if we DO diet and exercise as we're supposed to (and have decided to do - otherwise we wouldn't be logged on to FatSecret right now!) then we'll feel so much better both right now and for the rest of our lives.

Why do we destroy it for ourselves?

Discuss! Smile


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"Losing weight is never about eating as little as possible"
- Kingkeld.
"You wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.
― Eleanor Roosevelt
"Do. Or do not. There is no trying."
- Master Yoda.

I went from morbidly obese to being the owner of TABDIG - a weight loss coaching service that helps people worldwide losing weight. It's been an amazing journey. From October 4th 2010 to April 3rd 2012 I lost half my body weight - 80 kilos/170 lbs. Since then, I have had two cosmetic surgeries to remove excess skin. I have now quadrupled my strength, gained several kilos in muscle mass, and today I focus on building muscle, optimizing my diet, living healthy and helping people to reach the very same goals. I am stronger, healthier, thinner, happier! If you feel that you need help losing weight, don't hesitate to send me an inbox message.
Helewis

Joined: Jan 11
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Posted: 02 Nov 2011, 09:25
What can you say to THAT post! I totally agree. Will be putting MY excuses in check! Thanks, Keld, for the reminder.
LaraStar

Joined: May 11
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Posted: 02 Nov 2011, 09:43
Excuses are made by people who are not desperate enough to lose weight. They keep telling themselves they should, but they continue on the same self destructive path. It is only when they reach a certain point, when they realize, they have to do something. This might be a health scare, a threat to their relationships or pure vanity.

Personally, I got so miserable and it affected my self esteem in a major way. I stopped socialising and hated myself. That was my light bulb moment. I forgot about excuses and just got on with it.

I have a few morbidly obese colleagues. Some of them are turning their lives around, some are all words and no action. They don't value their health high enough to spend 10 minutes preparing a healthy lunch at home. I despair of their excuses!

"Think you can, think you can't; either way, you'll be right."-Henry Ford
mustangallie...

Joined: Jul 11
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Posted: 02 Nov 2011, 11:07
A coworker and I just had a similar conversation last night. We put sweat equity into so many things. But we put ourselves last. We must remember no one else can do this for you.

We can make all the excuses we want, but who will pay the ultimate price?

Well said, Lara. People have to reach that point where they realize there is no choice but to take action. Shock
Allie

“A society grows great when old men plant trees in whose shade they know they shall never sit.”
July 28, 2011 -- 199
November 1, 2011 -- 175
March 24, 2014 -- 141.4

Goal weight: 125 lbs
Ultimate goal: Good health Forever!
NCNOLE

Joined: Feb 11
Posts: 1,218

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Posted: 02 Nov 2011, 11:15
I'm tired of excuses too!!! "I don't like water, so I don't drink it" --really? we're adults, get over it and start drinking it. You CAN learn to like something. "I don't like vegetable" Again - get over yourself!! I can't bring my lunch to work...

If you really want to lose weight and be healthy, you WILL make changes. You just have to set your mind to it and DO IT PEOPLE!!
Find some motivation and get started. No more procrastinating.
saswank80

Joined: Nov 10
Posts: 63

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Posted: 02 Nov 2011, 11:17
I think a problem is change. People get comfortable with their life and are afraid that the change, to make themselves healthier, will somehow disrupt their life and make it harder. They psyche themselves out of thinking that this change will help them in the long run. Eventually (hopefully) people figure out that the change is usually not harder, just different, and will work to change their life for the better.
lisakp71

Joined: Jun 10
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Posted: 02 Nov 2011, 11:26
At some point you want it more than you don't, whatever 'it' might be. Simple as that.

That's what happened to me with paying attention to my eating, and (pleaseohpleasesweetbabyj) I think I'm just about there with getting serious about exercising. My (newly smaller, 40 year old) butt is NOT going to meet the backs of my knees, dammit! Very Happy

Once you hit that point, I won't say it's all unicorns and lollipops from there... but the hardest part is behind you, by far.



triaby

Joined: Feb 11
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Posted: 02 Nov 2011, 11:36
If excuses burnt calories I would never have got fat in the first place! It is easier to make up an excuse than to actually deal with the issues. It was the same when I used to smoke - the same excuses were used, but at some point you just have to hope that the voice of reason kicks in and you get a grip and deal with it.

Tracy

I actually have a body like Cindy Crawford, I just keep it well covered to protect it!

Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.

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squery

Joined: Nov 10
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Posted: 02 Nov 2011, 12:06
I think in a lot of ways, people make excuses because they are afraid to fail. Taking on weight loss is no easy task, we all know this, but I think people are afraid of being judged if they have blips along the way or if they gain all the weight back after losing it.

As for excuses not to work out or not to log calories or weigh in, I am definitely guilty lately. Thanks for the reminder not to fall off the wagon, Keld!
gnat824

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Posted: 02 Nov 2011, 12:16
The problem with excuses, though, is that you're not taking responsibility for your actiions (or lack there-of). People are always asking for buddies to hold them accountable but at the end of the day, you have to be accountable to yourself to succeed. Brutal honesty is tough but when you make mistakes, own them! See each one as an opportunity to learn, improve, and take steps to becoming a better person. When you use an excuse, you give yourself a pass and lose out on an opportunity to grow.
- Natalie
philafood

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Posted: 02 Nov 2011, 12:30
To echo what some of the others have said, I look at these things not as excuses but as choices. It produces accountability and takes these things into the concrete realm, instead of being things you just think about.

So, it is, I chose to eat pizza for lunch, rather than an excuse like, I had to eat pizza because there wasn't anything else available at the meeting.

As I think was also said above, this goes back to what do you want the most? Do you want to make poor choices, or do you want to reach your goals? Simple stuff...
M.Trublu

Joined: Aug 11
Posts: 279

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Posted: 02 Nov 2011, 12:47
I agree with what everyone is saying and will also add that I think some people have a fear of failure. I believe that hinders them as well. They don't know how to guarantee success and fear admitting that they have failed themselves in the past and will fail at losing weight yet again. I think when we build our self esteem and our own image of ourselves we have the boost needed to start, continue and succeed on our own personal path(a path that should be our own b/c we are all different and have different body types).


I love this quote, "In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure."
M. Trublu


Joshsteeny

Joined: Apr 11
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Posted: 02 Nov 2011, 13:17
I am so full of excuses...LOL. I like triaby's response "if excuses burnt calories I would never have got fat"

Instead of trying to use excuses to let myself off the hook- I accept my choice and move on- and try to do better next time.
Skm203

Joined: Oct 11
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Posted: 03 Nov 2011, 22:44
I had to stop baking cookies -- or at least start baking with splenda when I do bake. It is my stress trigger release. Now - I actively get OUT of the kitchen! No more excuses!
Grandma Sherry
kingkeld

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Posted: 10 Jan 2013, 09:29
I stumbled over this old topic. It still goes! NO EXCUSES! Smile

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"Losing weight is never about eating as little as possible"
- Kingkeld.
"You wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.
― Eleanor Roosevelt
"Do. Or do not. There is no trying."
- Master Yoda.

I went from morbidly obese to being the owner of TABDIG - a weight loss coaching service that helps people worldwide losing weight. It's been an amazing journey. From October 4th 2010 to April 3rd 2012 I lost half my body weight - 80 kilos/170 lbs. Since then, I have had two cosmetic surgeries to remove excess skin. I have now quadrupled my strength, gained several kilos in muscle mass, and today I focus on building muscle, optimizing my diet, living healthy and helping people to reach the very same goals. I am stronger, healthier, thinner, happier! If you feel that you need help losing weight, don't hesitate to send me an inbox message.
selenap20

Joined: Dec 12
Posts: 88

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Posted: 10 Jan 2013, 09:48
lisakp71 wrote:
At some point you want it more than you don't, whatever 'it' might be. Simple as that.





That is what got it for me. My clothes were too tight, nothing fit correctly, and I was entirely too big for a bikini. I'm in my twenties and literally live on the ocean in a beach town. I wanted to hit the beach and shop without thinking twice, that was more important than the inconvenience having to pack lunches for work, not eat out, and hit the gym regularly.
Marty70

Joined: Mar 12
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Posted: 10 Jan 2013, 10:25
I dont think its the fear of failing that makes me make excuses not to excercise and eat unhealthy.To me its more the effort involved to live a healthy lifestyle. I for one get caught in the rat race of life with work and home pressure and responsibilities often neglecting my diet and fitness opting rather for convenience and time to laze around.Instant gratification!Sometimes when you see how far you have to go its off putting!

Getting a balace is key for me.No more lame excuses!

Anyone can give up, it's the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that's true strength.
SergeantS

Joined: Dec 12
Posts: 28

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Posted: 10 Jan 2013, 10:34
Same for me, I am the best procrastinator on the planet, I'm pretty sure! I'm one of those "sure, I'll do it in a minute" kinds of people and for me, that's why I never followed it through for more than a few weeks before.

I think I hit a point, back in August last year, where it was super hot and my friends and I were all going clubbing and I'm not joking, I couldn't find anythhing that I could wear. I wasn't ridiculously big, but big enough to have fat sticking out of places it really shouldn't. I ended up wearing leggings and a cardigan to the club. Seriously. It was so hot and I was just so uncomfortable all night, plus I looked ridiculous next to everyone else in summer dresses. And worst of all, the photos that went on facebook the next day were disgusting. That was the day that I threw all of the excuses down the toilet and took it seriously. Well, not all of the excuses, I still have some tucked up my sleeve for when I don't feel like working out Smile
Sweat like a pig, look like a fox

August 13th 2012: 202lbs (starting weight)
Christmas Day 2012: 169lbs
New Year's day 2013: Starting the Dukan Diet at 169.8lbs
1 Feb 2013: 160.4lbs
1 August 2013: 146lbs
kingkeld

Joined: Sep 09
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Posted: 10 Jan 2013, 10:55
My trap was DEFINITELY convenience. It's so much easier (or, at least it seems like it when you're overweight) to just do whatever you feel like than to do right.

Visit my website: www.tabdig.info

"Losing weight is never about eating as little as possible"
- Kingkeld.
"You wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.
― Eleanor Roosevelt
"Do. Or do not. There is no trying."
- Master Yoda.

I went from morbidly obese to being the owner of TABDIG - a weight loss coaching service that helps people worldwide losing weight. It's been an amazing journey. From October 4th 2010 to April 3rd 2012 I lost half my body weight - 80 kilos/170 lbs. Since then, I have had two cosmetic surgeries to remove excess skin. I have now quadrupled my strength, gained several kilos in muscle mass, and today I focus on building muscle, optimizing my diet, living healthy and helping people to reach the very same goals. I am stronger, healthier, thinner, happier! If you feel that you need help losing weight, don't hesitate to send me an inbox message.
Jetsonjudy13

Joined: Dec 12
Posts: 2

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Posted: 10 Jan 2013, 11:57
That is so true!!! Keep up the good work.
Judy Jetson



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