How do you adjust to a new life?

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Posted: 18 Oct 2011, 17:07
Hey all. I'm in need of some advise. In the past I have had success with dieting. I lost 110lbs and felt great. Unfortunately, I've packed on about thirty pounds since then and I want it *gone*. I've had a lot of changes in my life since then. I ended a four year relationship, met a guy who lived in another state through an online website, left my retail job for an insurance job, left that job to move in with my boyfriend in Connecticut a couple of months ago and am now studying to get my insurance license in this state. When life keeps moving and seems relentless to let you breathe, how do you manage to keep your hand out of the cookie jar when times seem so stressful? I'm a creature of routine and when something changes it's really hard for me to adjust. Help Sad

~Feeling large and so not in charge~

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Posted: 18 Oct 2011, 17:49
Wow lots of chamge -first thought put (celery) in the cookie jarWink. Find a healthy satisfying go to food. Start a new exercise program, move past the mindless eating. I am sure you have the tools to do this just find them in your will power. You are strong enough to make all those changes so I am sure you are strong enough to change your eating ways again. Good Luck!

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Posted: 18 Oct 2011, 17:49
It is good that you realize that you are a stress eater. It is SO hard to not grab carb loaded junk when you feel stressed. One thing that may work is simply logging your meal intake, no matter what. The other is to figure out some activities that you can do to relieve the stress or to at least give you an alternative to food. Maybe if you feel the urge to overindulge, then remove yourself from the kitchen. Go outside, grab a book, take a shower, go for a walk, brush your teeth, work on chores. You need to occupy yourself so that you can forget about the stressors and forget about the food. Otherwise, you will continue to gain weight b/c stress never completely goes away. The only other suggestion I have is to make sure you have healthy snacks like veggies, fruit. Maybe some low calorie popsicles. When you grab for the cookies - take a minute and think about why you are eating it. Think about your goals. Focus!! Easier said than done, but maybe it will help.

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Posted: 18 Oct 2011, 19:43
What did you do to lose weight? Keep doing that, only less restricted than when you were trying to lose.

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Posted: 19 Oct 2011, 00:30
@Hoser - whenever I see that purple do, I know a wise piece of advise will be found right next to it. Again. I am 100% with you on this.

Make sure you ENJOY your new life, that is first step. When you're in a happy mindset, it's easier to overcome the challenges. When you're happy, you want to look good for your loved one. When you are happy, you have the strength to go that extra mile (pun intended).

Find your happy spot in your new life, take time to breath, and value what you eat. It's not about NEVER having the good stuff (and your view on what it "good" will slowly change), it's about having it in moderation.

I have little mantra that I put on Facebook and in my FatSecret journal daily, it keeps me focused on it and it is true every day:
"Life is good".

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Posted: 16 Jan 2012, 21:05
I didn't see these replies until tonight. Thank you for all of the wonderful advice you have all given me. It's truly helpful and inspirational.
You'd be happy to know that I've finally found my niche again! The fridge is packed with vegetables, my fruit bowl if plentiful and even my boyfriend has jumped on the band wagon! We've been eating healthy together and even working out together! Things are going wonderfully.
Again, thank you so much for all of your wisdom. You know.. I've been here in the past. I have all the knowledge to make this work so, I'm going to do it again..

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