i have to do all my working out at home, husband does not approve of gym

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lee shelly

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Posted: 18 Oct 2011, 11:00
anyone with same problem? and how do u cope?
Losin25

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Posted: 18 Oct 2011, 11:18
What about the gym does your husband not approve of? I'm really biting my tongue to not say something negative about overbearing husbands. I've been married for 20 years and my DH could kiss my a$$ if I wanted to join a gym and he disapproved. In fact, I belong to a gym and a hot yoga studio.
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Minimizeme

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Posted: 18 Oct 2011, 11:23
"my DH could kiss my a$$ if I wanted to join a gym and he disapproved"

AMEN SISTER!
tdubois

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Posted: 18 Oct 2011, 11:26
Yeah, it's pretty hard to comment, without knowing specifically what the objection is. I'm a husband..... and go to the gym and whose wife goes to the gym too (sometimes together, mostly not). I can't for the life of me think what about the gym could be so off-putting to him.

It is in an unsafe part of town.... or is it a jealously thing. The gym is absolutely the best place to get focused workouts in, because you are there (or should be) for a specific purpose.

All that being said, there are plenty of ways get a good workout in a non-gym setting.
rockytu

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Posted: 18 Oct 2011, 11:29
i work out at home cuz i like it.dont want to travel to gym or pay the rediculous prices.i already have a machine.dh has nothing to do with my decision.i am greatful he loves to eat the same foods.
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41grammyof3

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Posted: 18 Oct 2011, 11:31
My husband was going to pay for me to go to the gym...luckily my work provides a gym and have found some really good excercise equipment for cheap. He plans on joining the gym (if he ever quits working all the time).
lee shelly

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Posted: 18 Oct 2011, 11:38
well, it sucks for me because before i met him, i loved the gym, in fact, thats how i lost my weight before,and kept it off, since we've been married (2yrs) this is when i gained all my 40pounds, in 2YEARS, and no gym is hard, so im trying to get some advice and stuff on working out at home, cause its very difficult for me to get any willpower to workout at home, and all i have is an elliptical, and its not a fancy one by no means, and now its getting cold outside, so...yeah
liv001

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Posted: 18 Oct 2011, 11:59
So why not join a gym?
gnat824

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Posted: 18 Oct 2011, 12:04
You should do what's best for you- if that's joining a gym, then do it. Everyone needs an outlet and if the gym honestly makes you happy, in addition to it's health benefits, it's worth a modest monthly expenditure. Try to figure out what's really behind your husband's objections and see if you can address them. Buying gym equipment for your home is really not going to save you money over a membership, so I'd guess there's more than that.
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jessica2012

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Posted: 18 Oct 2011, 12:06
My husband is the same way. But since my sis in law joined Gold's Gym, I have been bugging him to let me join her gym. So he finally choose to have us and our kids join the local Y. He said the Y is better because my 7 year old can use the adult machines with me. Plus the have a daycare for my other children and my husband can work out with me.
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lee shelly

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Posted: 18 Oct 2011, 12:10
he says we cant afford it, but i think its a insecurity or jealous thing
tdubois

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Posted: 18 Oct 2011, 12:22
It's important enough to differentiate between the two Smile . If it's really about $$, there are plenty of things that you can do, either at home, or just out and about.

Walks or jogs outside.
Video workouts you can rent or buy.
Pick an cold-weather activity that you enjoy and add that in.
Heck, I've even gone to a local college that had a 5 story public building and walked up and down the stairs for an hour.

As long as you are creative, you can certainly find ways to workout that are free. I would suggest trying to get OUTSIDE the home and do a few exercises. If you are like many (including me), getting out of the house makes is MUCH easier to get motivated and not blow it off. Too many other things to do other then work out at home.
Mmmily

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Posted: 18 Oct 2011, 12:26
If it's an insecurity thing, I imagine the best thing in the long run is to address why he's worried about you going to a gym. Have you thought about working out together? Maybe have a heart-to-heart about why you enjoy going to the gym, why it's important to you to get healthy, and how going to the gym will help with your goals.

If it's really a money thing, then try checking out free fitness programs around town. A lot of cities have free fitness programs that meet in parks or schools. They don't usually meet very often, but it might be a good supplement to at home workout. Or maybe try Meetup.com, often they have workout groups you can join for a smaller monthly fee (maybe $10). These won't provide you with the gym equipment, but it might help motivate you to get out of the house and away from distractions to workout.
kirsteens

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Posted: 18 Oct 2011, 12:32
And there is always a local community center or YMCA option. Those are generally cheaper that gyms and I prefer them because I feel more comfortable not being around the super buff people Smile

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lee shelly

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Posted: 18 Oct 2011, 12:40
thank u guys, i really appreciate all the feedback
tglenna

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Posted: 18 Oct 2011, 12:43
At home exercise ideas - workout DVDs - especially kick boxing, zumba, Jillian Michaels, etc. Wii Fit if you have one or the Just Dance games are fun and get you sweating. You could get a set of weights and do strenght training with those - look online for a good routine to follow.
lee shelly

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Posted: 18 Oct 2011, 12:54
thanks so much tglenna , great advice
Sk1nnyfuture

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Posted: 18 Oct 2011, 13:04
If you used to go to the gym, before and after you first met him, I don't see what his problem is.... Does he not love you enough to realise, that NOT going to the gym has contributed to your weight gain, and the associated potential health dangers. Maybe that is something you could reason with him about - that you want to be around - with him - for a long time, and that means staying fit and healthy.
Sounds like he is insecure.... And needs reassurance, that you won't run off with the gym instructor or a "beefy" hunk lol.
Sorry, I know that wasn't your question... I used to work out (and still do sometimes) on my wii fit.... Wii fit+, personal trainer, dance games etc..... If you haven't got a wii (or x box) maybe he would buy you one, so you could work out. Other than that, there are some great fitness dvd's out there. A lot of people use them - have a trawl through some the journals, to see who's using what. ......

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jessica2012

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Posted: 18 Oct 2011, 13:12
At the Y they have an Open Door Program that pays for % of membership to families that can't afford it. Plus they say that even if you can afford it they will find ways to help.
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lee shelly

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Posted: 18 Oct 2011, 13:50
hehe.. thank u for ur words of wisdom sk1nnyfuture, the "beefy" hunk could be the problem, not that i would ever leave my boo for the beefy hunk, but, i have tried and tried to convince him to let me join again, or both of us join as a team....we will see, in time, i'll bring it up again, meanwhile, i'll enjoy my cindy crawford dvd and my elliptical



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