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MrsTofu

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Posted: 04 Apr 2011, 10:24
I've been having a lot of trouble recently. I notice myself binging more. Consequently I am gaining weight. Additionally I don't know how to get past the fact that I don't think I can succeed anymore. I know attitude is an important part of lifestyle changes working, but when I try to tell myself that I can still change it feels hollow and I don't believe it.

I have to deal with a lot of temptation with food because there is a lot of bread and fruit at home...higher calorie, carb heavy things that I really like.

I don't know what to do to try and get back on track. I saw a really good article that highlighted three important points- recognizing that I am conflicted, not unmotivated (it's the difference between being powerless and acknowledging that I've been making poor choices and I can change my choices), making small goals to gain momentum, and having a plan b to cope with temptation.

Sunday brunch after services there are always pastries and bagels or muffins. I am good about avoiding them, but I wind up binging on the better food choices available there or at later meals. I fail at portion control and am eating my feelings. I know I am doing this, I don't want to continue, and yet I do anyways. I feel disconnected, powerless to a gluttonous body that is reaping the spoils of its actions. Please help.
"20 Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly beyond all that we ask or think, according to the power that works within us, 21 to Him be the glory in the church and in Christ Jesus to all generations [n]forever and ever. Amen."
Destiny242

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Posted: 04 Apr 2011, 10:32
I know how it feels. Especially at a church function where there are so many goodies to choose from. Maybe try to eat a healthy breakfast before going there, and just have coffee or tea there while chatting with friends.

I'm working on the temptation thing too. Hang in there!
Kimberlea

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Posted: 04 Apr 2011, 10:40
I know how you feel! I am a bored snacker.
As for portion control, I eat from a salad plate instead of a dinner plate. And never in front of the television. I wait 15 minutes before I go for seconds just to let my brain cue in to let me know if I'm still hungry or not. After dinner I drink a bottle of water and I try to go to bed before 10PM because that's usually when I start to get hungry again and want to start snacking.
Anyways, just thought I'd share what I do to try to stop my snacking.

Good luck!
sngglebnny

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Posted: 04 Apr 2011, 10:40
I realized that group eating proves to be a challenge for me. Subconciously I don't want to get left out on something delicious. You know how you get a little bit to start, find out its good, then go back for a bigger serving and the dish is gone? I can't stand it.

Even yesterday after eating enough and identifying I was full, the post-funeral dinner made me want to compete for more food. I distracted this primal urge by serving everyone else what they wanted until the food was gone, and surprisingly so was the urge. Is this what makes you binge too?
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Sherillynn

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Posted: 04 Apr 2011, 20:18
MrsTofu- why don't you bring the goodies to church and make sure they are healthy. Who says you can't have fresh fruit or veggies with a dip after the service? Then you can enjoy everything with your friends and not miss anything. They aren't paying attention to the fact that you didn't go for the donut. And you are enjoying food and fellowship wisely.
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Posted: 05 Apr 2011, 06:10
Sherillynn wrote:
MrsTofu- why don't you bring the goodies to church and make sure they are healthy. Who says you can't have fresh fruit or veggies with a dip after the service? Then you can enjoy everything with your friends and not miss anything. They aren't paying attention to the fact that you didn't go for the donut. And you are enjoying food and fellowship wisely.


I was thinking the same thing..and perhaps you could even set a trend..there is so much going on in the news/TV about health and weight loss..maybe there are a few of you who would like to provide healthy foods.

I lived in a small town for 5 years where most of the "events" were based around food and the same..all calorie loaded foods. Healthy options are appreciated.
Even mention it to the ladies...I would bet you are not the only one who feels this way.
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MrsTofu

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Posted: 08 Apr 2011, 08:19
@ Sherillynn - I currently do that. I tend to binge on the food I bring often because I feel stressed and discouraged knowing that the other baked goods aren't good for me. I think also I get bummed when I make foods that aren't as well received. Somethings I've made have been demolished, or at least entirely consumed once the carb heavy treats are gone, but I kind of notice a feeling of obligation to eat so that food doesn't go to waste. Or I finished my food and am bored, so I eat to occupy myself.

I think if I plan farther in advance what to take I will be more successful because I think rushed preparation is a culprit behind a lot of the less successful ventures. Besides that do you guys have any suggestions for inexpensive meals that I could make the night before or throw in the crockpot to bring? Salads have gone over well, though I don't always have what I need to make them. I know others appreciate the healthy alternative- I've been told as much- but I need to make sure I don't get myself too stressed about bringing food. That's no good either. Thanks for the support. The change in focus really helps to kick the poor me/ it's awful thoughts, which in turn actually reveals a lot of this is how I see it in my mind. So if I can really get control over that- which is possible, I don't have to be stuck so frequently in discouragement.
"20 Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly beyond all that we ask or think, according to the power that works within us, 21 to Him be the glory in the church and in Christ Jesus to all generations [n]forever and ever. Amen."
MrsTofu

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Posted: 08 Apr 2011, 08:23
Kimberlea and Sngglebnny- Thanks for those suggestions. I think those are good ideas and I will try to implement them more.
"20 Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly beyond all that we ask or think, according to the power that works within us, 21 to Him be the glory in the church and in Christ Jesus to all generations [n]forever and ever. Amen."
weirdangel

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Posted: 08 Apr 2011, 09:19
Mrs Tofu you don't mention what type of eating plan you are trying to follow. I know that for me, following Atkins is the easiest in large group situations as I can always find protien and "stuff" myself. I find once I'm full the temptations go away. Church functions always have chicken (at least mine do) and almost always deviled eggs ( or I bring them). Also, by following the low carb diet, I eat a pretty darn big breakfast of bacon and eggs and some cheese which keeps me full thru the morning. The cravings for carbs go away after a few days on Induction so I'm not really tempted.

If you just have to have the sweets in your life (been there done that) may I suggest Weight Watchers? WW allows you to eat anything using portion control so you can have that sweet and not feel deprived and that is what is really important, at least to me. If Sunday is your "temptation day" may I also suggest that you save up your points until that day and then have the little indulgences? WW is really perfect for this. You exercise and stay on track all week and then come the day you want extras, you have stored up the points.

Either way, it is a journey. Your profile indicates you have 19 pounds to lose and that can be really hard. Take each day and count it as a blessing and when the day is over look back and be thankful for each little baby step you made.

Good Luck!



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