Being an Inspiration

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willbeskinny...

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Posted: 02 Apr 2011, 20:53
Do you think it is possible to give advice on what to do to lose weight when I've only started my journey? I have lost 13 lbs, want to lose 59 more. I feel like I need to inspire others during my journey but am afraid of what people would think about me giving it because I am overweight...


alexandra22

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Posted: 02 Apr 2011, 21:14
I've lost about 85 pounds thus far, and I still don't think that gives me the right to give advice about losing weight. This is only because everyone is different, and not everything I've done will work for someone else. If the person REALLY wants to lose weight that badly, they can refer to a nutritionist or reliable weight loss book. Also, in my experience, people hate when advice is pushed on them! So I only talk about my weight loss if someone inquires first.

The title of your post is "being an inspiration". I think that's what all of us can be. I believe that "actions speak louder than words", and so when people SEE you losing weight, you become an inspiration. When you talk about losing weight, people tend not to listen. Basically, it's better to let your new body do all the talking.
"The best revenge is massive success."
-Frank Sinatra

Starting Weight as of April 10th, 2010: 301 pounds
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willbeskinny...

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Posted: 02 Apr 2011, 21:46
Very well said. Thanks.


kstubblefiel...

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Posted: 05 Apr 2011, 10:23
Ditto what Alexandra said. It's very common for all of us to get that bandwagon feeling...like we've finally figured it out & we want to share the good news with everyone we know who needs to lose weight!

The fact is that people venture out into their own weight loss when they're good & ready to, & sharing unsolicited advice could actually keep them from making a move. An analogy that comes to mind is quitting smoking. I always knew I should quit, yet I smoked for 17 years. At times I was considering giving it another go, if some self-righteous person decided to "inspire" me to quit smoking & tell me how to do it, there's no way I'd do it then. Then that person would think I quit because of them; I can't have someone else taking credit for my stuff. When I finally did quit over 2 yrs ago, it was because I was ready to. Period.

Same goes for my weight loss. I did it for REAL when I did because I was ready to. It had nothing to do with anything anyone else said or did.

I know it's exciting to be making progress & you should definitely be proud of what you've accomplished so far. Don't push it on others & don't get cocky. It's not about everyone else, it's about you & your efforts to create a healthier you. I'm like Alexandra, if I'm talking to others I don't bring it up unless they ask about something. And even then, I only say as much as the other person wants to know. You may find that people you know who are struggling with their own weight issues & readiness to do something about it may be uncomfortable around you & that's not your fault. I don't want my friends & family to feel bad about themselves if they're not ready to do what I'm doing, & if I make our conversations about that they will feel judged.

OK, I know that was rambly but it's what came to mind.

Kat | NO EXCUSES, JUST RESULTS | Next milestone - 256: 60 lbs lost
2013: still up from 1/1, but coming back down...
2010: 50.4 lbs lost | 2011:17 lbs lost | 2012: 1 lb gained
How I did it: http://stubbysticks.wordpress.com/weight-loss-summary-by-month/
PantherIII

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Posted: 05 Apr 2011, 14:15
Depends which google article the person you are giving advice to has read. Very Happy
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cszman

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Posted: 05 Apr 2011, 14:22
I think it's ok to give advise when people ask for it! Plenty of people are asking questions on this web site. If you have something to share...do it!
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