Emotional Eater

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meeshi

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Posted: 20 Aug 2010, 11:56
Okay, I have come to the conclusion that I am definitely an emotional eater! I feel sad I want to eat! I feel stressed I want to eat! I don't know how to stop this vicious cycle! Please somebody give me some advice on how to overcome this! I hate it!!!!! I find myself sitting here thinking okay what can I eat now! I crave all the bad things and I don't want to eat them but I feel like if I just get a big piece of chocolate cake I will feel better and I know I won't but it is kind of like a temporary "high" but as soon as I eat it I know I will be miserable because I knew how it would make me feel after I ate it and did it anyway! I don't want to mess up!! HELP ME before it's too late!!!!!!
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rjenkins27

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Posted: 20 Aug 2010, 12:10
I don't think I was an emotional eater, unless you call boredom an emotion. I was an incessant snack-a-holic at night. I could be extremely full of massive amounts of snack foods and still eat more. Just like Pavlov's dog, when a commercial would come on the television, I would begin to salivate and head to the pantry.

This is similar to emotional eating in that I was looking for something external to "cure" my boredom, as emotional eaters are looking for something to assuage their feelings.

The only way I got around this was to convince myself that food is primarily for energy and nutrition. Much farther down the relevance scale is that food is something that should provide satisfaction or even taste good.

Once I became convinced of this, I stopped looking at food and eating as something other than what its primary purpose is - provide energy and nutrients.

Contrary to what you would think, I actually enjoy food much more now than I used to. When I have a particularly good meal, I really enjoy it. Other times, I eat just to get the appropriate amount of calories for energy, and hopefully the correct nutrients.

What helped me was to learn as much as possible about food and nutrition. I also learned to despise the food manufacturers who pander to our human nature to think that if a little sugar and fat tastes good, then massive amounts of sugar and fat must be better.

The bottom line is to alter your relationship with food. Good food is your friend if you let it.

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jsfantome

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Posted: 20 Aug 2010, 12:17
Stop! And listen to yourself for a minute. Take a deep breath. Re-assess your primary goals! YOU are in control of YOU! Find your resolve within and determine yourself to 'get the education you need' to make this a success for you. Where do cravings come from? And what are the best ways to handle stress? Are there answers to why people allow their emotions to sway their willpower? What about food triggers? Did I recently eat something that now is causing me to want to eat more? Does your body actually do that to you? ... you can find great information available thru all kinds of websites online...so if you managed to get to Fat Secret, I am sure you can google a few of these topics and begin the educational process. Enlist support from your family and closest friends - reach out (as you have here) and look for diversions to the "call" of impulsive overeating, emotional overeating, or stress induced overeating. What you've eaten, how much of it, and it's quality...is what got you here in the first place...it's time to make some changes...and this is all part of being able to do that. Get out and go for a walk or something once you've read an article or two. Do some defining of your "dietary goals" and revamp your fridge and cupboards to line up with what you want. Do some meal and snack planning...go get some exercise...take a nap even, but by all means...step away from the chocolate cake!! LOL! That won't get you where you want to go. Make today - YOUR day! Own your decision to make this a new lifestyle for you. Look for answers. They're out there. Good Luck.
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Ibleedlipsti...

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Posted: 20 Aug 2010, 12:27
Honestly, my advice for the early stages of your plan is to get away from the food if at all possible. Go for a walk, a drive, anything to get away. I eat when I'm bored, and the only thing that works for me is to get away. If I stay with the food, I will eat it.
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meeshi

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Posted: 20 Aug 2010, 13:08
Thank you for your help I really appreciate the it more then you know!!!! I guess I better get to googling to try to overcome this trial in my life! Every bit of insight is helpful!!! Thanks!!!!!!!

OH and I am triing my best to stay away from the chocolate cake as bad as I want it, I know I will regret it later!
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k8yk

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Posted: 20 Aug 2010, 13:22
I basically eliminated snacky foods from my house at first. You can't eat what isn't there Smile And if you're trying to lose weight, there's no reason to have chocolate cake in your house (unless it belongs to someone else, in which case you will need to use your will power!)

Make rules for yourself. If you wait 20 min after the initial desire, you may find it passes. Tell yourself, OK. If I still want this cake in 20 minutes, I can have it. Then think about WHY you want it. Are you hungry? Or are you sad? Will eating the cake take away the sadness? No. It may bury it for a second. Better to just feel the sadness. Now find something that actually helps! Like talking to someone. Exercise helps me with a lot of things I used to try to solve with eating (stress, anger, etc). Writing on FS can help you sort out your emotions, so you already took that step. Only YOU control what you eat. Don't every think the food is making you eat it.

And finally, make sure you don't restrict yourself too much. Going hungry will only make binging more appealing. Hunger is a powerful thing! You can change your habits, it just takes time Smile
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jsfantome

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Posted: 20 Aug 2010, 13:22
Meeshi - I am totally serious. Get rid of the cake! No, not in the trash (many people have later retrieved so called thrown away food). Go give it to a neighbor, or flush it if you have to...but...BUBBYE Choc. Cake.

Now, go get started w/ your googling! Smile
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ellyfranklin

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Posted: 20 Aug 2010, 14:01
I can understand completely! I babysit kids for extra income, and this week I found myself with 9 children in my house for 3 hours after school! This is certainly not typical and it did a number on me. I didn't realize until later that night (as I was digesting the waffles I scarfed down for dinner) that the stress and noise made me turn to food, specifically carbs.

I think we need to find ways to manage stress, so that when it inevitably turns up, we won't feel out of control. For me, getting enough sleep and exercise makes a huge difference in my stress. Reading is good for when I feel bored. Calling my best friend helps me when I'm depressed or sad.
RichK73

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Posted: 20 Aug 2010, 14:06
Meeshi,

I just looked at your stats. You are impressive with your exercise and net caloric intake per day. In fact, I would say you aren't eating enough. If you want a piece of chocolate cake, go to the store and buy yourself a delicious chocolate protein bar and eat it within one hour of exercise (the golden hour when sweets are good for workout recovery). You are paying your dues on the calorie and exercise side. I'd say, you can have your cake and eat it too...With no guilt. Moderation is the key and you are doing it already. Eat cake Smile
meeshi

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Posted: 20 Aug 2010, 14:07
I don't have a chocolate cake but that is what I want when I feel bad! And I have been wanting a piece for like two weeks now! I am like just craving chocolate! Maybe it is because I miss the love of my life!!! LOL!
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RichK73

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Posted: 20 Aug 2010, 14:09
So get a chocolate cake (just a piece though) and enjoy it. You are walking the walk and paying your dues. You have earned it. Eat whatever you want in moderation.
Nodaa

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Posted: 20 Aug 2010, 14:15
I was an emotional eater for 10 years! and stopped it 4 months ago! I know it is so difficult to control it, but it is not stronger than you! When i am sad, alone or even happy, i just EAT. Even if i am not hungry, i just eat 3 meals in 30 mins lool..My favorite time is being at night alone or coming back home after work, why? because i am going to eat! Recently, i hate it, and i am happy with my recent goals.

What i did as a solution:
1-Keeping myself busy & busy. I do not mean by working, even going out with friends and so on.
2-In place of eating 3 huge meals, i save my calories for more than 6 meals! I just feel FULL at night, and sleepy.
3-Drinking a lot of water, and keeping away from SALTY food, it makes you more thirsty & hungry.
4-Eat SNACKS, without snacks between meals, you gonna be hungry.
5-When you are sad, try to call someone, or even chatting online, writing a journal or doing something makes you feel better.
6-EXERCISE! Most people who are emotional eaters, spend their time siting. You should be more active, at least have a walk for 30 mins everyday.
7-Keep an old photo for you in your room. It gonna motivate you to change your lifestyle.
8-Keep reading about food nutrition and buddies weight loss daily life. It gonna motivated you.
Nodaa

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Posted: 20 Aug 2010, 14:19
Another thing, eat everything you LIKE. I always overeat emotionally because i hated diets, they just keep me away from my favorite food as (sweets). ya, it was STARVING myself. Recently, i eat sweets every time i want depending on calories, and i lost more than 10 pounds. Do not starve yourself. Enjoy your food!
MightyFull

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Posted: 20 Aug 2010, 15:02
Welcome to the club....I call it 'deceptive eating'...it's tricky! It makes you think you want food, when you really don't. Wink
MightyFull

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pat g

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Posted: 21 Aug 2010, 13:18
I get emotional eating because stress is number 9one with me. I know when I have had a bad day at work when I come home and stand in the kitchen and graze out of the cupboard. I go back to work in 2 weeks and will see what happens now!
pat g

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Posted: 21 Aug 2010, 13:20
Just reread that post and found the typo. It's not number 9, it's number 1.
cjggbella

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Posted: 21 Aug 2010, 13:52
I am right there with you! I actually just came to that realization myself. I always denied it by simply stating that I just really love and enjoy food! But... I saw an episode of Oprah where they discussed the book Women Food and God and realized there was much more to my "enjoyment" than I even realized. I just picked up that book yesterday and hope it helps me find a little peace in my heart and mind and stay on track with eating right.

And good tips Nodaa!
RroseSelavy

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Posted: 21 Aug 2010, 14:41
You might want to check out this book called "Shrink Yourself: Break Free from Emotional Eating." Good read, and full of helpful tips that were useful for me.



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