I only feel fat in pictures...who can relate.

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TauchaMoniqu...

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Posted: 12 Jun 2010, 08:43
I know I'm not slim, but when I see a picture of myself I'm floored. I feel good when I get dressed, even though I know I'm bigger than I've ever been. But when I look in the mirror I think "I could stand to lose a few pounds"...but if I look at a recent picture I think "damn, I'm huge". Can anyone relate?
k8yk

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Posted: 12 Jun 2010, 09:44
Absolutely! I think it's good to feel good about yourself no matter what, but I also think it is SO easy to fool ourselves. I think a lot of us have that moment where we see a picture and we're like "whoa, that's ME?"

I have the opposite now. I see a picture of myself and I'm like "Whoa, that's me? I not fat anymore!"

lesson here: take lots of pictures to help yourself see the real you!
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jennielynn

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Posted: 12 Jun 2010, 09:49
TauchaMonique wrote:
I know I'm not slim, but when I see a picture of myself I'm floored. I feel good when I get dressed, even though I know I'm bigger than I've ever been. But when I look in the mirror I think "I could stand to lose a few pounds"...but if I look at a recent picture I think "damn, I'm huge". Can anyone relate?


Me too. Mostly because when I get dressed and look in the mirror, I've made sure to adjust my clothes so that they hide the parts that I know I need to work on, but most of the time in pictures, I don't get that chance, so there is my midsection in all it's glory. lol
Nodaa

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Posted: 12 Jun 2010, 12:20
The fact is picture cannot show the reality of your body and face. Sometimes, picture makes yourself a "floored". and sometimes can make you very different person depend on the quality of the camera. Anyway, do not think that much about pictures. Your brain now is thinking about losing weight, that's why u r seeing yourself in ugly way. Just push yourself to lose weight, then after weeks u gonna love your body and face Smile
confusedange...

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Posted: 12 Jun 2010, 20:02
I literally hid from the camera for YEARS. Pictures of me simply weren't allowed and didn't exist, between the time my daughter was a baby and when I started putting my son's photos into albums and realized there was exactly ONE with me and him together after the hospital stay. Because every time I saw myself in a picture, I was absolutely horrified by what I saw. I feel like ME on a daily basis... I'm aware I'm large... I pick my seats so that I won't have to squeeze past people, I dress in a way that's flattering, I keep my hair a certain way... etc etc... but I am still just me. (You know, that inner "thin" (i don't like that word) person that you are, when the constant awareness of FAT YOU isn't in your face... when fat doesn't matter)... In a picture, it's not ME, it's FAT ME... the person I don't feel like until it's shoved at me, judged upon, or preserved for FOREVER.

Now, however, I am making friends with the camera.

(Plus, perspective... for example, both my children's fathers are tall and thin... very thin... which makes big look HUGE.)
TauchaMoniqu...

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Posted: 25 Jun 2010, 12:43
Thanks for all the points of view. I started measuring myself today and my thigh (singular) is now what my waist used to be. What an eye opener! You can't deny the numbers. I am so determined to get healthy!
TheChunkyOne

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Posted: 25 Jun 2010, 13:05
I know excactly what you mean. For me it was my face. I'm 5'2" so weight doesnt have much space to go, it usually goes straight for my face.
My husband and i went on a childless weekend getaway to Austin back in February and took TONS of pictures (my profile pic is from that trip) and when i got back and uploaded them all i was just floored. That is not my face! Since when do i have a second chin?! lol i just couldnt believe i looked like that.
momof3cc

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Posted: 25 Jun 2010, 13:37
WOW, i thought I was the only one who viewed myself this way. LOL. I can not stand to look at pics of myself, i usually throw them away. I see myself in the mirror & think I don't look that bad...glad I am not the only one out here w/this mentality
lovehandlesr...

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Posted: 25 Jun 2010, 13:53
I have the same feelings. Although, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You are in the mindset of losing weight, so to you, if you have not hit your goal number, nothing will be good enough. Also, we are our own worst critic. When we look at a picture of ourself, we are looking at every single little bit of our body. Overall, if you just blur your vision a little, you will probably see, hey I look pretty good overall, and that is what everyone else sees when they look at your picture. They are not focused on every little flaw, they look at the whole picture. I, for example, have some love handles from hell. I wear jeans that I can pull up enough to hide them, for the most part and when I see pictures of myself, I see that little buldge right above my pants and that is all I see. However, when my husband looks at the picture, he sees me as a whole and as the beautiful woman he married. I totally understand the feelings though. I agree with some of the above posts, take lots of pictures, put them up at work if you have a space to do that, so you can see yourself all day long. It will motivate you to keep exercising and eating well. Take weekly pictures, so you can see the progress you are making and that too will give you motivation to keep on keeping on. Good luck! We can do this!
Sher37

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Posted: 25 Jun 2010, 14:23
Im never in pictures!! They can be deceiving for one thing! But now with my double chin gone ... Smile I might smile more now. Wink Good luck! ♥
My weight is only hurting me ♥ Im done feeling the pain!
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crystalprz

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Posted: 25 Jun 2010, 14:28
yes!! i can totally relate! i have good body confidence, but wen i look at full body pictures omg it breaks me i hate it! i always look like the fattest of the fat ones in the picture.
maymouse_101

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Posted: 25 Jun 2010, 15:15
Let me tell you guys: It all depends on the lighting. Certain lighting will make a person look much heavier than they really are, and then there is the "glamour lighting" used in movies that make people look as good as possible.

http://www.geeksugar.com/Why-Does-Camera-Add-10-Pounds-155535

http://www.slate.com/id/2160377
1maverick2th...

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Posted: 25 Jun 2010, 15:24
This is the sole reason I became the photographer. You won''t find many "before" pictures out there of me. UGH.
I'm stronger than my bodyWink
k8yk

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Posted: 25 Jun 2010, 15:43
I really, really wish I had more pictures of me when I was fat. When you see the pictures beside each other, that's when you see how far you've come. Learn to love yourself, fat or thin. You're the same awesome person either way. I'm thin now, but I love fat me. She is awesome. She's the one who started the process and she did the hardest part! We are at peace, thin me and fat me. We are one.

Seeing it in a picture doesn't change the truth. In fact, maybe if we all forced ourselves to see pictures of ourselves, we wouldn't ever become so overweight! It reminds me of when I decided I would take the plunge and tell my boyfriend my weight at the beginning. "Honey, I weigh 287 pounds." Guess what? He was not surprised Smile You might be able to hide from yourself, but everyone around you already knows if you are close to 300 pounds.

I think it's important to get our heads out of the sand and look at the truth. No hiding. Knowledge is power! Count calories! Weigh yourself! Ignoring the truth does not make it go away.

Take a lot of pictures if you're near the beginning. Even if you don't show them to anyone yet. You might find that once you have an "after" picture, you're proud to show the "before" so everyone can see how far you've come Smile
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TheChunkyOne

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Posted: 25 Jun 2010, 16:17
k8 - i've actually been doing that.
I have plenty of "before" pictures, but clothes hide my imperfections very well. I'm small framed with big boobs, it doesnt take much to hide stomach fat!

What i've been doing is taking pics of myself in my underwear or in bikinis where NOTHING is hidden. That really gives me something to track my progress by.
I take one every Friday morning after weigh in. Kinda like pregnancy progression pics, but backwards... and no baby involved LOL
anroberts86

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Posted: 25 Jun 2010, 17:39
Yes, I absolutely feel this way!! There are days that I get up and get dressed and think, “Wow, I am looking pretty darn lovely today,” and then someone takes a picture....And now they are digital so I can see how horrible I look immediately!! I have deleted, hidden, and destroyed more pictures of myself than I would ever like to admit!
kittyglitter

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Posted: 25 Jun 2010, 18:02
Oh lord...I hate pictures. I'm one of the most unphotogenic people on the planet. Even when I look good and feel good, candid pictures always show tummy flab, back fat that didn't show in the mirror, a wonky boob and a half closed eye. I do a fair amount of modeling so I'm not sure why I only look like an overweight Quasimodo in *candid* snaps... Its taken years for me to get the courage to stay in the room when someone gets a camera out. I suck in, roll back my shoulders, check the hair and lips, take a deep breath and smile.
And then the day came, when the risk to remain tight in a bud
was more painful than the risk it took to Blossom.
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lain1k

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Posted: 25 Jun 2010, 18:08
I hate pictures of myself. I can never believe thats me. It's really cripples my enthusiasm for a while. I think "Wait, so I've been counting calories like a mad man, working out, abstaining from unhealthy foods and habits, and for what? THAT!?" It may just be a coping mechanism but I avoid them for the sake of maintaining my stride. I figure when I'm at where I want to be I can deal with my body image because I've felt like I've accomplished something. What bothers me is which one is the real me? The one I see in photos? Photos that are taken when I might be in weird position and where anyone would look weird. The one in the mirror? Where my cloths hide what I don't want to see and I am position the perfect way. Or the one in my head? Based on how I feel about myself. For now I'll stick with the one in my head and avoid photos
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ChallengeMem...

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Posted: 25 Jun 2010, 19:13
It's funny to see this thread here because I have contemplated posting the same question!

It's not that I only feel fat in pictures...I am well aware of my situation but now that I'm losing weight, when I look in the mirror, I FEEL so much differently than before...so when I see a picture and it doesn't reflect what I see in the mirror, I'm amazed. It's depressing in a way...but also helpful to motivate me to keep going. I'm obviously not there yet!

It's all just a lesson in how powerful our minds are! If our brains can trick us into looking thin/thinner when we clearly are not, that's pretty incredible. What about days when you look in the mirror and you may have not eaten well for a day or two and you feel like you look significantly more overweight? That's all mental, too.
nomik

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Posted: 25 Jun 2010, 19:50
Thank God! I am not alone. I've always heard about how anorexic people always saw themselves as a huge fat person when looking in the mirror. So, I've come to believe that I am the same way, only when I see myself in a mirror, I think, "wow, I look great! I am not that fat." Then I will see myself in a photo and just break down and cry. Do other people really see me as such?? So, pictures don't lie and it is a turning point in my weight loss. I keep one such "horribly huge me" photo taped to the inside of my food journal. When I want something not so good for me, I open the book and think about that image and I will walk away from any temptation.



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