Can't find a reason to lose weight

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CherryPie

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Posted: 31 May 2010, 06:29
After 5 weeks on a diet I am bored, fed up and unmotivated. I normally eat sensibly and move a fair amount anyway. I've lost 5lb but I'm so miserable it isn't true. I don't put on tons of weight - I've never weighed more than 87 kg and I was 85.9 kg when I started this diet - now 83.3. I don't look any different, feel a great deal more miserable and really can't see areason to carry on. The only reason I am on the diet is that I have high blood pressure (doctor did not suggest I diet it was my own idea) and I know I am a bit obverweight for my height.

I don't mind how I look - how do I feel on the beach fabulous!! It's the beach I love and I've never given a thought to what other people think about me in my cossie. I don't eat junk food (there are not takeaways within a 30 mile radius of home) and am NEVER going to the gym cos I loathe that kind of exercise. I can and do walk 10 - 15 km regularly, live in a house with 66 stairs that I run up and down all day so my excess weight doesn't bother me in any physical way.

My husband - who is thin and eats like a horse - thinks I'm great and doesn't get the dieting either which doesn't help. I run a B & B in France where we eat with guests most of the time and holidaymakers don't want to know about diets.

I feel I should lose weight and it seems a shame to give up - but it is making me miserable and I can't see the point in being miserable. I just can't see any benefits - anyone got any words of wisdom to help me motivate myself?
anapdc

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Posted: 31 May 2010, 07:05
Well, I think you have your health as motivation. High blood pressure isnt pretty and if it gets worse, more problems may come. If your health isnt worth it, I dont know what else can be. Maybe your diet has been too restrictive? Same foods? Investigate the reason which is making you feel bored. Is it really the diet?

Bottom line: if you cannot find the reason to continue, and you feel as bad as you say, follow your heart and be happy Smile
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CherryPie

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Posted: 31 May 2010, 16:53
Thanks for the reply. Intellectually I know the health thing is true, but as I don't feel in the slightest unwell it is difficult. The boredom comes from feeling controlled. Normally I don't even think about food. I don't snack much and I just eat when I feel like it. Being forced to think about it seems like such a drag. I love socialising (which almost always revolves around food here in France).

Because normally I feel great and happy, being restricted makes me miserable.
rjenkins27

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Posted: 31 May 2010, 17:04
Other than the high blood pressure issue, I don't see any problem based on what you've stated. If you are miserable dieting, but feel good about yourself and overall health, you may not be a good candidate for losing weight. You sound like you have a positive attitude about yourself which is very good.

That being said, the blood pressure issue would probably improve if you lost some weight. If you decide not to give up yet, you may feel differently when you start noticing the benefits of getting fit(ter). There are many beside the number on a scale.

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karbear45

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Posted: 31 May 2010, 18:18
Maybe you need a more structured diet plan, rather than your own plan - one that teaches you how different foods affect your body.
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k8yk

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Posted: 31 May 2010, 18:28
May I ask how tall you are? You may already be close to an ideal weight for your frame. Remember, those BMI charts don't work for everyone. But seriously, your diet shouldn't be torture. I rather enjoy my diet at this point. If it's torture, you're doing it wrong, lol Smile You should make just small changes to your regular eating habits which sound pretty good.
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WholeFoodsEa...

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Posted: 31 May 2010, 19:18
Hi Cherry -- I agree with K8. If you don't want to diet, why should you? If you feel healthy and happy, just go with it!

(There are a lot of myths out there that being at or above certain weights is detrimental to your health, but the reality is that the science doesn't back a lot of those studies up. In fact, being slightly overweight is a health *benefit* in some cases.)

If you are happy with the way you look and the way you feel, there's no reason why you shouldn't just do what you're doing and keep feeling great!!!
scavid

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Posted: 31 May 2010, 22:56
Instead of focusing on dieting to lose weight to help your high blood pressure, maybe look at the other reasons for it like smoking, too much salt, too much alcohol, or stress. I think I've also read that people who don't get enough potassium, magnesium and calcium are affected. Read up on high blood pressure and see which areas you can improve. High blood pressure is not just caused by one thing.
I will be good!
CherryPie

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Posted: 01 Jun 2010, 00:57
Thank you everyone for replying. Maybe I am just meant to be this way. I'm 5' 7", I don't put weight on or take it off easily. To lose any appreciable amount of weight I need to eat less than 1400 calories a day which for someone active (I walk, do yoga, swim canoe and am on my feet all day) doesn't seem like enough and I'm starving at that amount. Recently went on amonths holiday, never thought about food and neither put on or took off one ounce. I went to Weightwatchers once and put on weight!

I've had tests for thyroid etc - nothing wrong, lowish cholesterol - as doctor puzzled why with diet and lifestyle I'm not thin! I can honestly say I've never had any real urge to be thinner, and around me when women say they can't do this or that (go on beach, wear sleeveless top etc) because they are few pounds overweight I've always thought they were mad. Maybe to diet you need to feel real urge to be thinner.

K8 - you are kind but I might be right weight for a six footer lol.
Runesinger

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Posted: 01 Jun 2010, 01:12
I am also trying to lose weight to reduce my blood pressure. My doctor said if you can reduce 10% of your body wieght, it can have a dramatic impact on your blood pressure.

Even if you must dine with your guests, you can be discreet, and avoid eating the specific foods that affect your weight.

It's not just cutting calories that help you lose weight. I have been told to reduce my intake to 1200 calories, but I'm not even near that (more like 1900 calories). Also, most of my calories are coming from fat, but I am steadily losing on my diet. Diets don't work the same for all people. Try to find one that works for you.
WholeFoodsEa...

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Posted: 01 Jun 2010, 01:23
For those looking to reduce high blood pressure, I have to suggest that you at least read up on the Atkins' diet. Dr. Atkins was a heart doctor, and helping his heart and high blood pressure patients was the original goal of the diet he created. Also, the science book "Good Calories, Bad Calories" by Gary Taubes has some information about this. It's definitely worth looking at, and doesn't require cutting calories at all to lose weight.

Two more resources: the Atkins community boards on the Atkins website, and if you google "Friends in Low-Carb Places" you'll find another board like it. There are tons of people on there who've reduced their blood pressure by switching to an Atkins way of eating. Eating fat is actually good for your heart!
CherryPie

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Posted: 01 Jun 2010, 01:44
Couldn't do Atkins - love fruit and veg far too much! Just want to eat normally. Personally think the blood pressure is stress induced and THAt I would love to do something about. Unfortunately life is just a bit stressful right now.

I don't mind cutting out cakes, or even alcohol but unfortunately those small measures just don't work for me. Same with exercise - if you are already active (I rarely do less than the 10000 steps a day - mostly more) increasing activity is hard. And weight lifting, jogging etc is OK for those who like it but if you really hate it it's hardly going to improve your quality of life.
Runesinger

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Posted: 01 Jun 2010, 01:49
You might try my diet, which is somewhat low-carb (<100g/day), but you get your carbs from vegetables, fruits, dairy, and nuts. That way, you ensure more complete nutrition.
WholeFoodsEa...

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Posted: 01 Jun 2010, 03:23
Atkins is low-carb but includes fruits and veg -- those are the only carbs on the plan. It's extremely balanced and healhy. Don't go by the myths you hear, read the plan, then decide. I eat salad, asparagus, blueberries, avacado, scallions, etc. everyday.
LostKittenRa...

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Posted: 01 Jun 2010, 10:03
I was going to tell you about my motivation... but then I realised it won't really help you... because my motivation is a boy, lol... and you're married to a husband that doesn't see any reason for you to diet... so I mean I read in a couple of these comments people telling you to be happy... I definitely agree, I mean from what you've said other then the blood pressure thing you don't seem that out of shape to begin with... so go be happy... it's when you start feeling un-happy over your weight that you'll really find the motivaiton/inspiration to stick it out with a diet or exercising... I hate both but I hate being the weight I am more, lol
k8yk

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Posted: 01 Jun 2010, 10:13
Well, I certainly understand what you are saying. I totally agree that food is an enjoyable part of life and socializing. Dieting makes that difficult. Maybe if you gave yourself 1 day a week to relax your diet and then followed it the rest of the time, it would help you not feel so miserable about it.
It does sound like you don't like the idea of focused exercise, but you might surprise yourself if you gave it a chance. I absolutely hated exercise and now I love it. How about bike riding? Swimming? Exercise doesn't have to mean the gym, but if you get your heart rate up it's really going to help you lose weight and become healthier.
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kjoiner

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Posted: 01 Jun 2010, 10:40
I agree with K8 so much here. I give myself 1 day a week to eat what I want and do not care at all the amount of calories. So I have something to look forward to over the weekend. Sunday is Pizza and ice cream day. Wink

And High BP is not always what you eat, but sometimes what you are lacking in your diet. May want to read up more on it.
CherryPie

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Posted: 01 Jun 2010, 13:09
I swim, canoe, do yoga and walk (10 km this afternoon and that's quite normal). That's why I can't see me doing other forms of exercise that i don't like. I've got 3/4 acre of sloping garden and as I said 4 storey house with 66 stairs so think i do get enough exercise for me.

Maybe Lost Kitten is right - I've often mused about being thinner but never wanted to be thinner more than i wanted to eat out and enjoy myself. I do eat out (usually at other peoples houses) about 3 times a week adn the rest of the time I'm feeding hordes of people on holiday food and wine. I'm thinking of only trying to diet 2 days a week but be much stricter (ie eat not much) and see if that works.
tglenna

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Posted: 02 Jun 2010, 11:16
Instead of dieting, why not focus on the problem at hand - high blood pressure.

Here are some foods that are shown to improve heart and blood health - Apples, Bananas, Carrots, Grapes, Tomatos.

Foods that specifically help control blood pressure: Apricots, Avocados, Beets, Broccoli, Cantaloupe, Figs, Garlic, lemons, limes, mushrooms.
CherryPie

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Posted: 02 Jun 2010, 16:25
Thanks tglenna - that's a good idea. Apart from beetroot (yuck) I like all those things so maybe up the consumption.

Went out to dinner tonight and decided not to diet. Daily consumption still only 2200 calories - and boy do I feel better for eating what i want.



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