Success on Day 1

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Posted: 24 May 2010, 15:27
Hi everyone, my name is Emily, I'm a happily married, stay at home mom who recently entered and then left the work force since having my little girl. I was a size 6 four years ago in high school and I'm a repulsive size 12-14 now, which for some may not be big, but I've gained 70 pounds in four years, and there are days where I can't stand the sight of myself, so please don't judge.

I have friends who use fat secret and LOVE it, so I thought I'd give it a try, and I have to admit, I love it myselfVery Happy! It has given me a sense of control that I just can't get enough of. Today is day one for me, and so far, I've done remarkabley (sp) well.

I would appreciate any advice, tips, guidance, or inspiration that anyone may care to share, until next time, I wish you all luck in your own dieting endeavors.

Take Care!
"If any man be in Christ he is a new creation, the old has passed away, behold! The new has come!" II Corinthians 5:17.

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Posted: 24 May 2010, 15:42
Ok, so first, 12 to 14 isn't repulsive. It's just not. And, I'm not saying that because I'm 16-18 and still not repulsed by myself. I'm not happy with myself, but I'm not repulsed. That's a big ugly word!

The thing is that if you're repulsed with yourself at 12 to 14, then you don't love yourself. And, if you don't love yourself, this isn't going to go well for you.

I say that because even when I love myself, when I attempt to lose weight and then give up because things aren't working for me as quick as I'd like, then I gain anything I've lost plus another 10%. If you don't love yourself as you embark on this life changing thing, you'll fail. And, failure means you'll get bigger, not smaller. You have to love yourself just as you are right now or nothing will stick (except the pounds you don't want!)

So, here's my thoughts. First, love YOU. Second, start drinking more water, or eliminating snacks or some other move in the right direction. Once you're feeling the "self-love", then start making more changes. Once you aren't repulsed by yourself, then maybe you should start measuring your changes (ie, weighing yourself). You have to commit to not beating yourself up if you "slip up." I put it in quotes because at this point, I don't believe in slip ups. It's all just life, and I'm not going to beat myself up over anything related to food because that is sabotage!

I'll get off my soapbox now. To be repulsed with oneself is huge. Maybe I'm reading too much into it.
DISCLAIMER: I expect to lose this weight over the next 6 months to 5 years. I'm not going to feel like a failure if it takes an entire month to lose 1 pound. I'm going to feel like a success when that happens! I may offer advice that I'm currently not taking myself. Feel free to call me on that!

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Posted: 24 May 2010, 15:42
welcome Smile This site has helped me a LOT! I am sure it will help you too Smile

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Posted: 24 May 2010, 15:44
Welcome. Site is helping me out a lot. You have no idea how much you consume until you see it right there in front of you!!!

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Posted: 24 May 2010, 15:57
Hey Emily, I was just looking over what you have eaten this day one of your journey. I am a little concerned that you are going to try and starve yourself thin. I just want to say that this does not work. Your RDI of 1200 calories should be something that you target to eat every day. Then the key is to exercise enough to maintain a negative calorie balance. One pound of body fat is equivalent to 3500 calories. So, if you are wanting to lose the weight safely (1 to 2 pounds a week) you need to have a calorie deficit around 500 to 1000 calories a day (500 x 7 = 3500 or 1000 x 7 = 7000). One thing to remember is that your body will not lose at the exact same rate that you burn it. Don't expect to kill a workout one day and hop on the scale the next and be down a pound from that workout. It may show up then or it may wait a week. It's just how the body works, we have to deal with it and understand that. Another thing to remember is that you may lose quickly for a little while and then stall for a while. That is a normal reaction by the body until it figures out what is happening. It will break and your work will show up after it adjusts. Don't give up or get discouraged. Lastly, we are all here to help you through this process. Make friends in the forums, complete challenges, and add buddies. Feel a sense of accomplishment in all the little victories along the way and know that we are all very proud of you for taking the first step.

"Beyond the very extreme of fatigue and distress, we may find amounts of ease and power we never dreamed ourselves to own; sources of strength never taxed at all because we never push through the obstruction." -William James

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Posted: 24 May 2010, 16:09
I get what Emily is saying with being repulsed by her current weight. When I realized a size 36 was to small and I was going to have to buy 38's, I had the same feelings about myself. Not that I thought everyone above a 38 was terrible but for myself that was to much because I had always been a 34. I didn't hate myself but I sure was angry that I let myself go that much. Lucky enough a friend told me about FS and I have been losing the weight with a healthy lifestyle and help from the members. Thanks a lot all you guys.
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Posted: 24 May 2010, 17:31
Hi Emily, Well you are heading in the right direction..I started this site about a week ago and I love it.. I have the app on my phone so I get to log all my food as I eat so I dont forget anything.. I have found that alot of people do not get that we can feel big and be in the size we are..I am in a size 10 and was always in a 3 everyone tells me I am not fat but I know my body and what I am comfortable at..I am 130 lbs and my hips and knees hurt when I am at this stage but get me down to 120 they dont bother me.. as long as you are doing it for you that is what counts..Good luck with your journey to a healthier you if you want a buddy feel free to add me..Melissa

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Posted: 24 May 2010, 17:43
Size 12 is about as thin as I'll ever be with my frame Smile It is not repulsive. Not everyone is meant to be a size 2. I didn't take offense, but be careful making statements like that. We are all different Smile
You have gotten much great advice here already. I especially think gcramsey had some useful advice. This it the most common dieting mistake: eating too little. It backfires every time either because you lose muscle mass, which makes it very hard to maintain, or because you get tired of being hungry all the time, crack, and binge. The slower you do it, the better it will be in the long run. And remember, permanent weight loss results from a permanent change. You have to learn a new way of eating that you can live with for life. Old habits = old body.
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Posted: 24 May 2010, 18:21
I'm a size 13-16. All it is is big hips, I don't equate my pants size to my "fatness" and "repulsiveness". Smile

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Posted: 24 May 2010, 18:31
Hi Emily! Welcome! I really love this site and I hope you do too! I also love the phone app. It makes everything soo easy! I think the best advice I could give you is to be realistic in your expectations. It's a journey and we will all make it one lb. at a time! Good luck! If you'd like a buddy, feel free to add me1


He must increase, but I must decrease. John3:30

“No diet will remove all the fat from your body because the brain is entirely fat. Without a brain, you might look good, but all you could do is run for public office.” George Bernard Shaw

People judge you by your actions, not your intentions. You may have a heart of Gold, but so does a hard boiled egg.

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Posted: 24 May 2010, 22:15
Hey Emily welcome!!! I have loved using fatsecret too! Good luck on your journey Smile

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Posted: 24 May 2010, 23:23
Yeah don't be repulsed by size 12. After all, Marilyn Monroe was a size 12 and she was a GODDESS. Smile
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Posted: 25 May 2010, 06:42
Yes, Marilyn was, but I promise, I don't look like her. haha, if I did, I wouldn't have reason to complain.
"If any man be in Christ he is a new creation, the old has passed away, behold! The new has come!" II Corinthians 5:17.

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Posted: 25 May 2010, 06:44
And Thank you, StrongestSmile The same to you. And thank you Keith, you got it to a T. I'm glad someone took me the right waySmile I admit, I can be abrasive in my thoughts, but that's just it, they're my thoughts on myself that I'm just sharing with others, and in no way are those thoughts meant to offend others, or are meant to be directed at others.
"If any man be in Christ he is a new creation, the old has passed away, behold! The new has come!" II Corinthians 5:17.

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Posted: 25 May 2010, 17:17
I would LOVE to be a size 12 - 14! Smile

You'll get a lot of advice and support here. Good luck to you! Smile

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