Does anyone else ever feel this way...?

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JinxE

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Posted: 04 Sep 2009, 20:09
I just joined Weight Watchers for the 3rd time in my life. I have been "morbidly obese" since I was 5 years old. Getting started and maintaining momentum have always been a problem for me. My heaviest period was during the 1990s,at 5'10" I weighed 320lbs. I managed to lose weight and get down to 240lbs but now I weigh 288lbs which is my new high.

The weird thing though is that after having been in the 300lbs for so long I got used to people ignoring me or making fun of me. So as I lose weight people are suddenly acting "especially friendly".... This just really bothers me when they didn't want to know me when I was heavier... So this "suddenly friendly" effect often annoys me and can trigger me to seek my comfort foods...

Has anyone else ever felt that way or have I created an emotional crutch that enables me to pull the comfort food trigger?
indiehjarta

Joined: Apr 09
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Posted: 04 Sep 2009, 20:28
And when you lose, people will tell you that you are getting too thin. Stay away from those kinds of people., they are out to keep you down below them, where they think you belong * gasps* how dare a fatty try and lose their weight. The best kinds of people are the one's that loved and liked you before you lost. But, I know what you mean. When I was morbidly obese I was ignored and over looked by guys(not that I was looking for their attention, I am happily married). I don't quite know how to handle the unwanted attention I get from men now.Neutral Or the snotty treatment I get now from other women ( thin or not . One lady jokingly said that I made her sick,I just told her that I honestly worked my ass off, killed myself to get the body I have now. If she did not have the same desire to do so for herself, that was not my problem. You just have to do what you want and be very upfront with people. They will try and drag you down and keep you down.
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JinxE

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Posted: 04 Sep 2009, 20:41
Thanks for the advice Indie! Your story is so inspirational!
indiehjarta

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Posted: 04 Sep 2009, 21:20
Thank you, you are welcome!
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LuLuitchka

Joined: Jul 09
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Posted: 06 Sep 2009, 11:49
A woman told me something yesterday that I needed to hear. I expressed my frustration at... okay, I was whining... at my situation and how exercising and dieting was frustrating. I sarcastically said that I hoped this stuff paid off eventually and I'm tired of feeling better but not seeing any visible results She just said, "I just try to be healthy for today." That really struck me on many levels- the main one being to take this aspect of my life one day, one hour, one moment at a time. It lifted a huge burden from my shoulders. Now I don't have to worry about what I'm going to eat at Christmas, because it's September. I just have to worry about and plan for today.

Hope this helps.
vf123

Joined: Oct 08
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Posted: 06 Sep 2009, 12:41
how true LuLuitchka! that is how i try to attack my diet this time around(it's been several times...some successful, some not). one day at a time, one hour at a time and sometimes one moment at a time(that's how i've learned to deal with things). for me this will be a lifelong journey(hopefully not struggle this time), if i want the results to last forever. and as far as how other people react to you JinxE, do this for yourself and for you alone, so that you feel better about yourself. currently i have a co-worker who is always trying to get me to eat things she knows i don't want to eat...pizza,doughnuts,etc., but she also has a weight problem, and right now for whatever reason she can't seem to a diet plan, i say she's jealous because she knows i'm having success and she is trying to sabotage me in order to make herself feel better, well you know what i'm better than that! and so are you! GOOD LUCK TO YOU1
indiehjarta

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Posted: 06 Sep 2009, 13:17
If you keep it up yes you will see results, but the woman is right. Live for now, enjoy yourself even your current weight for today. “Be happy for this moment is your life”
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petlove

Joined: Aug 09
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Posted: 06 Sep 2009, 14:02
JinxE wrote:
I just joined Weight Watchers for the 3rd time in my life. I have been "morbidly obese" since I was 5 years old. Getting started and maintaining momentum have always been a problem for me. My heaviest period was during the 1990s,at 5'10" I weighed 320lbs. I managed to lose weight and get down to 240lbs but now I weigh 288lbs which is my new high.

The weird thing though is that after having been in the 300lbs for so long I got used to people ignoring me or making fun of me. So as I lose weight people are suddenly acting "especially friendly".... This just really bothers me when they didn't want to know me when I was heavier... So this "suddenly friendly" effect often annoys me and can trigger me to seek my comfort foods...

Has anyone else ever felt that way or have I created an emotional crutch that enables me to pull the comfort food trigger?
LauraJo98

Joined: Sep 09
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Posted: 30 Oct 2009, 20:52
I lost some "friends" as I lost weight. Obviously, they were never friends. My true friends are the ones who stuck by me and celebrated every friggin pound gone, even after listening to me go on, and on...and on...and on...about losing weight and this or that getting too big. They were genuinely happy for me. I am so blessed with their love and friendship. And the others? pffft...I no longer care.
Just do it. Stop with the "I'ma gonna" or "I wanna......" JUST FU**NG DO IT.
sjm1027

Joined: Sep 09
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Posted: 01 Nov 2009, 18:17
Nice job reaching goal, you look great!!

Steve
sfpaperboy

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Posted: 02 Nov 2009, 20:26
I think indiehjarta and LauraJo98 both are great inspirations to me. I hope to follow in their footsteps. As for the friends I lose along the way...so be it. If the so called friends are not supporting me living a longer and healthier life then I really don't need them in it. Not to be rude, but you really don't have to let their comments enter your head...I look at people with mean thoughts or comments about my weight loss as sad...I feel more pity for them than anger. I look forward to more guidance from the people on fatsecret, on my journey. Thanks and Congratulations to those that are nearing their goals and those that have made it and are maintaining.
indiehjarta

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Posted: 02 Nov 2009, 20:27
Hey thanks. I saw my name and thought I would reply Smile
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