Avoiding people when your weight is up

I guess this is more for the chronic yo-yoers, but do any of you avoid certain people because you know that they will:

1) bring up/counsel your weight gain
2) talk behind your big behind about your weight gain
3) make faces
4) Scream "OH MY GOD YOU ARE FAT"
5) Etc.

I just posted this under another topic, I think it deserves it's own.

I am avoiding my BFF and my mother. Avoiding my mother is normal though. But if my butt were smaller I would not be avoiding her like the plague.

I'm alone on this one I guess....

No I know what you mean!!!! I definitely avoid certain people when I've "let myself go".....I'm trying to stop isolating myself and be positive. The weight will come off.

i do the same thing! think anyone knows we're doing this?

I know I don't like to see people from my past when my weight is up... which is especially hard with Facebook and what not, I am constantly reconnecting with people and the wnt to hang out and it's hard to explain that I'm not making a lot of public appearances right now. I'm only letting my current close friends see me... If I ahven't seen them in the last year, then they are going to ahve to wait a few months. I just don't want anyone to have this current image of me burned into their brain...

I like to think of the next 9 months- or however long it will take- that it's like the make-over montage in the movie of my life. And then I get to have a big coming out party when we have the finished product. If only it were as simple and as fast as a montage!

I think my BFF is clueless, even though I drop hints
She says "well you looked fine the last time I saw you"... and I say nothing, and she always drops the subject.
Or she says "it doesn't matter, you are beautiful no matter what, and so what if you are "thick" you can pull it off", this coming from a girl with a 23 inch waist. Eh.

I would hate it if someone avoided me because they thought I would judge them, but the people that I am avoiding have all said things about my weight when I was like 40-50 less than I am now!!! I bet my mom suspects something cause I told her once that I didn’t want to see her cause I was ‘fat’ she said “that’s silly” but then made comments! Bah.

I like the big reveal concept. I’m working that one myself

I know what your saying, all my mom ever says is " when I was your age I had a small figure" I just listen to her, cuz I know she is not tryin' to be mean. Its that most of my life I have been thin, but since I got a sit down job 10 years ago, my weight has balloned from 145 to 205!! I hate to see old friends, they ask wheter I'm expecting or am I just chunky! ahhh I will show them..remember ladies " A GREAT PLEASURE IN LIFE IS DOING WHAT OTHERS SAY YOU CAN'T!!" have a great weekend

if she's your BFF I dont think she'd mind. I feel naked sometimes but I dont avoid social situations because of it. i have a friend who always warns me she has gained weight. i really don't care. i like her for her and I'm sure your BFF and Mom feel the same. Besides, its really none of their business what yoru weight is. Meet them and have a great time

I think my situation is just the opposite. I am the mom of a college athlete who played three (3) sports in high school! During his high school years we were on the go with football, basketball, and baseball all the time. Yes. It is an excuse but that hectic go-go-go-ing is how I gained my weight. I ate at concession stands, drove through drive-through's at ten pm and did not make the time for exercise. When he went away to college I then had the time to exercise and focus on my own good health but I do not go to games any more. So now that I am fairly thin - after losing 44 pounds - we don't go to the football, basketball, and baseball games any more. How ironic! We should go out more often - huh! I definitely did not avoid people when my weight was up.

I find I also avoid people or social functions when my weight is up. I even hate to go grocery shopping, I run into so many people I know. My clothes do not fit well or look good me. At least that is how I feel. I feel bloated and do not want others to see that. Why??????????????????????????? I am still the same person!!!!!!!!

I thought I was the only one!!

I avoid my step father! He makes some mean comments to my mom especially but little snippy comments to me like "I guess tomorrow you'll be back to eating McDonalds" or "Here she goes again" but keep in mind he has been fit all his life, works out 4 days a week and has never been overweight a day in his life. It is at a point that I don't even mention that I am on a diet to him or around him. I will just let the evidence show when I am in some skinny jeans a few months from now. I think this is one of the major reasons my mom won't do this diet with me, because she knows that he will say things to her when she starts it. I really hate it because he is so good at fitness, that he really could be helping both of us but instead he would rather tear down!

ive always been small even the day i was getting ready to have my son i only weighed 135 lbs that was 4 years ago.
However in the last 9 months i have been through a lot and just put my health outta my thoughts. I got up to 143 pounds and im only 4ft11
Ive been workin on a lifestyle change for the last 2 months and im currently 134lbs. I still try and avoid everyone. I know they're thinkin what happened to her is she expecting? I feel so horrible but its getting better.

i can't say that i've ever really avoided anyone because my weight is up, probably because i've been pretty overweight for most of my adult life, but i can completely understand the feeling of wanting to! I have certainly been uncomfortable in some social situations at my weight, particularly when it comes to family functions with those i haven't seen in ages. i love this online community, though! i never imagined that i would EVER post my actual weight ANYWHERE online!! it's comfortable here, and i know that i don't have anyone to avoid HERE!

Ohhh yeah. After I was preggo I avoided my entire extended family in hopes I could lose it quickly and pretend I had never been fat. I have one picture with each son just after birth, and literally nothing else, because pictures must be shared with my spread out family, and I refused. I toughened up and took some 'before' pictures about a month ago, but it was the first time in literally three years. Of marriage, I might add. Just sad.

Yes. I avoid people like the plague. That's one of the reasons I'm trying so hard to stay motivated. Tired of avoiding people.

I have recently connected with several friends from way back on Facebook, but have avoided face to face get togethers because of my weight.

I avoid people like crazy. I live in a small town and all the people I went to high school with pretty much still live here too! I was a size 0 when I graduated. I have seen a couple people over the last 2 weeks and both times launched into an explanation of how I gained the weight and that I am on a diet and exercising now. I know they probably just wanted to get away from me. I have missed out on SO much because of the embarrassment I feel about my weight.

I avoid my dad and my brother when my weight is up. They are both athletic and well build well my brother started putting on some weight after he got married but he got rid of it before it got to bad. They both however are always quick to make jokes about my weight and what not when I start to swell up again.

Blessed Be
Mark