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skitz600

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Posted: 16 Jun 2008, 09:51
How can I tell my husband that I want to be vegetarian again? I don't want him to think I am crazy or just doing it to lose weight. I have to say that I do like the taste of some meats, but I just can't stand to think of it raw! I don't know how my husband will respond and I don't know how I can cook meals for the both of us. He loves meat and wouldn't give it up for anything! Please Help! Confused
alannahangel

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Posted: 16 Jun 2008, 09:55
Im kinda veggie - but I have prawns occasionally . lol.
I would just tell him that you at something dodgy - ( even pretend to be ill a bit) - and that it has put you off meat for life. Perfectly good reason ( I assume you are posting this because he does not approve of veggie lifestyle) If he carries on not agreeing - then get graphic about your food poisoning symptoms. that should work lol xxx
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jeanvabu

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Posted: 17 Jun 2008, 07:15
I'm assuming that he knows you used to be vegetarian. I can only speak from my own experience, be honest and up front with your reasons for wanting to choose this lifestyle. Make sure YOU are committed to doing it and be clear. I don't agree with the post before me about creating shady reasons to give your husband since communication and honesty are so important in that relationship.

In my house, I am vegetarian (have been for about 10 years), my husband is not. When he met me he knew I was and the guidelines were developed as our relationship developed. I cook for both of us, mainly because he's lazy. I've set aside cooking materials for him to use should he wish to have meat in the house. However, he mainly just eats meat when we go out to dinner and truthfully it's better than meat I could cook. Many times he has said that he prefers some of my veg meals over what he could whip up.

A huge plus with my husband is he has never ever tried to convince me to eat meat. Granted I've tried to change him to being vegetarian but I've learned from that.
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fallingoff

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Posted: 17 Jun 2008, 16:34
I recently went vegan and it's been difficult with my husband who eats meat daily. We have agreed that I'll cook my vegan meals for the two of us and if he wants meat, he cooks it himself and adds it to his plate. Sometimes, I'll cook the meat and then have him taste it to his liking.

I have to agree it's best to be upfront and honest about going vegetarian. There are several reasons to go vegetarian and weight loss should not be the top priority of going this route. Such reasons: health (lower cholesterol, fat), disgusting factory farms, animal cruelty, possible impact on climate change (less demand on beef may mean less methane gas which may cool the earth - this hasn't been proven but some scientists are pushing it).

Aside from this, make it clear that he doesn't have to join you and you won't force him to do so. Then make a plan on how you'll make your meals together work. Best of luck!
typeAblood

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Posted: 30 Jun 2008, 08:36
i'm a vegetarian and my husband although doesn't mind eating the soy and tofu he does like to have fish and meat. so since the fish and meat will take a little longer to cook just let it simmer in a pot and make whatever else you two eat along with your soy or tofu in a separate place. it's worked for me. true i do have 3 pots to clean when i'm done but i know that if i tell him to make his own meat he wouldn't do it bc he's too lazy to and then he'll be hungry a little while later and then he'll start eating empty calories which he hates doing.
amryk

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Posted: 30 Jun 2008, 10:57
I'm a vegetarian and my husband is not. We either do our own thing in the kitchen, or he cooks a dish and leaves out the meat until I take some. It helps to have a husband that cooks! I don't cook meat- I would, but he wouldn't like it! Smile I'm not a very good cook!
tessa

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Posted: 30 Jun 2008, 15:30
Don't be afraid to be a veggie head. There are too many good reasons why you should be proud of the choice. Think of it, it's good for you and the environment. Not to mention the savings for your food budget. Chicken $5.28/# or carrots .25/# I cater for a living and people are always so surprised when I tell them I'm vegetarian. How do still cook meat and fish if you don't eat it? I just say hey I ate it for years I know how to cook it properly. It's rare that I get a funny look or a snide remark from someone.
About cooking for meat eaters and yourself, just cook a meal and omit the meat from your portion. For more complicated things like chili just mix up everything but the meat in a big pot and take some of it out for yourself and add the meat to the other pot. Sometimes you have to be a short order cook and sometimes the other person has to eat what you're eating. We need to realize that we don't need to eat meat at every meal.
Pking

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Posted: 30 Jun 2008, 16:20
Agree w/all above. I guess one of the distinct factors of being vegetarian is that you can eat foods freshly picked instead of being processed like animal products. There's nothing like pulling veggies or fruit from the tree or ground, washing it, then eating it in it's natural state. However, trying walking up to a cow or chicken, spray it with a water hose and then take a big bite of it's legs. The County will probably haul you away in a straight-jacket for being labeled a nut-case. lol. But overall, I feel people tend to forget that their bodies are actually made to digest natural foods to get the true nutrients. A lot of nutrients are stripped away once the food hits the process lines(machines) and chemicals (additives) are added instead. So whether you're doing the veggie diet or not, do some research about the foods you're required to eat for the plan--is it natural or processed? Where did it come from? How old is it, and how long a shelf life it has? Why should you eat something with a shelf life of 6 months or more (unfrozen)? Heck, even 2 months is too long for certain foods unless you freeze it. Cool
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sararay

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Posted: 30 Jun 2008, 19:18
I think you should be honest and open about it. Just tell him what you want to do and your solution about how to do it. It is actually easier than you think. People here gave some great ideas on how to work with menus.

I am not vegetarian, but I rarely eat meat, poultry and eggs that I don't know the origin of. I only buy meat from reputable famers who not only treat their animals humanely but feed them properly so that I'm not injesting poisons. Grassfed and free-range animals that are raised properly have less saturated fat and cholesterol in their meat, dairy and eggs. They also have more vitamins, minerals, omega fatty acids and CLA (which aids weight loss). If you are doing it for health reasons, research alternatives.

I was vegetarian for three years, but then found out I was allergic to wheat and soy, so that cuts out a lot of vegetarian options. I thought it was the way to go to be healthy, but I found there are other options. I'm not saying not to be vegetarian, but I've read that minimally you should eat eggs and/or fish for the B vitamins. (Stick to local farm eggs that are from free-range chickens and deep water wild-caught fish for most nutritional value.)

More info: http://www.grasslandbeef.com/

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