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Posted: 13 Dec 2013, 17:43
Hello All,

Where do I begin? Im here so I guess that's better then where I wanted to be: 6 foot under. I look into the mirror and although I know Im beautiful outside makes me ill. I only have myself to blame. Im tired of fad diets and gimmicks. Nothing works but good ole BLOOD, SWEAT and TEARS. I recently went thru treatments for thyroid cancer and had a total thyroidectomy and thought that maybe that was the reason, all these years, I haven't been able to lose the weight I hoped! Not even...since the surgery and meds adjustment, I am heavier then I have ever been. Let me add: I've always been active and count calories most of the time. Now that Im getting deeper into this dark hole, Im finding nothing but hopelessness and praying this site is what will bring me back from the dead. Im 5'6", 210lbs and climbing. I've been counting calories and working out but stay at the same weight. I feel horrible, tired, unmotivated and depressed most always. I keep wondering if its the foods Im eating or if my thyroid has anything to do with my weight loss situation....I need a life. I need to stop making my world about my weight and making it define who I am...but unfortunately, this is the world we live in-if anyone says otherwise, you're wrong. So, this is my last go at last hope. Im tired. Im worn down and Im on this site for some encouragement and possibly so help. Thanks for listening to my I've got work to do. Sad
Jen Luley
"Stand for Something, or Fall for Anything!"

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Posted: 13 Dec 2013, 18:38
Start by logging the food and exercise. Even though you are not new to calorie counting, try to look at what you are actually eating. Are your choices healthy or are these empty calories? Are you eating enough vegetables? Are you getting enough vitamins and minerals? Are you getting enough healthy fats, protein? Do you eat too much sugar and processed food? Start tweeking your diet to eat healthier. You will start feeling better. Create moderate deficit, don't try to lose a lot of weight immediately. If you feel you are depressed, start spending as much time outside as you can. You need daylight and sun to fight depression. Walking and moderate exercise outside during daylight should make a difference. Try to normalize your sleep. I.e. you are not here just to lose weight, you have to change your lifestyle, normalize your hormones and defeat your inner deamons, whatever they are. Find buddies. You will recieve a lot of support from them. There are many of people on this site who lost weight succesfully. They are eager to share their experience and advice. Some of us are still moving in the right direction. There are many others like you who have various medical issues but are still using this site succesfully. Whatever you do, do not despair and do not quit. It is your body, you need to start taking good care of it. Good luck.
The first thing you lose on a diet is your sense of humor. ~ Author Unknown
It doesn’t matter what diet you follow… What matters is what makes you follow your diet. ~ Tom Venuto

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Posted: 13 Dec 2013, 19:17
Extra weight is a serious issue, but there is so much more to life than weight. If I keep looking at my flabby stomach I will know that I am wasting time losing weight. I wish you the best. My best advice is to be painfully honest with yourself. Was that slice of pie really only 1/8 or more like 1/4. I have been there. I now tend to exaggerate my intake just to balance out. But,the truth will give you freedom. You can do it! Believe and achieve! One day at a time. One ounce at a time. You are worth it!

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Posted: 13 Dec 2013, 19:35
My sister in law sounds exactly like you. She had thyroid cancer and removal of her thyroid. She follows my diet now and both her and my brother are losing weight. Together they've lost 200lbs in 2013. In addition to calorie counting i watch my percentage of macros. I have (or had) a sluggish thyroid and was told i wasn't getting enough protein. I basically have 30-35% of my calories from protein, 45-50% from healthy fats and 15-25 % carb (for me these are unrefined.....fruits and veg only). 90% of the time my food only has one ingredient...if it comes in a box, bag or can i leave it at the store. Means a lot more work in the kitchen which my sister in law was unaccustomed to but after 2 weeks and a 10lb drop seemingly with no effort she decided to make a significant change which also included exercise. You'll get there, you just have to see what works for you...analyze what you are doing now (which is not working) and change your macros percentage and see what happens. Just don't give up on yourself! 16 months ago i was 210 and only 5 foot 3

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Posted: 13 Dec 2013, 20:57
Thanks all! I will continue. I know its going to be a slow process but I allow negative self-talk to get the best of me. I often spend more time comparing myself to others and where I can be to what I am! I know Im never going to be a model-not stick thin, nor do I want too...but I need to feel better about myself first-and HEALTHY. My husband and family loves me but if I don't love myself, I don't think I can do this. I appreciate the advice and will seek "buddies" in the same boat to go thru this journey with me. Smile
Jen Luley
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Posted: 14 Dec 2013, 01:13
REALLY try to get out of the negative self-talk mode. Having a postive weight loss journey makes things so much easier. Spend a few sessions with a pshychologist if you need to. It's all worth it, trust me. I work with people with depressions and other illnesses and the changes I see from even a few sessions can be amazing.

Also, remember this little quote:

“You wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.”
― Eleanor Roosevelt

The only one who REALLY care how you look - is you. The rest is just a mind game that you're playing.

Focus on your journey onwards. Forget the past and forget where you are now. Look forward, always.

You can do this.

Feel free to add me as a buddy if you like. Smile
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Posted: 14 Dec 2013, 06:36
Step 1) So, here’s your assignment. First, notice the s##t you’ve been talking to yourself. When do you get triggered? What is that voice saying? Write it out if you have to. Or at least say it out loud to see how badly you’ve been bullying yourself.

Step 2) After you have deciphered the exact language you have been using against yourself, you can then begin to consciously switch the message. What I want you to do, is pick a handful of the following mantras and start fueling your mind with this dialogue. Look for what resonates. What feels better than what you currently say to yourself? Also, feel free to tweak them in any way to feel more applicable to you. Make up your own. Whatever. Anything is better than being a s##t-talker to yourself.

Step 3) Get inundated. Whatever your new message is, I want you to smother yourself with it. This is a reconditioning. Put your favorite mantras on your screensavers… both phone and computer. On your mirrors. On your planners. On you desk at work. In your car. Actively PROGRAM YOUR NEW MESSAGE.

Step 4) Enjoy being kind to yourself. Feels a hell-of-a lot better, huh?

The Mantras

I love the woman I’m becoming.
I am learning the art of self love.
I am a survivor.
I am the only thing in my own way.
I am proud of the woman I am.
I believe I can be kinder to myself.
I have the power to change my world.
I choose to let others opinions of me be their responsibility.
I will conduct myself in such a way in which I can be proud.
I have much to celebrate.
I am actively becoming a better me.
If it is a plant, eat it, if it comes from a plant, don't!

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Posted: 14 Dec 2013, 07:04
great post mummy! most people have felt the way you do fat2fit. at one point in my life I weighed 240, I hated looking in the mirror and hated myself because. I knew only I did it. take control stop the negative! I know its hard but you have to. your family loves you focus on that there is a reason for it. hating the fat me made me change, make small changes keep positive, make bigger changes see results. being here is a good start. good luck.

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Posted: 14 Dec 2013, 13:18
The suggestions from those who have walked closely to your path can help you. I've only had 40 lbs to lose and tracking and measuring has been invaluable.
"The way we eat in America makes us sick, and if we change our diet--simply incrementally-- we will be healthier." Mark Bittman Food Matters


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Posted: 14 Dec 2013, 13:19
Low thyroid levels can make you feel tired, sluggish and depressed. Make sure your medication is correct. A quick way to check if you're getting enough is take your temperature as soon as you wake up, before you get out of bed. If your temperature is low get a blood test.

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Posted: 14 Dec 2013, 20:06
Go to the drug store, buy a small bottle of iodine, very cheap, and put a swab on your inner forearem... Watch how fast it is absorbed into your body... within a minute or two is fast, means your thyroid needs it... 5 minutes and your fine... a simple old test that dr's wont' suggest cause they need to make $$ off tests...
I've been on synthroid for 40 years and I self test all the time.. I also went to a naturapath who put me on pituitary food that feeds the thyroid and it dropped my dosage in 1/2
If it is a plant, eat it, if it comes from a plant, don't!

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Posted: 14 Dec 2013, 21:45
Good info! I, too, have the low thyroid issue. Thanks for sharing
"For attractive lips, speak words of kindness. For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people. For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry. For beautiful hair, let a child run his or her fingers through it once a day. For poise, walk with the knowledge you'll never walk alone."
~Audrey Hepburn

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Posted: 15 Dec 2013, 22:27
My mother had thyroid cancer and her thyroid was removed as well. She's a fighter and my hero -- She works so hard to keep her body healthy after all that it's been through. She stays in tune with her body and notices when the adjustments to her Synthroid take a toll on her appetite or emotions. Listen to your body. Truly think about how you feel: your digestion, hunger, hydration, effects of exercise/ lack thereof. WORK HARD! You CAN do this!!!
In life as in dance, grace glides on blistered feet.
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Posted: 17 Jan 2014, 01:15
You are a survivor! You have faced a lot of obstacles and come out of that. Keep working hard and think of your goal. You can do this.
Woohoo! I am excited! Love this website!

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