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mrspackrat

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Posted: 04 Jun 2014, 11:37
I want to add that my sister had the surgery and sure the initial results were great but she gained much of the weight back and because her body can't absorb nutrients like others, she's now suffering from a multitude of health issues. I think that's why I feel that the calories in/out game is only part of weightloss solution and that the quality of food is so important. She consumed less calories as a result of her surgery but her health has suffered as a result of lack of nutrition (and her body doesn't absorb supplements well either).

If you can solve this through addressing food choices and getting some activity into your life, down the road you will be so much happier and healthier.
this damn tracker below hasn't been right in months! My current weight is 137!
bugatti11

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Posted: 04 Jun 2014, 12:11
thank you for this post
kkd1125

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Posted: 04 Jun 2014, 12:58
It sounds like you have a lot of great advice and you admit that it's you that needs to change and get in the right mindset. What helped me achieve weight loss success finally after many, many years, was changing my focus from LOSING weight to GAINING health. I focused on what I should and could eat to get healthier, not what I couldn't eat and therefore feeling deprived. I also focused on how moving my body even a little bit almost every day made me feel better, have more energy and sleep better. Having a positive focus rather than a negative one (I HAVE to do this, I NEED to lose weight, etc.) is making the journey so much more enjoyable and attainable as a lifestyle. And I agree, baby steps are the way to go. Good luck to you! You can do it.
LuC2

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Posted: 04 Jun 2014, 13:14
Agree 100% KKD1125! Shifting the mind from LOSING weight to GAINING health is paramount! Dropping 10, 20 or 100 lbs is simply a happy byproduct! Wink

LuC2's Height: 5'2" | Starting Weight: 303 lbs | Total Loss-to-Date: -20 lbs
Vickie 5966

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Posted: 04 Jun 2014, 13:41
Really well said kkd1125! What you've said has been my approach as well.

I just said on another thread that ten years from now I plan to be eating the same way I'm eating today. Maybe a couple more occasional indulgences, but no major changes. I can't/won't "diet". If a process involves being miserable, I'm likely to check out sooner than later.

I also agree that when I finally reached the mindset that I needed to do this for ME to feel better, it became much easier. Being told by many people that I needed to lose weight tended to annoy me. And if I do it to "fix" my looks for someone else's approval, it's never going to be quite good enough. Feeling healthier is a much better goal for me both mentally and physically.
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wholefoodnut

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Posted: 04 Jun 2014, 18:03
Kkd1125 well said love that gaining health and Vickie I too want to be eating the same way 10years from now. That's why so called diets, including low carb didn't work for me. If you don't know I collect cookbooks. Funny I was just looking through a cookbook I bought for a buck. Nestles best loved recipes. Looked fun. I love an occasional chocolate treat, one to make for family or friends and a bit of a treat for me, chocolate nut. Treats will be worked into my long range calorie plan. I'm a whole food, mostly natural cook with an occasional fling into fantasy--like to die for chocolate!! Healthy is good and I'm feeling so much better with exercise, good food, and 50+ pounds lighter.

Enjoy the summer and the sunshine.

Jeri
wholefoodnut

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Posted: 04 Jun 2014, 18:24
Mmqc13. Don't buy ice cream or sugar and you can't eat ice cream or sweet tea. If I buy it I will eat or drink it.

Enjoy the summer and the sunshine.

Jeri
nancyor

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Posted: 05 Jun 2014, 07:26
From my perspective, I don't believe in "diets". As others have said, you need to change your eating habits permanently. I have been trying to reduce my cholesterol. I started by cooking my own food every night. I increased my veg and fruit to the recommended amount, a vegetarian meal every week and fish twice a week. I cut out my evening snacks. It has been a year. Sometimes I relapse (my husband eats his snacks every night so it is hard). My cholesterol has come down to a healthy level and my weight is coming down slowly. I draw up a meal plan every week and buy my groceries from that. It has become a habit and it really gets easier! Don't forget to exercise though. It's more than just changing what you eat! Good luck...
nancyor

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Posted: 05 Jun 2014, 07:27
From my perspective, I don't believe in "diets". As others have said, you need to change your eating habits permanently. I have been trying to reduce my cholesterol. I started by cooking my own food every night. I increased my veg and fruit to the recommended amount, a vegetarian meal every week and fish twice a week. I cut out my evening snacks. It has been a year. Sometimes I relapse (my husband eats his snacks every night so it is hard). My cholesterol has come down to a healthy level and my weight is coming down slowly. I draw up a meal plan every week and buy my groceries from that. It has become a habit and it really gets easier! Don't forget to exercise though. It's more than just changing what you eat! Good luck...
Gerard-Z

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Posted: 19 Jun 2014, 18:42
AS people have already mentioned: drop all non-whole foods, increase your water intake, for fat loss try and increase the amount of cardiovascular exercise that you do. Go walk, cycle, swim, whatever that will get you moving. But make sure to not overdue it. At 350 I would not advise running as it will put a lot of pressure on your joints. Instead, stick to the low-impact alternatives already listed. Good luck to you out there.
funnygirl020...

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Posted: 20 Jun 2014, 11:03
Hey I can definitely relate to your situation. I have been struggling with my weight for years and I’ve had family members tell me to get bypass surgery. I have tried things like nutri-system, Jenny Craig, weight watchers even different gyms; basically the whole nine yards.
Honestly in my opinion doing it the natural way will probably be best for you in the future. I absolutely love food and I know how hard it is to watch what you eat. I guess the best advice is to eat in moderation. If you have a craving for something I think you should have a little bit just to satisfy the urge. It gets easier when you gradually give up little things then to try and do it cold turkey. I’ve had lots of friends restrict themselves- lose weight and then gain it back. If I want to eat something yummy I eat half of it and then run later or walk it off. I also used to drink my calories- energy drinks and soda are my downfall- I just replaced those drink with diet iced tea and water with some lemon. ( I like flavor)

Aside from eating healthy staying active I think is the most important. Going to the gym sucks – biking basketball swimming is much more fun and you don’t realize you’re working so hard. Also try and get your friends and family involved it’s definitely easier when you’re not doing it alone.

Hope this helps! Good Luck to ya!!!
Charlinc

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Posted: 22 Jun 2014, 12:19
Hi, Im new on here but I weigh the same as you and wanting to diet to get healthy. If you fancy being a diet buddy that would be great Smile
Good luck with your journey
saraewa

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Posted: 24 Jul 2014, 19:32
sure it be great to have a diet buddy
Sarae
kkd1125

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Posted: 25 Jul 2014, 11:06
Hpowderly19, how is it going? It's been a little over a month since you started this post so I wanted to see how you are.
To a new...

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Posted: 26 Jul 2014, 09:59
I think hoser has said it all. You need to be honest with yourself with what you are actually eating, record it meticulously and see what your problems with your eating habits are. I would suggest to note your emotions when you are eating as well in case there is a pattern, so you can tackle what makes you eat in excess. Unfortunately there is no miracle solution: eat the right food in the right amounts, exercise and time. Losing weight is a long journey, and there are no short cuts: even with gastric surgery, you will need to follow a strict diet until you reach your goal weight and then go on a health lifestyle thereafter (which you would do anyway, but without the risks of surgery!!), so consider surgery only as your very last chance, because it doesn't make it easier.
startrekker

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Posted: 28 Jul 2014, 06:47
To echo the excellent advice here already: surgery's not a solution - tracking, whole foods, fluids, exercise, etc is! It just takes determination, belief that it can be done, and a whole lotta patience - with the scale and with yourself. In the last 18 months, I've lost over 100 lbs and healthily, something I never thought was possible when I started. It CAN be done. There are loads of people on here to prove it and more than happy to support you, wherever possible. Feel free to look over my profile and history, and to buddy up, if I can help.
"There's no secret. You train a lot and eat right" (Mo Farah, British Olympic marathon runner).



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