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Posted: 08 Oct 2013, 14:11
Hi, my name Jules, I fell off the wagon this summer, and can't get back on..I eat ok, but for some reason I will NOT go for a walk, not go to yoga, find any means of exercise. I found this site today by accident. It looked familiar, and remembered I had joined Fatsecret a couple of years ago. I weigh 136, which isn't drastic, but being barely 5 feet, it's still too much. A year ago I tried a low-glycemic diet, and started yoga. Felt great, got down to 129-130 and actually wore a bikini when my boyfriend and I went South in February 2013! What happens to our motivation? I'm not depressed, actually very much in love with a wonderful man, good job, lots of friends, and family. I turned 52 this year, maybe I'm just tired. I feel like I'm in a transition phase of my life, been there, done that. Maybe this part of menopause? Anybody feel like this?Confused Confused

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Posted: 08 Oct 2013, 15:27
Hi Lacelj, I was where you were a year ago. I had been "off the wagon" for 10 years. I did feel guilty because of the way I looked and felt. The few brief attempts at diet and exercise failed.
The problem was that I was not willing to go to any length to lose weight and get back in shape.

Remember tho, there is nothing wrong in not having the willingness to diet.

So that is the first thing. Don't feel guilty about now, wait until the day you can't stand the way you look,feel and act. Then you may be able to go to any length to change. The Fatsecret site has helped me a lot. But what really kept me at this program these months is the wonderful feeling when I enter my calories at the end of the day and see that I have stayed within my limit. Or the wonderful feeling after a light exercise. These feelings now are so much better, last so much longer than the food binge good felling.

So don't feel guilty. It is your life to live however you choose. I hope you can choose healthy soon. Until then, and then - Good luck

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Posted: 08 Oct 2013, 18:37
I want to tell you to document your food and all the other stuff that goes along with a diet, but it seems other stuff is going on. You mentioned menopause... consider hormones and thyroid also. They're wicked nasty. Maybe a visit to your pcp for some labs might answer some questions if you can't seem to get it together.

Don't be so hard on yourself. Too many of us have been where you are.

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Posted: 08 Oct 2013, 20:14
When you say "i found this site by accident" guess what?there are no accidents, there are no coincidences... everything happens for a reason and you were brought here for a reason... don't knock yourself up over it. so what, here's what I think ......
If it is a plant, eat it, if it comes from a plant, don't!

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Posted: 08 Oct 2013, 22:00
You have already taken the first step toards the goal, by posting in this forum and seeking help/advice. It sounds like mild depression or perhaps part of the menopausal imbalance. You should consult with the doctor, and start into an exercise that is easy to do - like walk in the park. Even once a week is better than nothing. 30 mins is better than nothing at all. I found my back pain reduced a lot when i did yoga atleast twice a week. Good luck to you.

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Posted: 09 Oct 2013, 03:17
Hi Jules. I'm also a newby to the site. So here is my two cents worth. You registered and you are trying. Good for you! Take it one day at a time, plan only that day and forget about where you were. Here and now is what counts and it is the only place where you can make your decisions count and change what is happening around you.

I used to find all sorts of excuses, like 'Oh I forgot to pack lunch, so canteen here we come!' and then instead of a salad it was junk. My advice (not that I am an expert) is this. Try all the diet food in the store, you are bound to find some that you really like.

Then wait for that one moment that will give you a kick start. For me it was a brown pair of pants that I was molded into, and this morning, wow, I needed a belt.

No matter what you look like, remember to focus on your assets and not your negatives.

I sincerely hope that you find your motivation again!

Your friend in the weight battle - Suzanne

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Posted: 21 Oct 2013, 13:07
I feel like these posts were meant for me to read lol. In March this year I began a new lifetstyle filled with exercising and healthy eating. I exercised literally every day other than Sundays. In may I started school and moved to an apartment on the second floor so I feel bad about exercising and simply stopped. I need motivation to get started again. I dont know what to do Sad I pray everyday that god gives me the motivation and strength to just get up and work out but I am still struggling. ANY ADVICE???????

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Posted: 21 Oct 2013, 13:16
Schedule it. Just do it. Set up a plan of action - set the alarm, have a plan, set goals, have your clothes set out. I just can't handle the guilt I feel if I skip a day. It's a lot easier to get up at 5am to exercise than it is to look in the mirror and not like what you see or know what you should have done that morning. The exercise gives me energy to last throughout the day. If I don't exercise, I am more likely to be tired and want to sit on the couch all night! My advice, just do it; don't give yourself a choice.

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Posted: 21 Oct 2013, 13:45
Smart words NCNOLE... handing the guilt and knowing you'll become one with the couch in the evening. So spot on. I've even exercised late in the afternoon. Particularly if the depression is taking its toll on me.

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