anyone out there doing some self-sabotaging?

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gordita23

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Posted: 21 Jun 2013, 09:28
Hi everyone,

I'm about 4 pounds shy of my goal of 160, which I had been on track to hit this Saturday. My 30th birthday is Sunday and I've hit many little goals and milestones along the way since beginning this weight loss journey last August.

My problem - these past 2-3 weeks I've been self-sabotaging BIG time. Like, using up my daily WW points before 10 am, or bingeing on garbage like pop-tarts and BLTs... things I never ate even when I wasn't watching my weight!

I think that I'm scared to hit my goal because then I won't know what to do with myself. I've lost weight plenty of times (never this much and this is the lowest weight I've been since I was 18!) but I've never been able to maintain. So what can I tell myself or do to ease this anxiety?
"I love myself, more or less, but I'd love me more if there were less of me."
Nothing can possibly taste better than the feeling of proving everyone wrong.
ClassicRocke...

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Posted: 21 Jun 2013, 10:22
Promise to reward yourself with something you've wanted. Not food. Clothing, sports item, maybe a trip.

***It just means being more independent and not allowing your happiness to be dependent on someone else's demanding and contentious attitudes and actions.***

Wisdom from a friend


I am willing to release the need to be unworthy. I am worthy of the very best in life and I now lovingly allow myself to accept it.
mars2kids

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Posted: 21 Jun 2013, 10:45
What do you want to do after you hit your goal? Maintain, lose more? Maybe if you answer that for yourself you can stop stressing when you get close because you'll have a plan. You deserve to get to that goal, you've worked hard. And like ClassicRocker said, maybe reward yourself once you reach your goal. You will have to keep doing healthy things once you reach your goal, you won't be able to just start eating junk because you've lost. Try to keep any garbage out of the house until you reach your goal, so you can't sabotage yourself. I've had that problem before too, I get close and think I'm losing so I can eat junk for a week, but then amazingly by eating junk I gain weight. It's all about learning how to control oursleves and taking back the power in our relationship with food. Good luck!!
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aggie95

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Posted: 21 Jun 2013, 12:57
Challenge yourself and make new goals. I think we all have a number in our head that is smaller then the goal on paper. My co-worker did WW and once you reach your goal and move to maintanence mode, you get more points too. But challenge yourself to weigh less than 160 even if it's only 158! Good luck!
kkd1125

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Posted: 21 Jun 2013, 13:49
I'm not even close to goal, but I wanted to offer some food for thought (pardon the pun). Perhaps we self sabotage by eating such bad foods that take us off track because we haven't gotten it into our heads yet that our new eating habits should be a healthy life change and not a weight loss diet. If you're close to the weight loss finish line, there may be that thought in the back of your mind that you can go back to eating the junk and "eat normal" like everybody else. It seems we have to work really hard to condition ourselves that this is our new way of eating, there is no going back to our old ways. But we can and should still find ways to incorporate treats every once in a while in a planned, controlled way.
ClassicRocke...

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Posted: 21 Jun 2013, 14:50
kkd---applies to all addictions I would imagine. Having to give up what we love and enjoy the most. Even though we know it's no good for us.

Having to make life changes is difficult. I will be the first to admit it, however, I am pleased to realize that when I go out, I am mindful of my diet. Guess that comes from dieting and losing for over 20 months. I pray this programming stays with me permanently.

Even when they ask if I want desert, I say yes, but I can't. Asked the waitress today how many calories were in a particular desert and she shrugged and moaned and said "I don't know and don't want to know, but my jeans are telling me there's a lot".

What better testimonial than the waitress who is on her feet all day complaining her jeans are getting tight.

***It just means being more independent and not allowing your happiness to be dependent on someone else's demanding and contentious attitudes and actions.***

Wisdom from a friend


I am willing to release the need to be unworthy. I am worthy of the very best in life and I now lovingly allow myself to accept it.
mars2kids

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Posted: 21 Jun 2013, 15:12
kkd1125 wrote:
If you're close to the weight loss finish line, there may be that thought in the back of your mind that you can go back to eating the junk and "eat normal" like everybody else.


I like this kkd, "eat normal." I am one of the smallest people in my office and almost all of us are trying to eat healthier for one reason or another, but when some people seem me eating healthy or avoiding desserts or donuts or whatever junk is brought in, they tell me I'm thin so I can afford it. No, I can't. You didn't see me 50+ pounds heavier than I am today and eating one donut turns into a cookie later and maybe an ice cream after that. So I've decided that "normal" eating, for me anyway, has to be healthy eating because eating junk doesn't work for me, and realizing that is helping me change my whole perspective.
Goals for 2014:
Complete Couch to 5K- DONE!!!
Sign up for and complete a 5K- DONE!! 35 mins.
Plan at least 3 outings with the family that involve being active- 2 done
SkinnyCity

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Posted: 21 Jun 2013, 15:28
I know what you're going through and it's totally a fear thing, something in the back of your mind that triggers unhealthy decisions when you realize you're almost there. You need to stop stressing about what you've already eaten and focus on making the right choices going forward.

Also, I think this is something that comes with WW. I have been on WW twice and quit it both times because it was totally triggering for me. Sometimes you can't help but think about all those things you've been avoiding and before you know if you're eating them all. Time to refocus when that happens!

You've had amazing success and it's your birthday! And maybe some of this fear is also coming from turning 30 (I know not everyone has issues with that, but all my friends who have turned 30 found it to be a mental adjustment).

Refocus, remember why you're doing this, and remind yourself of your accomplishments. A trick that's been working for me lately is I tell myself "the last bite tastes the same as the first." It's surprisingly effective, even when the first bite was super good.

Congrats on your success and happy birthday!
MISSION 2: Reach goal weight - 131 - by February 14, 2015
MISSION 1: 27 pounds by my 27th birthday. Accomplished Oct 2013
ClassicRocke...

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Posted: 21 Jun 2013, 16:33
Mark Sunday as the first anniversary of your 29th birthday. Give it a twist.

***It just means being more independent and not allowing your happiness to be dependent on someone else's demanding and contentious attitudes and actions.***

Wisdom from a friend


I am willing to release the need to be unworthy. I am worthy of the very best in life and I now lovingly allow myself to accept it.
gordita23

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Posted: 25 Jun 2013, 09:56
thank you, everyone! I handled my birthday very well, even enjoyed some tasty Italian food, but I'm 'resetting' my brain in terms of my goals and what I really want from all of this. Stay tuned...
"I love myself, more or less, but I'd love me more if there were less of me."
Nothing can possibly taste better than the feeling of proving everyone wrong.



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