why some succeed and others fail.....or why i am succeeding now and didnt before!

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Posted: 24 Apr 2013, 17:23
Im pretty bored of all the how many calories should i eat a day, is 2 grams of carbs a year enough, what type of exercise should i do, my favourite cottage cheese recipe type questions.

All this information is readily available on the net and the general consensus amongst the informed is that Calories in VS Calories out is pretty much the ONLY scientifically proven way to reduce weight, bar liposuction or amputation!

i am more inetrested in why some fail and some succeed or iny case why i am succeeding now at nearly 49 years of age where i didnt for nearly 30 years!

sure i have got into pretty good shape in the meantime but have never maintained it or got to the level i am currently at since i was 19!

Why now?

I think the main reason for my longer term and more extreme success is that HEALTH is my primary goal
despite all the compliments, despite seeing all my muscles showing up, the new smaller wardrobe of new clothes and shoes, the main driver that makes me workout at 6 am regularly in the morning and stick to a mainly healthy diet is my HEALTH!

As i have stated the compliments dry up after a bit, you yourself become accustomed to your new shape in general and life moves on so what keeps you going?
DOING IT for YOU, for your benefit, not your wife or husband , or to show all those old school friends how hot you look now, not to fit into a wedding dress or to attend some future function or for summer

you might manage it temporarily but you will likely NOT maintain it and yo yo up again, that the true leap i made personally and i think its key to longterm success in that you realise that you are heading for a premature demise, or ill health etc if you dont take care of your body.

Sure its not 100% guaranteed ..what is ,.,but you certainly improve your chances of a long and active life if you remain a good weight an eat healthily most of the time

jus my late night rambling but what do others think espeically the longterm maintainers?


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Posted: 24 Apr 2013, 17:40
I definitely think motivation is key - finding out what truly motivates you over the long term and not what will keep you motivated in the short term. Short term would be wanting to look good for a wedding or reunion, but once those pass you have to find new motivation. Long term motivation would be better health- but might be too general for some. To prevent diabetes, hypertension, cancer... Losing weight in itself is motivating. Once you see the weight coming off, you want to continue. Guilt can play a role - keeps me getting up to exercise at 5am when I have never ever been a morning person. Used to grunt instead of saying hello before 9am! Anyways, now I'm wide awake and cheery when I get to work at 7am! Craziness if you know me! Other things that keep me motivated - I saved up $1000 over about 2 years in order to get myself a new wardrobe - I purposely set aside the money and bought designer clothes (on sale) so that I would have another motivator. If I gain the weight back, my designer clothes won't fit and I will have to go back to shopping at walmart/target for my clothes- because I got rid of most of my larger clothes. In the past year, I started a new job - none of them know I was overweight, so that is another motivator - don't want them to see me gain the weight back. I'm considered the healthy eater and they just assume that is my norm - which it is!
Keys for me - never going more than one day without working out b/c that can turn into a habit all to easily. Never going completely off track for more than one day - especially at the holidays, because that starts all new cravings and sets me. I've set fatsecret up to remind me to weigh in monthly - just in case for some reason I decide I don't want to do that anymore. I have pictures of me at my highest weight and along the way to remind of where I was and how long it took to get to where I am. And what keeps me going (15 lbs to my ultimate goal) is that I want to fully realize my six-pack. I've always wanted one and it is there but only if I really suck in hard and hold my breath Smile So, I want that more than anything - that is another key -- you have got to want it more than anything else - more than the immediate satisfaction that comes from a brownie! I will not give up on my long term success for immediate satisfaction. That's all....

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Posted: 24 Apr 2013, 17:49
yes, I agree totally. I also think it's a mental attitude thing; I don't freak out over a pound or two gained, I enjoy days when I "let loose" and don't feel guilty because I had that extra glass of wine/peanut at a party. and most importantly, I like the way I look, even though I weigh more than in my "prime". Being comfortable in your skin is probably the most important thing (for me), as I don't throw in the towel in miserable failure and assault the fridge/cupboard for it's contents, because I feel bad about myself for not sticking with the diet or eating that extra piece of something.. now it's just a "meh" and soldier on. And yes, my primary incentive is now healthy/great shape, not "I must be skinny". I think if you feel good, you want to keep doing what your doing, without having to force yourself.
And yes I totally agree on your other point regarding basic questions..the internet is a great tool, use it.

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Posted: 24 Apr 2013, 18:50
While I'm not at my final goal, I've made a significant change from where I was 3 years ago. When a friend asked me what inspired my change, I told them death did Very Happy

You've got to stare at the cold hard fact that 90% of the people that come to FS will simply fail, that's the statistical truth of it, and you've got to let that sober reminder sink in a choose to prevail anyway.

“The last of the human freedoms is to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances.” ~Victor E. Frankl

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Posted: 24 Apr 2013, 19:55
Spacey, you're absolutely right. I too have tried so many times before, but never fully DONE it. It's all about finding that true motivator. I have stated that over and over again here too.

Find out what drives you to do it, and then do it. It doesn't matter what system you use, as long as it's sustainable for a LONG period, maybe forever.

Then go do it.

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Posted: 24 Apr 2013, 20:00
Health - definitely. The rest is just as benefit. That's how I remind myself every day why it's important.

I'm not losing WEIGHT. I'm converting FAT to MUSCLE to be healthier.

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