Anyone here super-morbidly obese?

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erika2633

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Posted: 12 Jan 2013, 15:05
I agree with FullaBella wholeheartedly. I started here (seriously) in November 2011 with the goal of losing 25 pounds. I hit my goal (with the help of a very wide variety of buddies) in March 2012, and I'm still here, 10 months later. I'm a pretty active member of this site and have been blessed to find some very awesome buddies and try to provide encouragement and support on the Community boards along the way.

Just because I'm "out of my wheelchair" doesn't mean I'm done with my struggles or done with this site. Just as I think you don't want to be a 'book judged by your cover,' you should offer the same courtesy to others. Smile Best of luck with your journey, and I'll be here if you ever need something, just holler.


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366to266

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Posted: 13 Jan 2013, 07:54
I'm happy to buddy up with people who started at 300lb + and have NOW 10lb to lose, but really, I have nothing in common with someone who only weigs 90lb and wants to be 85 Smile
Hyperinsulinaemic, carboholic and serial failed dieter!
erika2633

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Posted: 13 Jan 2013, 11:11
I'm sorry you feel that way. Good luck.


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eKatherine

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Posted: 13 Jan 2013, 11:34
I'm sorry you feel that way, Erika. I personally worry about people whose are very underweight and want to lose even more weight. I can't honestly support someone in achieving a goal that may be suicidal.
erika2633

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Posted: 13 Jan 2013, 12:46
eKatherine wrote:
I'm sorry you feel that way, Erika. I personally worry about people whose are very underweight and want to lose even more weight. I can't honestly support someone in achieving a goal that may be suicidal.


What? Did you even read the whole thread? She was saying that she doesn't want to buddy up with anyone whose starting weight is less than 300 pounds or that only has 5-20 pounds to lose. Her "90 pounds to 85 pounds" example was an exaggeration (at least, that's the way I took it) of all of those people that don't have much to lose.

My sentiment of "sorry she feels that way" has nothing to do with people with unhealthy/anorexic goals and everything to do with the fact that she thinks she has nothing in common with people who haven't been super-morbidly obese and will not have them as buddies.

I simply feel that we have a lot to learn from people in all walks of life, and shouldn't discount the value of a buddy based on their starting weight. But she has the right to feel however she wants and be buddies with whomever she chooses.


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astrid a

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Posted: 13 Jan 2013, 16:15
Everyone on this site has their own reasons why weightloss is difficult for them, otherwise they wouldn't need the support a site like this offers, so I value everyone's support and any help they can give. If you go back and read journals most of the people who succesfully lose weight and maintain a loss have a sane and healthy approach to weight loss, they don't eat wildly abnormal diets that can never be maintained longterm, they formulate a plan for the future and they accept that obesity is caused by eating too much of the wrong things. Many of those who have a small target are eitherlooking at their weight loss in small steps as others have said or are doing what I should have done when I gainedthe first 20lbs. If I only buddied morbidly obese people I would only have morbidly obese people s attitudes to food to refer to, I need to get some normal attitudes to food and realise what is normal so I welcome everyones opinion (even if I don't always agree with them!)
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366to266

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Posted: 14 Jan 2013, 03:19
We are ALL entitled to chose whichever buddies we want -- same as in real life. I've tried having friends IRL with whom I have nothing in common and it just does not work. So stop picking on me for exercising a choice!

I just accepted a buddy request and took a look at that person's daily food journal. I have nothing in common with this person. She is living on junk food, all high sugar processed foods, all day every day.

As someone who has long ago given up all sugar and flour, to see someone living on cookies, cake, pizza etc on a daily, long term basis makes me squirm. But she thinks it's OK because she keeps within her calorie count.

I see no point in being buddies with her because I cannot possibly support/encourage her in her unhealthy junk diet, and she cannot possibly support or encourage me in my determination never to eat any junk or any sugar.

So I have done all I can do -- I have told her what I think of her diet, and probably we will un-buddy each other.

I have a limited amount of time to spare on this so what is the point of having a large number of buddies with whom I have nothing in common?

Better to have few, but those who share my problems and my goals and my way of eating.

Hyperinsulinaemic, carboholic and serial failed dieter!
FullaBella

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Posted: 14 Jan 2013, 15:46
Well said, Astrid. I rarely actually look at anyone's weight or goal weight when I read their journals, posts or accept their buddy requests. I just read what they have to say and sometimes it's a tipping point for me to discover they offer yet one more way for me to make peace with food to live a healthy life, sometimes it isn't. I especially appreciate the way this exposure to so many different people in so many different phases has opened my mind to breaking old thoughts and abandoning some of the bad habits that led me where I was - on the verge of diabetes and a stroke. I'm thankful to be here with everyone and will be here a long time.


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erika2633

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Posted: 14 Jan 2013, 16:58
366to266 wrote:
We are ALL entitled to chose whichever buddies we want -- same as in real life. I've tried having friends IRL with whom I have nothing in common and it just does not work. So stop picking on me for exercising a choice!


Nobody is 'picking on you' - like you said, we are all entitled to our own opinions about what makes for a good buddy, and some of us are just expressing opinions that differ from yours. That's not 'picking on you' and I hope you truly don't feel that way.

366to266 wrote:
I see no point in being buddies with her because I cannot possibly support/encourage her in her unhealthy junk diet, and she cannot possibly support or encourage me in my determination never to eat any junk or any sugar.


I can understand not being able to be buddies with someone because they are clearly not in this for the right reasons or have very unhealthy/dangerous habits. However, I have buddies that are low-carb, buddies that are Paleo, buddies that eat Lucky Charms all day and then run their butt off, buddies that do tons of cardio, buddies that swear by weight-lifting... etc. etc.

But you know what we all have in common? We are all there for each other. We support each other through thick and thin. We make encouraging comments on each other's journals and call on each other when we haven't heard from someone in too long. We laugh at each other's jokes and sympathize when life gets real and this health stuff gets hard.

That's all I'm saying. Again, not trying to pick on you for your choices. That's why they're your choices. All the best to you on your journey.


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CJT1217

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Posted: 14 Jan 2013, 17:30
Despite how much we have to lose or gain, we're all on here to support each in our goals. Everyone has different experiences and due to this I was able to get myself back in fighting shape, not only dropping my high blood pressure and getting back within regulations for my job, but going beyond that and learning a new way of eating that's enjoyable and that will last a lifetime. Erika was a motivational factor for me and has always been a positive influence to all she knows on here. The only real difference is #s. The methods may vary, but the resulting goals are very similar.

But of course, we all will do what we want to do. We're all unique individuals after all. Whatever route you take, I wish you luck in your journey to your goals!

Stay the course, stay on point, stay motivated, dedicated, and you won't be stopped. Discipline. Perseverance. Focus. Dig deep and you will be victorious.
iulani

Joined: Jan 13
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Posted: 14 Jan 2013, 17:34
this is why I like this site, i find so much inspiration in everyone's endeavors! Thanks for keeping it positive! i like your message!
owlfeathers

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Posted: 11 Mar 2013, 17:14
good thread i am in the middle here start at 246 first goal 200 then down 175 being realistic
avonzet

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Posted: 21 Apr 2013, 19:54
I would love to join the group I have my goal set at 75 because I didn't want to discourage myself but Lord knows I could stand to lose more. I have several co-morbidity issues lots of health problems and would love to join a group to help. Please add me Smile
owlfeathers

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Posted: 23 Apr 2013, 08:47
I set my goals in increments of 25 pounds easier to see results



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