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Joined: Jan 13
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Posted: 08 Mar 2013, 01:41
I posted my thoughts, helped others and tried to offer support, and yet.................. I haven't gotten any response. Am I such a bad person??? or is it all just hype?? I came here looking for help in weight loss, yet............. got nothing. other then being able to see my progress, it's not a place to support others. well for most. But while I'm here I will..... Am i alone???

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Posted: 08 Mar 2013, 01:54
This is the right place for support! You are not alone.

Joined: Dec 12
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Posted: 08 Mar 2013, 05:23
Hey Mjl11961,

I've been on FS just over a month longer than you have. And I can very much relate to the sometimes feeling quite alone, partially because I'm a complete nutter Razz and partially because it took me quite a while to start to get to know a few people. But once I have, it's been great and I've been able to get different perspectives on things.

It looks to me like a lot interaction happens between people once they have started to get to know each other and start to make buddies. This can be a bit of slow process...e.g. sometimes I post on the forums, or join challenges, etc. And often it does feel a little bit like going back to high school when you first join a social site like FS.

I'll be upfront and say I did take a bit of a look at your profile when I saw you talking about having posted thoughts, helping others, and offering support. I could see 5 forum posts: of those one of them was this one, one of them was more of a lovely statement that you posted about the same time as this one, 2 responses about a month ago, and a post asking for support, to which some people indeed offered support (but it didn't look like you had responded to any of those). I also looked at your journal, and yes I that you do occasionally post entries. I'm not sure, maybe you have been around to a lot of people journals (which in my experience often doesn't generate a lot of responses). The groups I can never tell, they are almost always quiet (I think in part due to their lack of easy navigation). So I guess what I'm saying to you here is I don't think that you are a bad person, I'm just wondering whether you are putting yourself out there enough.

Because personally, when you talk about it being all hype, and wanting support but getting nothing, and not being a supportive place, I guess I don't feel like that. As socially awkward as I am, combined with the feeling that I simply can't send people buddy requests for fear of unleasing my brand of crazy on them, I still have been able to find a few really awesome people who are there. Some times it's about what you make of it.

In short, you are not alone and you are not a bad person, just in place where it's not possible to see someone physically standing beside you, hence the need to reach out and say "hey, I'm here and I wanna chat" Smile.

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Posted: 08 Mar 2013, 06:54
You have dog on your profile pic. In my books that makes you a nice person Smile

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Posted: 08 Mar 2013, 07:29
Yep we are all in this together.

Feel free to join a challenge or 2 that fit with your plan. Checking out the groups is a good way to find like-minded people too.

42" jeans(25/01/2013) 40"(28/02/2013) 38"(20/03/2013) 36"(25/05/2013)
Down from 60" waist jeans since June 21st 2012.

Still keeping to my 26" jeans, but they are too tight for comfort. too many tasty things in the US, and over Xmas.

Onwards and Downwards! Smile

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Posted: 08 Mar 2013, 08:52
I hear you and you are not alone. I swear the only people I've gotten to know are a few that follow my posts and criticize information I share Sad I don't care to know those people. I try and keep positive though and help try and help others. And you do have an adorable dog!

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Posted: 08 Mar 2013, 12:48
I've only just just joined today so haven't had chance to look at your post but plan too Wink
Karol Anne

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Posted: 08 Mar 2013, 13:19
Hi, I'm new here too. If anyone is looking for support, a buddy or just someone to talk to I'm your girl. I also love researching so if you need help, I'll be happy to assist.
~ Karol

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Posted: 08 Mar 2013, 18:02
not alone
there are some people navigating this site

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