I fell like I can't stop eating!

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Felyne

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Posted: 14 Feb 2013, 10:06
I am so sick of eating I don't know what to do. I feel like if I eat one thing, I eat until it's all gone. Not just the portion I take but the entire product. A lot of times I'm not even hungry. I used to walk all the time now I don't and cant for the life of me figure out why other than laziness. I suffer from depression but have a joyful spirit. I have a athlete hidden in me I just don't trigger the motivation to bring it out. I'm killing myself and I don't want to die yet. Help me. Please? I have to re-train my mind, body and spirit on what food is for. I sit here now typing this in and I am sick from a full stomach. Help me anyone. Help me get motivated.
Madam Felyne
AmberLaine

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Posted: 14 Feb 2013, 10:15
I have never been good at getting motivated from others. Usually I cannot get going until I am ready. You should look inside yourself for your motivation. For instance, my daughter is mine. I want to be healthy for her, but I also want her to be healthy. I can't ensure that by eating crap foods and sitting around all day, because she will in turn learn that from me. Also, once you get over that initial hump and start losing, and getting healthy, that motivates too. I actually get excited for Monday mornings now, because that is the day I weigh in.

DRINK WATER! If you are unable to stop with just one portion, make only one portion. If this is not possible. Serve your portion and put the rest away immediately. Another thing to try would be those individually wrapped snacks. You might be less inclined to get more when you realize you have to open another package.
Try walking at the Mall. It gives you something else to do besides just walking, but you are still getting exercise. And park farther away, because even that little bit helps. As you get more motivated, you will find the energy and drive to do more, like walking at the park, or to the store, maybe even getting to the gym!
Hope this helps..
BgIrn

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Posted: 14 Feb 2013, 10:53
I hate to say this but it smacks me in the face as I read your post. Replace "eating" with "drinking" and I have read this type of post countless times on addiction support forums. I'm not a normal person to speak of addiction as I overcame my drinking habits on my own, but the parallels are there.

The "I don't know why I do this to myself", the "I am typing this stuffed, drunk, high" (remorse), The "I want to stop but don't know how".


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fredmugs

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Posted: 14 Feb 2013, 11:01
That sounds a lot like me. When I'm in bad eating mode I eat because I'm bored and not because I'm hungry. Once that cycle turns ugly then I become very sluggish and never want to do anything. Usually and unfortunately it takes something like a Biggest Loser contest or some form of bet to motivate me.

There are several Challenges on here. Pick a few and give yourself some short term goals to acomplish. Find someone you know who also wants to lose weight and set a reasonable goal for each of you to accomplish where there's a reward for doing so. The goal is to compete against yourself and not the other person.

Don't buy foods that you know are going to hurt you. If I buy ice cream for my daughter chances are I'll eat 75% of it. Right now when I'm doing Biggest Loser we have no ice cream, no chips, etc in the house.

The key is to give yourself a goal that it is easy to accomplish in the short term. Once you start changing your habits then you can adjust them as necessary.

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Spacey47

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Posted: 14 Feb 2013, 11:06
@Fred mugs

Do you just yoyo diet? as you seem to be regularly doing diet challenges and in a previous post you said you got down to 9% bf......just curious
liv001

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Posted: 14 Feb 2013, 11:16
Start somewhere
Maybe log your food - every morsel of it for a few days. Do not blame yourself for anything or feel any guilt about it. Just log it like you are a machine or something.

Food is probably not your main issue but more a symptom of something else. Try to work on that issue first and forgive yourself with what you do with the food for now.
mars2kids

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Posted: 14 Feb 2013, 12:36
I have a problem with the "once I start eating that I can't stop." Sometimes the easiest thing is just to get away from it and not to start at all. I have chocolate on my desk right now and I know if I have 1 piece then I'll want them all, so I just leave them be and every day that I don't eat it is a victory. Don't set yourself up for failure by buying things you know you'll cave and eat too much of (for me that's cookies or ice cream). Also, like liv001 said log everything, so you can see when you have a good day and give yourself a pat on the back. Good luck!
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ghechr

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Posted: 14 Feb 2013, 16:10
In my experience, to make some real, permanent change you need to have the internal motivation to do so. Yes, it sounds like you have some trouble with addition and maybe seeing a counselor will be beneficial for you. It's hard to tell with only your single post to go on. But, I'd also recommend reading the Beck Diet Solution, which isn't a diet plan at all. Rather it's a way to get psychologically ready to take on a weight-loss regimen- there are a lot of self-motivation and introspection exercises in there that I have found very useful.
gigi1212

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Posted: 14 Feb 2013, 19:38
You are here now and you are addressing your problem. That is a big step in the right direction. I also catch myself craving and then eating food when I know I'm not even hungry. I can relate to the guilt from getting too full. Day after day of this guilt put me over the edge to figure out WHY I was doing that.
I'm still working on the WHY, but the past several weeks I have stopped and made myself think, "Am I really hungry?" When I know the answer is "No," I try to figure out what is going on that day that's making me want food. Sometimes it's boredom, sometimes it's feeling overwhelmed from taking care of my twins, and sometimes I am just tired. Other days I really can't figure out why. Maybe hormones. Maybe I'm missing out on something vital in my diet.
Since trying to start being aware of why I want to eat when I'm not hungry and stopping myself from eating something when I don't need it, I realized something. At first I felt anxious from not eating something when I wanted it. I almost didn't know what to do with myself. I found myself pacing in the kitchen trying to figure out what to do next. It reminded me of when my dad tried to quit smoking. Whether it's a habit or more seriously an addition I don't know. But it absolutely has gotten easier with each day. I also feel like it's a slippery slope. I fear that if I give in to something, I lose all that hard work of re-teaching myself to not eat when I'm not hungry.
Hopefully I haven't rambled on for too long and that you have gotten something out of this. Best of luck my dear.
kingkeld

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Posted: 16 Feb 2013, 00:27
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Marty70

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Posted: 16 Feb 2013, 02:04
Thanks for the links Kingkeld! will try that when im craving my sweets Smile
Anyone can give up, it's the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that's true strength.
BgIrn

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Posted: 16 Feb 2013, 08:35
gigi1212 wrote:
You are here now and you are addressing your problem. That is a big step in the right direction. I also catch myself craving and then eating food when I know I'm not even hungry. I can relate to the guilt from getting too full. Day after day of this guilt put me over the edge to figure out WHY I was doing that.
I'm still working on the WHY, but the past several weeks I have stopped and made myself think, "Am I really hungry?" When I know the answer is "No," I try to figure out what is going on that day that's making me want food. Sometimes it's boredom, sometimes it's feeling overwhelmed from taking care of my twins, and sometimes I am just tired. Other days I really can't figure out why. Maybe hormones. Maybe I'm missing out on something vital in my diet.
Since trying to start being aware of why I want to eat when I'm not hungry and stopping myself from eating something when I don't need it, I realized something. At first I felt anxious from not eating something when I wanted it. I almost didn't know what to do with myself. I found myself pacing in the kitchen trying to figure out what to do next. It reminded me of when my dad tried to quit smoking. Whether it's a habit or more seriously an addition I don't know. But it absolutely has gotten easier with each day. I also feel like it's a slippery slope. I fear that if I give in to something, I lose all that hard work of re-teaching myself to not eat when I'm not hungry.
Hopefully I haven't rambled on for too long and that you have gotten something out of this. Best of luck my dear.


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Off topic a bit, but his method works for all "addictions". The method puts the onus of healing on the "addict" and you are taught to rely only on yourself. No groups, no support network, just you and you substance of choice, and it works.
vacation1

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Posted: 18 Feb 2013, 06:27
One thing jumped out at me when I read this. If you are having trouble with depression you should find help for that first. You are not your self and will do things that don't make sends to you.
I to described my self as a joyful person and have fought depression, if you don't find the help YOU need you can't move forward.
fredmugs

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Posted: 18 Feb 2013, 13:38
Spacey47 wrote:
@Fred mugs

Do you just yoyo diet? as you seem to be regularly doing diet challenges and in a previous post you said you got down to 9% bf......just curious


No. I do some pretty strenuous hiking over the summer so now is the time Iget in great shape for that. Around Oct when I stop hiking I also stop dieting and cut significantly back on the training. This normally results in a 20 pound gain over the winter.

My only diet challenge is the biggest loser contest I do at work. Going from sedentary winter weight to in shape hiking weight equals easy money for me to win.
Pain is a by-product of a good time.
Cindy 23

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Posted: 18 Feb 2013, 17:28
If you're feeling really out of control and have for a long time you might look in to the intuitive eating program. It helped me get in a better frame of mind about food.

http://www.intuitiveeating.org/content/10-principles

http://www.intuitiveeating.org/sites/default/files/Sadness%20of%20Saying%20Enough.pdf

http://www.scribd.com/full/16989363?access_key=key-aezpg2l9djymj775wet
nwcm

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Posted: 18 Feb 2013, 17:52
I have tried tapping before but for stress instead of curbing cravings. I am going to try that for sure! I have the same exact problem with the binge eating. My parents were not even the kind who would not let you leave the table until your plate was clean but now, I feel like that is what I must do. I made a box of mac and cheese? Well, I might as well polish it off rather than pack it up in tupperware and have it for lunch the next day. It's not as good anyway, right? WRONG! Well, okay, it really isn't as good, but that is the WRONG way to think.

Like others have said, you have made the first step by admitting there is a problem that needs addressed. I wish there were a magical way to end the cravings/binge eating but alas, there is not. We must consciously think about our eating habits and change them for the better. Drink extra water! Try to eat more protein, less carbs. The wheat we eat now has been so genetically modified that when consumed, you actually crave more. So instead of one slice of bread, you end up eating the whole loaf!

I digress. I feel your pain and I struggle with you. One step at a time, we'll both become stronger individuals and get over our problems Smile
keya51

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Posted: 19 Feb 2013, 08:26
google the book 'you can heal your life' by louis hays. eating is comfort and whatever you need comfort from is making you eat. good luck and i know everything starts with self love
quiltmaster4...

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Posted: 21 Feb 2013, 07:48
You need to get your depression under control first as I think your eating is all emotional. Food is comfort. Just eat what is on your plate and don't keep anything unhealthy in the house that you know you will not be able to resist eating. I always make sure that my walks take priority before any appointments and my my family knows it. You need to prioritize what is important and not let people sabotage your healthy eating or exercise routines. I've been watching my weight since 1978 and have been able to keep it off since I lost it. It's a struggle every day and that won't change or get easier. We are all here to help you through this.
moderngirly

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Posted: 21 Feb 2013, 08:04
i have found myself eating everything in sight on some days. Then there are the days where I have more self control. It depends on the kind of day you are having. The more stress , the more I eat. we are only humans.
lolane1

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Posted: 27 Feb 2013, 10:02
I also suffer from "out of control eating." I could be sick to my stomach yet still continue to eat. After much reading and trial and error dieting, I believe that, for me, it was a matter of wild swings in my blood sugar. When I ate too much or ate simple carbs my cravings hit and I would have greater success stopping a speeding train with my hand than control the cravings. I found great success by eating more protein, sticking to complex carbs, veggies and occassional SMALL portion of whole grains like quinoa and brown rice. Fruit other than berries is iffy. I would avoid alcohol because that is like pouring sugar directly into your bloodstream and also lowers resistance to eating foods not so good for you. Once I go off this routine it takes about three days of fighting with myself to get back on track, control the cravings, and continue the weight loss. Obviously, depression has to be addressed but out of control eating, eating foods nutritionally not good for you and feeling bad about weight can be sources of depression in and of themselves. There is a lot of literature around touting good diet and consistant exercise as being as good for depression as medication. It might be worth some research. And btw, I am not perfect and occassionally eat something that causes me to have to fight those three days to get back on track but it's worth it. And perhaps not worth that piece of cheesecake or fries in the long run. I wish you well.



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