Who wears biker shorts under dresses? (can we talk about chaffing?)

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Miss...

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Posted: 13 Aug 2012, 21:43
I have a problem with inner thigh chaffing. I love wearing dresses and skirts, and I live in NYC, so I walk everywhere, and biker shorts are the only solution that actually keeps me comfortable all day long. Do you ladies do this?

I gained a bunch of weight my first year of graduate school, and when summer came around I went on a date at the Bronx Zoo, where I had my first thigh-chaffing experience from walking around bare-legged in a (totally cute!) dress. So I spent that summer pathetically poor, walking home 30+ blocks from my temp job to save on subway fare (and hopefully lose weight, but no...). I tried rubbing deodorant there, but it didn't last, and so it was very painful to walk by the end of the day.

And the worst part is I didn't even dare to talk to anyone about it because I was so ashamed at having gained weight so quickly. (It's weird how I wasn't ashamed to tell everyone I walked home 30 blocks a day out of sheer pennilessness-- like being poor is some glorified grad school rite of passage, but weight gain is shameful and unmentionable.)

SO NOW, a year later, through google searches, I discovered that some women wear biker shorts under their skirts and dresses to eliminate chaffing. As soon as I discovered this, I sewed my first pair of biker shorts (from spandex scraps leftover from when I sewed my own swimsuit). And they WORKED! No more chaffing! and I can walk all day without any pain! (until my feet hurt, of course...)

So lately, I have been exercising and losing weight, and therefore less afraid to talk to my girlfriends about things I was ashamed of at 165 lbs. And it turns out, MANY of my girlfriends also wear biker shorts to prevent chaffing, and many of them are also embarrassed to tell anyone. So I started to feel totally normal about wearing them...

AND THEN my boyfriend saw them. Now to be fair, he didn't comment, and I doubt he even cared, since things were getting frisky for him... But still, I was mortified that he saw me in these, and I felt very un-sexy. Even though he has weight and chaffing issues of his own, which he often complains about shamelessly.

And so I guess I wanted to share this on here, because it's crazy that it took me so long to discover this solution, and it's crazy that so many women do this, but never talk about it. And it's crazy that I'm ashamed to talk to my boyfriend about it, even when he is open about his own chaffing. And it's really crazy that I feel less sexy, even though I'm in less pain. WHY DOESN'T ANYONE EVER TALK ABOUT CHAFFING?
Snow833

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Posted: 14 Aug 2012, 08:08
I never told my boyfriend that chaffing is the reason i don't wear skirts and dresses in summer. When it's colder i just wear pantyhose. I'm losing weight now so hopefully in 6 months i won't have problems like that Smile
Snowbear007

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Posted: 22 Aug 2012, 15:31
I found coulotte slips (hope I spelled that correctly) on Romans.com website. They are slip material in a shorts pattern and you can cut them to any lengh you desire depending on how long your dress is. They are inexpnsive and very light weight also. I think they would be great for any chaffing problems.
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alliecat777

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Posted: 22 Aug 2012, 16:10
I have done this for YEARS! Even when I was 130 pounds I've always had big thighs (part fat, part muscle-my husband says I kick like a mule). I wore them under my Umbros when I played soccer. I wear them under dresses (when I'm brave enough to wear a dress). I even wore them (okay they were more of a shape wear variety) under my wedding dress. I know at one time they had some kind of a lotion or cream that was supposed to help with chaffing. I think it had talc or something in it, but I never tried it.
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beccababez25

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Posted: 22 Aug 2012, 16:29
Hello,
Here in England (I'm presuming your Americans, sorry if I'm wrong) there is a massive craze with leggings under skirts, be the skirts short or long. Some are so thin you can wear them under dresses too depending on your dress. We have tights (Pantyhose) but getting them in a size that fits can be a nightmare especially if you have larger thighs. Also have the creams, lotions and potions, never tried them personally, have heard through the grapevine that they don't work very well though.

Also your right, women don't talk about this. In fact bringing this up with my mother was a bit weird as who do you go to for advice but your mother? She just told me to rub some cream on it but didn't specify what cream or how to stop it happening in the future and looked at me like I was a mutant child
twinmommaoly

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Posted: 22 Aug 2012, 17:09
I personally like the spanx or knock off brand... they provide tummy control as well they have them with legs on them that help with the chaffing issue. I particularly like wearing them when I exercise.

They do have a liquid powerder available in the feminine section that is amazing.

You shouldn't be ashamed to talk about it with your BF, it is totally normal, the first time might be a little awkward but after that you will be free to talk about anything.

search on youtube for the "barrier" video.. its about a young couple who figure out how to "share" embarassing things and it is quite funny.
Hoser

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Posted: 22 Aug 2012, 19:20
Rather than bike shorts, I wear compression garments (ala Spanx, but not as ridiculously expensive.) I buy them big enough that they don't really function as compression garments, but they fit tightly enough that they don't ride up or do other obnoxious things. Plus, they're flesh-toned, so they're a bit less conspicuous than bike shorts.
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Posted: 23 Aug 2012, 06:30
In the 60's we wore Petti-pants. They were kinda thin and silky with lace on the hem..and fit like shorts under a skirt. Wish they still made them.

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Terrylm1

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Posted: 23 Aug 2012, 07:43
You're definately not alone! I work in an office all day, so when I wear a dress I'll typically use baby powder. I carry one of the travel sized containers of it in my purse, and If I end up having to do a lot of walking on a particular day, I can zip to a bathroom and re-apply.

For the amount of walking YOU do though, yes, I will typically wear something underneath. If I wear a dress, I'll typically wear some leggings. It's pretty stylish right now, so it's real easy to get away with because it looks like you're wearing that on purpose. When I wear shorts underneath and people see it they're like "What's that?", and then that is embarassing. So I've found the better alternative for me is the leggings.
ortizjourney

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Posted: 30 Aug 2012, 12:47
i wear dresses all day, everyday and that doesnt happen to me. but what i have been doing is wearing boy shorts because they also slim my waist a little and actually makes the dress look better too, and my husband says it looks sexy Smile
Amazing...

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Posted: 30 Aug 2012, 14:39
If you go to running shop, they sell a product called Glide, just goes on areas where chaffing occurs, I use it for running it works.In Canada
about $10.00 it just goes on like deodorant
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Lindsrs

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Posted: 12 Sep 2012, 15:33
Monistat makes an anti-chafing "poweder gel" in the States for about $10, but it lasts for months. It's almost scent-free and clear, and lasts all day, unless you're really sweaty. Otherwise, I've been all about the bike shorts (usually in grey, black or nude) since the first time I went to Europe and I was walking 10 miles/day. The Spanx are great too, but I found they can be a bigger pain to get off/on all day, and felt a little more like "granny panties" than just workout shorts. My general plan is: tummy control, use Spanx; most days, use the chafing gel, or workout shorts. If I plan on getting frisky with my husband, definitely the gel or the workout shorts!
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mmpearce

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Posted: 13 Sep 2012, 09:12
I highly recommend Body Glide. It comes in a stick like deodorant and is a weird texture (not slippery, more waxy feeling) and makes a HUGE difference. I now wear skirts all summer and never get chafing as long as I use this stuff.
http://www.drugstore.com/products/prod.asp?pid=342002&catid=290336&aid=338666&aparam=342002
Miss...

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Posted: 19 Sep 2012, 18:12
Thanks for the responses! I'm glad I'm not the only one!

So after writing this post, I went to a store called "spandex world" and bought some spandex fabric and stretch lace to make prettier shorts. I made some black ones with purple and black lace, and some "nude" ones with nude lace. I even put little bows on one pair to make them look vintage-esque. They make me feel really cute, comfy and confident! I want to make more in more colors, but it's almost tights-season, so I'll hold off till spring. And hopefully I'll lose more weight by then!
Crash1498

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Posted: 19 Sep 2012, 18:16
I used to dance with a woman who wore bike shorts because when she turned her skirt would rise and she was too modest for the resulting exposure... we men felt cheated, but it helped her dance with more vigor...
JessWhatINee...

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Posted: 27 Nov 2012, 14:32
I've been wearing shorts under my dresses for modesty and chaffing for years. I get made fun of by my friends - "what are you in kindergarten?" or embarrassed if I find myself in an expected romantic situation & he finds out.
jeepjenn

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Posted: 28 Nov 2012, 09:46
Any running room type store will carry a chafing cream...most marathonners use it because there is a great amount of chafing in a marathon. just rub it on, its like a gel that stays slippery until washed off..

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sunnysewsill...

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Posted: 28 Nov 2012, 17:52
I bought cotton pettipants from Voice of the Montains - Vermont Country Store catalog. They are perfect in the summer under a light dress - they breath and move with the skirt.
http://www.vermontcountrystore.com/store/jump/productDetail/Clothing/Women&aposs/Slips_&_Camisoles/White_Cotton_Pettipants/21292
CR12

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Posted: 04 Mar 2013, 16:39
Have you seen Shortlettes from www.undersummers.com? They make pretty shorts for under dresses in tons of colors just for women! They are super, duper comfortable too!! I have four pair!!!



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