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City-Girl

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Posted: 12 Aug 2012, 13:26
UNREASONABLE goals...

I recently read a post of a woman who is determined to go from 200 lbs down to 140 lbs in only a couple of months. My goodness. That's like 5 lbs a week every week - and THAT'S if you allow yourself "3" months in which to do it! Unless you're a contestant on The Biggest Loser and you have trained professionals guiding you on what to eat and making you do boot-camp workouts 7 hours a day, this kind of weight loss is highly unlikely and pretty unreasonable. I'm not saying that it isn't possible - just unlikely, probably not too healthy, and not recommended as far as slow steady weight loss which will be much more sustainable once lost.

From what I have experienced, these are the folks who end up becoming discouraged and frustrated right off the bat and end up quitting before ever achieving their goal. Some may even put on MORE weight than when they began. From what I have seen in the past, sadly it is these folks that expect immediate results and that just isn't realistic.

My goal is such that I began at 160 lbs and I have committed to getting down to 135/140 lbs by Mid December. I have given myself 4.5 months in which to do so (this is approximately 1-2 lbs per week, steadily and slowly). Thing is too - I workout everyday to some degree, and I perform varying exercises. I work out an average of an hour or two a day (taking off 1-2 days per week to rest). I am committed and know that (for me) this is the only way I will achieve a 20/25 lb weight loss in 4 1/2 months.

Of course, the fuel you give your body is key as well. I'm not a total health nut but that's okay. I eat pretty well, but again, I have simply adjusted my "lifestyle" in order to achieve this goal. I'm not going to eat carrot sticks and lettuce for 4 months, lose the weight, and then go back to eating what I did before. Surely the weight will come back.

I have just resolved to eating generally healthy foods - just smaller portions 5 or 6 times a day (and I try not to eat anything after 6 or 7pm. That's it. I have come to terms that this is simply the way I have to eat in order to not only lose the weight, but to keep it from creeping back on. I know it works because I've done it before only this time, I am determined and committed to staying healthy and slender from that point on. Besides, I have knee and back issues so being lighter is just easier on my joints and so forth.

I like to see people realize that they need to slim down and get healthy but I wish that people would do their due diligence and learn the 'smart' way to lose weight. Being uneducated in how to go about achieving such a big goal is only setting yourself up for failure. It makes me cringe when I hear such stories. There's so much information out there, we just need to educate ourselves with it. Ask your doctor, join a gym, get a personal trainer, read a book or two - whatever it takes but jumping in blindly? You'll surely walk away disappointed and back at square one again. I'm certainly no expert but I just see what I see.

As always, stay focused and stay committed! Good luck to us all.

jonnybadback

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Posted: 19 Aug 2012, 05:49
A good post with a touch of reality check. A year ago i had two disks in my neck replaced and then got a lower back problem. As a result of dropping my activity level i put on just over a stone. Its mostly around my waist. So what do i do? I can't do full on exercise and i don't want starvation either. So, after seeing a tv program, i am alternate day calorie restriction. i take my normal sustainable calories on one day and reduce the next. As a result i don't feel hungry and myweight is dropping a lb or 2 a week which is sustainable. I also do a few Physio exercises for my back. Result is i have less back pain and can now touch my toes lol. I don't regard it as a diet as im not strict with the i take of calories however i am more conscious of the quantity i swallow. Some might say its a lifestyle change and to a degree it is but not that major. In the perfect world i would have a personal trainer and only eat organic food... But i work for a living and wouldn't be able to afford it so i am stuck with still eating processed foods and self motivation which in the real world is the downfall of most people on diets. Still we have to try Smile
Cimaen

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Posted: 19 Aug 2012, 07:00
Hi, an excellent post.
Its possible that a lot of lighter people see how much an obese & morbidly obese person lose over several months & believe that they themselves can achieve the same goal. The same can also be said with unfit folk believing that they can do hour after hour of training. Reality is a bummer that can & does break people's morale.

By all accounts, 1-2 lb a week max is an ideal weight loss.


Cymru Rydd
workingatit

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Posted: 19 Aug 2012, 09:23
Trying to push your weight loss to such an extreme of 5 pounds every week is unrealistic, because your life changes everyday and every week. For example, I have to go out of town for 5 days in September, then again in October and then again in November. My eating life gets crazy when I'm on the road. However, I think I can keep up a one or two pound weight loss per week, even on the road.
pam-u-la

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Posted: 20 Aug 2012, 06:51
An excellent post, and quite thought provoking too.
I used to be "I want immediate results and will do anything to achieve them" I too failed miserably and spent a good number of years punishing myself for the failure.
Anything is good in moderation.
Thanks agian for the great read..



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