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Posted: 31 Dec 2011, 11:31
You have disregard the jokes and stay focused on your goal many people may joke of laugh because they don't have the will power to do it. Once the weight starts shedding off his attitude will surely change

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Posted: 31 Dec 2011, 12:31
Shellysue55, ET AL: YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!! There are SO many of us "losers" out here!

Just keep your "eye on the prize" and take "baby steps" to reach your goal[s] whatever they may be!!

I'm 2.5 lbs. BELOW my goal weight; and if I can do it, so can YOU! I've lost 90 lbs to get here, and I've had many set backs on the way... you lose some one week, and then you may have a bad week, and gain some, or you reach a plateau, but the important thing is to "get right back on track" IMMEDIATELY! Don't say to yourself, "well, I've already blown it for today, so I'll just go ahead and eat whatever I want for today - and start again TOMORROW! NO!! Don't do it! Figure the calories you've consumed, deduct it from that week's total, then get right back on your eating plan,[whatever that may be!]

The point is... YOU ARE NOT ALONE!! This forum is a great place to vent and seek advice, and most of all... FIND SUPPORT!!!

There's enough love to go around.... and I, too, will be your buddy, BECAUSE THE BUDDY SYSTEM WORKS!!!

Take care, be healthy, and have the BEST NEW YEAR EVER!!! This could be the year that you reach your goal [or your sub-goal] remember, "baby steps" 5 lbs at a time is how you become a BIG LOSER!!


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Posted: 22 Jan 2012, 21:09
Your not alone in being alone"Wink I got no one, no hubby, no kids nada, just a dog. I found the app a month ago, and now online and it is starting to help. I haven't used the "buddies" yet, but do talk to my dog HAHAHA.. I am so bad, I won't go out to social functions or talk to anyone I know anymore because I gained so much weight. So, cheers to us lonely people and may be all be successfull!!!

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Posted: 23 Jan 2012, 13:39
Just gotta grrr it out today. I'm down almost 2 sizes and cleaned out my closet. I found a pair of capri pants that are the size I am now, however I put them in the donate pile on the belief that once the weather is warm enough to wear them I'll be too small to fit them. So I'm celebrating a bit that I have a much lighter laundry load.

Later that day I let my mom know she could come get the 2 bags of too big clothes for her charity. She tried to convince me to keep some of the bigger warm weather clothes (the capris in particular) because I might need them. I couldn't believe it! She really is expecting me to fail. When I gave her my reasoning (um hello, I'll be too small for them in a month...) she just stared at me with the pitying 'smile and nod' look.

That with the episode with my grandmother a few days ago over my giving away 5 bags of carb laden food I can't have - "what are you giving away good food for? why can't you get your head on straight and eat like normal people do??"

I'm gonna lose this weight with or without them. I'm stubborn and have had enough and whether or not my family supports me even after I've lost 20 lbs in 7 weeks its not for them, its for me. So I'm going to be SELFISH and think about what my body needs, what will make me happy, and I'm gonna do it!
"I choose to be on the positive side because negativity sucks the color from my world - and I like my rainbows." Me

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Posted: 23 Jan 2012, 13:51
You go girl - be as stubborn as you can be.
A lot of times all of us get these responses. Don't let it get to you. You will lose the weight, will need smaller pants by the time spring is here. You can do it, no matter what anyone says. Just smile when they say something like that and keep on going Smile))))

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Posted: 23 Jan 2012, 13:52
Dani, that comment your grandmother made sounded to me like asking an alcoholic why they can't just be a social drinker? People that don't have a weight issue don't understand why it is so hard to lose weight. Thats why this site is so good, everyone here has been through the same struggles and understands. 20 pounds in 7 weeks is fantastic and you should celebrate it. I live alone, except for the dogs, and none of my freinds have weight issues and even though they don't try to sabatoge me they also really don't understand my little victories like getting under 300 pounds.

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Posted: 23 Jan 2012, 22:51
Thanks ladies! Its so nice to know I'm not alone. The toughest thing about it is that both my mom and grandma are overweight. Grandma has done a few extreme diets, lost 80, 90 lbs, then regained it at least 3 times I know of. Mom needs to lose 40 right now and complains about it, says how when this happens or that happens the weight will fall right off like its nothing. Now that I'm actively pursuing my health I guess its just their way of protecting themselves from the truth that they need to be doing the same thing and its easier to discourage me than confront their own demons. I get it but it still irks me. I saw the best quote earlier today - The best revenge is fantastic success - or something like that.

Fatoldlady - dogs are sometimes the best company a girl can have. My little cocker is one of my best friends. Congrats on getting into the 200s! 44lbs is AWESOME! That is not a little victory, that is a major accomplishment and you should treat it as such. Keep it up!
"I choose to be on the positive side because negativity sucks the color from my world - and I like my rainbows." Me

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Posted: 24 Jan 2012, 00:31
I kinda feel that I'm alone because no one in my family is currently trying to lose weight and all might friends are fit.....

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Posted: 24 Jan 2012, 08:22
Hi all! I will say that my boyfriend has been supportive for the most part. The first week he couldn't understand why "just one piece of candy" or "just a little taste" was that big a deal. Now he asks how it is going, but I get the feeling he is just waiting for me to give up on it. As time goes on, I think he is getting more confident as time goes on.

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Posted: 24 Jan 2012, 14:28
I'm on it by myself as well. My husband basically laughs at me for monitoring my food intake and writing it down. Of all my siblings, I'm the most at risk to get Type 2 Diabetes, something my hubby doesn't comprehend even though his mom was diagnosed a few years ago which forced her to lose weight. I had recently thought of joining a "well-known" weightloss club in town for support but I didn't care to pay $$ per month just to be accountable to someone else for my health and fitness.

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Posted: 25 Jan 2012, 10:59
That's really sad your husband is not supportive. I know someone whose husband would bring them junk and candy bars when they were trying to lose weight or eat better. I think sometimes spouses feel like they are losing their eating buddy, or they are envious that their spouse has decided to take control of their weight.

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Posted: 27 Jan 2012, 06:11
Keep at it and continue to document everything. Don't forget to maintain portion control of everything. I lost 70lbs while my spouse was non-supportive. I ended up gaining 21 lbs back by mental weakness. However, back on track by tracking.
Keep up your good work

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Posted: 05 Feb 2012, 01:45
I'm so excited! Grandma hasn't said anything negative for the past few days, PLUS she made a pot roast for dinner tonight and didn't add anything to it like carrots or potato like normal. Maybe she's coming around?
"I choose to be on the positive side because negativity sucks the color from my world - and I like my rainbows." Me

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Posted: 05 Feb 2012, 02:25
The only person who stays with you your whole life is yourself. As sad and lonely as it may sound, it is true. The rest of people in our lives are only with us for part of our journey. Even if you live with them your whole life, you don't share every moment of your existence and every thought with them. You don't feel lonely or abandoned because of that. Now you are doing something that is important to you personally. You have to do it for yourself, not for the people who are around you now. And you have to find companions who will share this part of the journey with you. To some extent you are not alone any more. You found your community here, you can find other similar groups too. Your friends and family will still be there for you, but may be not for this part of your journey.
The first thing you lose on a diet is your sense of humor. ~ Author Unknown
It doesn’t matter what diet you follow… What matters is what makes you follow your diet. ~ Tom Venuto

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Posted: 09 Feb 2012, 13:56
Shelly, I just want to give you an imaginary hi five. I understand how you feel. I have a sweet, sweet man... Who can eat anything and everything he wants, and only gain muscle! Sometimes I have to laugh when I see him grocery shopping. All I have to say is thank god for sugar free products, or I would have lost my mind eating beside him (sugar makes me tired and icky). No you are not alone, far from it. You have many sisters (and some brothers, too!) at this site, and you are doing the right thing to reach out and find us.

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Posted: 11 Feb 2012, 00:55
The past few days at work have been torture. A few weeks ago someone decided to buy 5 tubs of nestle cookie mix for them to bake out front and it didn't happen over time. Now that they're getting close to expiring they have been baking 1, sometimes 2 batches a day. I'm so proud of myself for not having caved even once but its been really tough! Everyone at work is fairly thin so they don't understand what I'm doing and have repeatedly come to let me know when they are coming from the oven, or offering me the last one on the plate on their way to bake more. I'm stuck at work for 9 hours a day and its so hard to ignore the treats they dangle in my face.
"I choose to be on the positive side because negativity sucks the color from my world - and I like my rainbows." Me

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Posted: 13 Feb 2012, 18:39
thank you so much everyone for the support. I feel that all of you are a good bra! lol. I know when I do feel alone I always turn to FS to keep me in check. There are real people who struggle with weight every day and make the best of it!
My world is filled with divine abundance and unlimited potential.

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Posted: 21 Feb 2012, 00:47
This weekend I helped a friend move and stayed on plan foods. After working all day saturday I offered to pick up dinner and no one said anything when I came back with some chicken and salad. It was nice.
"I choose to be on the positive side because negativity sucks the color from my world - and I like my rainbows." Me

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Posted: 03 Mar 2012, 03:31
I feel alone also, so fatsecret really helps me to stay on track. My husband is disabled and I have taken care of him all this time and now is the time to get myself healthy.Thanks to all the support here, I can.

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Posted: 03 Mar 2012, 08:57
Thank you for this thread. I to am lonely. my husband is a wonderful man but does not understand the word healthy living. The only vegetables he eats are the ones i sneak into dinner dishes. His idea of cooking is opening a box or bag dinner and heating it up. It is very frustrating but I am learning to just try and cook all the meals I make enough that if he wants some he can have some if not I have leftovers for my lunches. If he does cook or really wants something not so healthy I make sure there are salad items in the house so I can have a big salad and a little of the not so healthy. Thank you all again.

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