Why do I look FATTER?

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chef101

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Posted: 04 May 2012, 16:12
Okay, long story short: I've only been dieting for almost 2 weeks, but surprisingly I've been able to lose 16 lbs. Probably water weight, knowing my luck, but I now weigh 160 lbs according to my scale this morning.

My gf has been dieting for months on end now, and weighs 152 pounds. That's 8 pounds less than me. She has a nice, flat stomach, skinny arms, decent legs.

AND I STILL LOOK LIKE A BEACHED WHALE--who just so happens to be 9 months pregnant!! (Not sure if whales stay pregnant that long but anyone who's been in my situation knows what I'm feeling and knows what I mean.)

So, excuse my abbreviations, but wtf? I lost 16 pounds and cannot see 1 inch of me that actually LOOKS like I lost 16 pounds, and how come she is so darn skinny--which, God bless her, I'm proud of her and don't envy her at all, but just wondering WHY there's such a huge difference? My boyfriend still friggin' oinks at me, while saying she has a great body. AND WE'RE 8 POUNDS APART.

What am I doing wrong?
If it tastes good, spit it out.
Sherilyn2

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Posted: 04 May 2012, 16:33
Well the first thing you're doing wrong is dating a jerk that would do something so demeaning to you.

As for sizes, how tall is she and how tall are you? Do you work out? Does she work out? But most of all, stop comparing yourself to others.
fzooey

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Posted: 04 May 2012, 16:35
Don't fret. As frustrating as it is, it sometimes takes your body a week or two to catch up. We all want to see results quickly, and as wonderful as it is seeing that number come down, it feels like there's no point if there are no physical results. Have patience. You'll see the difference soon.

By the way, great job! 16 pounds is quite a bit in two weeks. Be careful you're losing weight the healthy way.
erika2633

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Posted: 04 May 2012, 16:36
chef101 wrote:
Okay, long story short: I've only been dieting for almost 2 weeks, but surprisingly I've been able to lose 16 lbs. Probably water weight, knowing my luck, but I now weigh 160 lbs according to my scale this morning.


Unless you have somehow created a 4,000 calorie deficit every single day for the past 2 weeks, you are most definitely experiencing a loss of 'water weight', and it has nothing to do with your 'luck'. Healthy weight loss is 1-2 pounds per week, maybe 3.. so whatever you're doing, you need to check with a doctor if you plan to continue.

chef101 wrote:
I lost 16 pounds and cannot see 1 inch of me that actually LOOKS like I lost 16 pounds, and how come she is so darn skinny--which, God bless her, I'm proud of her and don't envy her at all, but just wondering WHY there's such a huge difference? My boyfriend still friggin' oinks at me, while saying she has a great body. AND WE'RE 8 POUNDS APART.


We all see our bodies a little differently than the rest of the world, and since you see yourself in the mirror every day, it's going to be tough for you to see the difference until it's a pretty significant difference in fat loss/change in body composition. That's why I suggest taking progress pictures and taking measurements. Also, we all are different heights with different body frames/composition, so 152 pounds is going to look different on most people.

Also, I would punch my boyfriend in the face and then show him the door if he oinked at me. What an ass.


Someone who is busier than you is working out right now.
There will come a day when you can no longer do this. Today is not that day.
chef101

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Posted: 04 May 2012, 17:21
We're both the exact same height. Granted, like I said, she has been working out and dieting for several months now, and I've been fatiguing my body just about every day for almost 2 weeks and eating very little, so no I'm not really doing it "the healthy way." Up until about a week ago, I never knew what "the healthy way" to lose weight was. According to my bf, eating very healthy stuff once or twice a day and nothing more was the way to lose weight. I now see just how wrong that was. (And in all other aspects, he truly is the greatest man I've ever known, just SUCKS when it comes to weight issues.) Since I joined this website, I took an interest in learning how I'm really supposed to be doing all of this, and its truly been a blessing. But like fzooey said, u just start to feel like WHAT'S THE POINT if you see no physical results.
If it tastes good, spit it out.
erika2633

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Posted: 04 May 2012, 18:11
You should really check out this website - it's a body image gallery:
My Body Gallery

You can put in a certain height and weight and it will pull up pictures of real life women (all very appropriate pictures, no worries..) so you can see how different people can look, even in the same height/weight range. It's very cool!

Anyway, I used to be in the same boat as you, really wanting immediate gratification and immediate results. It's just not a good way to go about it, so I'm glad you are 'seein the light' since you've been on the site. Smile I really hope you can commit to doing this the 'healthy way' - you will be a much happier/happier/more well-rounded person because of it. And you will definitely learn a lot about yourself in the process.

Feel free to add me as a buddy if you'd like! I'm on here waaay too much anyway. Smile


Someone who is busier than you is working out right now.
There will come a day when you can no longer do this. Today is not that day.
NCNOLE

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Posted: 04 May 2012, 18:50
If you're not working out, I would suggest starting. That will make you feel and look better.

And no man should ever tell someone they are with that someone else looks better or that you are fat. That is highly unacceptable - it just shows how he would be if you gained weight later in life. Dump the jerk. If you could find a way to work on your self esteem, I think you would see what a jerk he is.

Best of luck to you.
asagohan

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Posted: 04 May 2012, 19:34
erika2633 wrote:
You should really check out this website - it's a body image gallery:
My Body Gallery

You can put in a certain height and weight and it will pull up pictures of real life women (all very appropriate pictures, no worries..) so you can see how different people can look, even in the same height/weight range. It's very cool!

Anyway, I used to be in the same boat as you, really wanting immediate gratification and immediate results. It's just not a good way to go about it, so I'm glad you are 'seein the light' since you've been on the site. Smile I really hope you can commit to doing this the 'healthy way' - you will be a much happier/happier/more well-rounded person because of it. And you will definitely learn a lot about yourself in the process.

Feel free to add me as a buddy if you'd like! I'm on here waaay too much anyway. Smile


thank you, I needed to see that.
paperiniko

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Posted: 05 May 2012, 03:56
The "point" is that by acquiring a new and healthier lifestyle you feel and look better. Expecting to do so in two weeks time and to achieve the same results as somebody who is 8 lbs lighter and has worked out is not reasonable
This forum can be very helpful and offer often many useful suggestions especially if one takes the time to read them.
Weight in itself is meaningless if you do not consider body composition. Your friend might be "only" 8 pounds lighter in weight but she could be way leaner because she has built lean body mass and lost fat. LBM is more dense makes the body look good and toned while fat does not.
Most of all looking for quick fixes and expecting to solve one's weight/fat problem with a few days of crash diet inevitably leads to disappointment and more weight gain.
The only sustainable solution long term is changing gradually the lifestyle by increasing activity level, controlling portions (logging calories is helpful) and eating healthier food.
If you do so in 6 months or 1 year you will look and feel better, using shortcuts on the contrary the results will not be lasting.
rockytu

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Posted: 05 May 2012, 13:09
you have been doing this 2 weeks vs. her months.boyfriends an ass
ONCE YOU MAKE A DECISION THE UNIVERSE CONSPIRES TO MAKE IT HAPPEN!!
asagohan

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Posted: 05 May 2012, 17:49
rockytu wrote:
you have been doing this 2 weeks vs. her months.boyfriends an ass


This sums everything up rather nicely. I would almost see you saying that out loud in 1 breath.

Chef101- Rome was not built in a day, so therefore your rockin body will take a while to build. There might be some problems and slowdowns in construction, but remember, if you have a construction crew that is hampering your efforts to build your perfect body, you need to fire them, or put them on probation.

chef101

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Posted: 05 May 2012, 20:59
I know, I know...I guess I just figured that with my weight going down, so would my body. Buttttttt, as it so turns out, I just happen to have lost muscle mass and ZERO fat. So...yippee, two weeks of pure back-fire from working out and "dieting". Apparently losing 20-30 pounds just isn't going to do the trick to make me look smaller. And yes, I really have been working out a lot, and hard. Cardio and strength-training, with a few days of doing all the weight machine things (for arms, legs, abs, bike, etc) at the gym with pre-mentioned gf. Every single day, in fact...except for the last 2 days due to being under the weather with what I believe to be strep-throat. BLAH!!

But you are all very correct: there is no quick fix for FAT. However, I am very happy to say that my boyfriend has admitted to seeing a difference. My "arms don't feel as big", and my "sack of potatoes does not hang as low", aka my stomach.

....Yep. I guess when you love someone, even the most idiotic "compliments" are like precious gems. While I really feel like slapping MYSELF for even allowing someone to say that to me, I still from the bottom of my heart insist that he really is a fabulous guy...just in DIFFERENT ways.
If it tastes good, spit it out.
asagohan

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Posted: 05 May 2012, 23:22
chef101 wrote:
I know, I know...I guess I just figured that with my weight going down, so would my body. Buttttttt, as it so turns out, I just happen to have lost muscle mass and ZERO fat. So...yippee, two weeks of pure back-fire from working out and "dieting". Apparently losing 20-30 pounds just isn't going to do the trick to make me look smaller. And yes, I really have been working out a lot, and hard. Cardio and strength-training, with a few days of doing all the weight machine things (for arms, legs, abs, bike, etc) at the gym with pre-mentioned gf. Every single day, in fact...except for the last 2 days due to being under the weather with what I believe to be strep-throat. BLAH!!

But you are all very correct: there is no quick fix for FAT. However, I am very happy to say that my boyfriend has admitted to seeing a difference. My "arms don't feel as big", and my "sack of potatoes does not hang as low", aka my stomach.

....Yep. I guess when you love someone, even the most idiotic "compliments" are like precious gems. While I really feel like slapping MYSELF for even allowing someone to say that to me, I still from the bottom of my heart insist that he really is a fabulous guy...just in DIFFERENT ways.


Thats great that you noticed the little bit of progress you had made. It took me weeks before i started to notice a difference, and even more weeks before i really understood it. Continue on with what you can do, and don't get hung up if its not instant results.

as for your loving boyfriend, i believe you that he is a nice loving BF, but you need to tell him that you need encouragement the most right now.
Erinbee

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Posted: 07 May 2012, 14:53
Yup. Muscle vs fat. When I weighed 150 (before I was a runner) I looked much bigger and wore a size 10. At 150 now I look like I weigh 135, and I wear a 6. Huge difference. It boggles my mind - but it's true. You can dump a bunch of water in 2 weeks and look no different.

People never noticed my losses until I started running. I looked like I weighed 145 when I was 130 pounds. Gotta do it right
Daymon74

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Posted: 08 May 2012, 18:08
You're losing muscle, not fat. Keep any eye on your body fat percentage. To give you an example I weighed in today, and weigh the same as I did last week, but my body fat is down 2%. That's 5 pounds of PURE fat gone forever! The scale said I weighed the same though, because A). I had a 2% gain in water, and B) I gained about 2 pounds of lean muscle tissue (not uncommon when starting out in weight lifting). I'll trade the fat for water, and muscle any day, even if the numbers overall on the scale didn't go down.

You have to eat to maintain muscle mass, and to grow it. By starving yourself at the same time you're fatiguing your body I would bet almost anything you're body metabolized the muscle, while storing extra fat. Even though your weight went down on the scale, if you were watching your body fat percentage you would most likely have seen a big gain in body fat.

Ask me how I know this....... :/
pmggolly

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Posted: 09 May 2012, 06:31
I agree 100% with this statement made by paperiniko
"The only sustainable solution long term is changing gradually the lifestyle by increasing activity level, controlling portions (logging calories is helpful) and eating healthier food.
If you do so in 6 months or 1 year you will look and feel better, using shortcuts on the contrary the results will not be lasting."
I have totally changed what I eat over the past 1 1/2 years and I have enjoyed the different foods and my new favorites. I now read labels and do not by products that are not within the ranges explained to me by a dietitian. This has been my method to success in losing weight. I do not follow any of the diets on the market as I cannot stick to them. Reading labels and changing the foods I eat has helped me more than anything I have every tried. I also make sure I get 65+ protein per day and keep my calories to a level that allows for weight loss. This has been the easiest diet I have every done.



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