I feel lonely, I` too fat to have friends.

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kellyabbot

Joined: Apr 08
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Posted: 14 Aug 2008, 10:18
I really need to lose weight! I don`t have any friends and everyone is making fun of me and looking strange as if i have some sort of disease.
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jessiemartin...

Joined: Jun 08
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Posted: 14 Aug 2008, 10:47
Eat less and drink more water that will sure help. Also try going to a gym maybe you`ll find some friends there.
JuliG

Joined: Aug 08
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Posted: 14 Aug 2008, 14:21
I think weight and friends go hand in hand. As people gain weight, they tend to isolate themselves. But the good news is that the opposite is true also. When you start seeing some results, your self image will improve and you'll be happier... happiness attracts attention, ergo more friends.

I read Bob Green's book "Making the Connection". He's Oprah's trainer and the story and advice come from the early days of Oprah's struggle and how he convinced her that she needed to change her mindset to change the mirror. It's a really good read. Very reassuring and motivating.
Sista

Joined: Jul 08
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Posted: 14 Aug 2008, 14:29
Oh, I'm so sorry you feel that your weight is keeping you from having friends. If the friends you had are going to judge you just because of some extra pounds, they aren't worth having anyway. If you want to lose weight, do it for you. . . not for them. The first step is to talk to a doctor. They can recommend eating plans and exercise that will work best. They also can keep track to make sure you are losing at a healthy pace or figure out why you aren't losing. Just set small goals and don't get discouraged. I've been trying for 2 years now, and have only just now seen the scales tip in my favor. But it took lots of bloodwork and journaling before we got a combination that worked for me. (((hugs)))
copperbrown

Joined: Aug 08
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Posted: 17 Aug 2008, 14:38
Hi, there's no other way to say this. Are you projecting a negative vibe due to your own insecurities? There are some shallow people who will not befriend you because of your weight but there are also nice kind people out there.
Check your attitide first, are you as engaging as you can be? People always say they got friends after losing weight but I think its also because they became funnier, more personable, looked after themselves more and projected great energy.
I have fat friends as well and I am careful of their influence especially if they don't watch what they eat or exercise but I love them fat or thin, as long as they are great to be around.
Lift your spirits, fix your hair, nails, give yourself a facial etc and that may make you feel better. Buy a great pair of sunglasses or lipstick. Thats always a good start. Much love.



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