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Jilucky

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Posted: 31 Jan 2013, 08:32
Sometimes I think I mentally DON't want to succeed. I do good for a few days and then BAM--have a day or moment that I forget I am watching what I eat and go ballistic with carbs--BAD carbs(like ice cream and chocolate)Then I am down because I gained weight-and the cycle starts all over again--Is anyone like this???? if so-let's help each other out and be buddies and LOSE the weight once and for all!!! I want to lose about 40 lbs
Spacey47

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Posted: 31 Jan 2013, 11:26
Everyday I eat a little of something like ice cream or chocolate but not enough to go over my calorie limit.

It helps you not feel deprived, I also train intensely so I use a lot of calories up which allows me to indulge now and then.

The trick is to manage it overall USE the app it works
eKatherine

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Posted: 31 Jan 2013, 11:33
It looks like you are eating an extremely low fat diet. Many people can't stick with a diet that low in fat and may find themselves binging. I suggest moderating your fat intake. Try getting half your energy calories as fat. There is no particular virtue in eating all your energy calories as carbohydrates. Your body needs fat.
aurorabloomx...

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Posted: 31 Jan 2013, 11:46
I used to do that! Sometimes i still do! It all depends on the reason for losing weight. Do you want to do it for yourself? If so, why? To look better? To feel better? For your health? There are so many different reasons, and for me, to lose weight, I have to do it not just to look better, but for my health. Before, I always just wanted to look better for my boyfriend, and I'd fall really hard into binge-eating. But lately, I'm more concerned with my health and my heart and have been able to stick with it (mostly). I give myself little "cheats" every day, and that also helps to curb binge-eating. I think losing weight can be emotionally and mentally exhausting and it's very stressful, so sometimes, you're bound to just have a little "snap" moment. Diet buddies make it easier, hint hint <3<3<3
eKatherine

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Posted: 31 Jan 2013, 13:31
People who approach their weight loss program with a more flexible attitude are more likely to stay on track.
fredmugs

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Posted: 31 Jan 2013, 13:53
I'm doing a Biggest Loser contest right now and I decided to give myself mini rewards along the way. The goal is to lose 47 pounds and for every 5 pound drop I get to drink some beer and every 10 pound drop it's beer and whatever I want to eat. My first reward will be during the super bowl.
Pain is a by-product of a good time.
femtinio

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Posted: 27 Feb 2013, 11:17
Jilucky wrote:
Sometimes I think I mentally DON't want to succeed. I do good for a few days and then BAM--have a day or moment that I forget I am watching what I eat and go ballistic with carbs--BAD carbs(like ice cream and chocolate)Then I am down because I gained weight-and the cycle starts all over again--Is anyone like this???? if so-let's help each other out and be buddies and LOSE the weight once and for all!!! I want to lose about 40 lbs




oh thats soooo me!!!
I crave chocolate all the time.. Iam a good baker but a horrible chef so when lunch doesnt turn out tasty i just eat a little bit of it and later i do a batch of muffins and eat them all during the next couple of hours...... then i feel awful and disgusted by myself and feel ashamed and guilty at the next meal..... I cant seem to stay on track either Crying or Very sad
eKatherine

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Posted: 27 Feb 2013, 18:13
femtinio wrote:
Jilucky wrote:
Sometimes I think I mentally DON't want to succeed. I do good for a few days and then BAM--have a day or moment that I forget I am watching what I eat and go ballistic with carbs--BAD carbs(like ice cream and chocolate)Then I am down because I gained weight-and the cycle starts all over again--Is anyone like this???? if so-let's help each other out and be buddies and LOSE the weight once and for all!!! I want to lose about 40 lbs

oh thats soooo me!!!
I crave chocolate all the time.. Iam a good baker but a horrible chef so when lunch doesnt turn out tasty i just eat a little bit of it and later i do a batch of muffins and eat them all during the next couple of hours...... then i feel awful and disgusted by myself and feel ashamed and guilty at the next meal..... I cant seem to stay on track either Crying or Very sad

If you know that when lunch doesn't turn out tasty (whatever that means to you) you will end up baking a large batch of something and eating it all yourself, plan to have some sort of a fallback. Make extra of something you know is good, and keep it for just such an emergency. This is a situation that you yourself can find a strategy to overcome.
DarleneW101

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Posted: 27 Feb 2013, 19:56
I know exactly what you mean, Jilucky....it is a fear of success. I fight with it all the time! What ifs are awful....what if they don't like you skinny What if you get skinny and then get fat again? What if you get skinny and still aren't happy?
Know that if this is something you truly want, you are totally worth it; and are truly strong enough to accomplish it!!!
"Happiness is not a goal; it is a by-product." ~ Eleanor Roosevelt
kingkeld

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Posted: 28 Feb 2013, 02:13
There can DEFINITELY be a fear of success. I have had those battles. First of all, I wanted to lose all the weight. I had to deal with no longer being the happy fat guy.
Then, as I was getting closer and closer to my goal weight, I started sabotaging. My guess was that now I was a "weight loss rock star" and this had become my new identity. Then what happens when I am DONE losing weight? I will go from "Weight Loss Rock Star" to "regular thin dude". Nowhere near as fun, right? So, without me even noticing, I started doing things I was not supposed to.

I truly believe that losing weight is AT LEAST as much a psychological thing as it is a physical thing.

I see it recently. I have had a HARD time losing weight (that I gained after surgery), and it isn't until the last few weeks that I have truly found my groove again. Once I found it, I'm dropping lbs like crazy!

...but now I live in a constant fear that the groove will disappear again.

It's a strange game, losing weight.

Oh, and feel free to add me as a buddy if you like. Smile
"Losing weight is never about eating as little as possible"
- Kingkeld.
"You wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.
― Eleanor Roosevelt
"Do. Or do not. There is no trying."
- Master Yoda.

I went from morbidly obese to being the owner of TABDIG - a weight loss coaching service that helps people worldwide losing weight. It's been an amazing journey. From October 4th 2010 to April 3rd 2012 I lost half my body weight - 80 kilos/170 lbs. Since then, I have had two cosmetic surgeries to remove excess skin. I have now quadrupled my strength, gained several kilos in muscle mass, and today I focus on building muscle, optimizing my diet, living healthy and helping people to reach the very same goals. I am stronger, healthier, thinner, happier! If you feel that you need help losing weight, don't hesitate to send me an inbox message.
KatieTyrell

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Posted: 01 Mar 2013, 12:46
kingkeld wrote:


I truly believe that losing weight is AT LEAST as much a psychological thing as it is a physical thing.



YES!!! I am in complete agreement! Congratulations on your success. By the way, you won't be "regular thin dude", you will be "inspiration-for-me-to-lose-weight dude".

I have struggled with just changing my habits. I used to be a late night fast food (4th meal) dinner eater. This is also where I sabatoged myself the most (most calories, most carbs). Still after over a month of dieting, my stomach starts to growl around 10:30 at night. (I just eat a yogurt to calm it!) It takes a lot of willpower to let go of your past self and habits. I always felt alone in my journey and that saddened me more. However, now I see how much support there is out there since I've joined FS. Keep thinking positive! We're all here for you!
eKatherine

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Posted: 01 Mar 2013, 14:18
It's also true that people who try to lose weight often have unexplainable failures, and then turn around and blame themselves because they don't know why it happened. It's easy to imagine after the fact some reason why it happened. But what we come up with at that point may not be related to what the real issue is.
Mikaracat

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Posted: 16 Mar 2013, 06:56
I know what you mean! My kryptonite is white chocolate....and strawberry milkshakes!

I've taken to buying Jell-o pudding 'Temptations' in diffrent flavors to take the edge off when I want icecream or chocolate. (The double chocolate flavor only has 130 calories, so it fits in my diet!)
"I'm through accepting limits cause someone says they're so, Some things I cannot change, But till I try, I'll never know!" - DEFYING GRAVITY
Anneemai

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Posted: 17 Mar 2013, 16:35
I can relate to a lot of the posts above, yes what happens if I succeed and it is not as good as I hope. I go up and down and think today is going to be good, then boy the next day its not so good!
I guess I am just going to keep on making the small changes that I need to do and not to worry too much when I have a bad day!
So tomorrow is a new day.....I'll try my best to make it a good one!
thesoup1

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Posted: 19 Mar 2013, 11:18
Igo through it also late night hunger at times plus i work at night ineed lose this weight i sometimes wonder y food matters so much
Ky Mimi

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Posted: 21 Mar 2013, 13:08
Jilucky wrote:
Sometimes I think I mentally DON't want to succeed. I do good for a few days and then BAM--have a day or moment that I forget I am watching what I eat and go ballistic with carbs--BAD carbs(like ice cream and chocolate)Then I am down because I gained weight-and the cycle starts all over again--Is anyone like this???? if so-let's help each other out and be buddies and LOSE the weight once and for all!!! I want to lose about 40 lbs


Don't give up what you want long term for what you want right at this moment. Nothing tastes as good as it feels to be thin. Very Happy Hang in there.
kingkeld

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Posted: 22 Mar 2013, 02:12
KatieTyrell, thank you for the compliment. I appreciate it. Smile
"Losing weight is never about eating as little as possible"
- Kingkeld.
"You wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.
― Eleanor Roosevelt
"Do. Or do not. There is no trying."
- Master Yoda.

I went from morbidly obese to being the owner of TABDIG - a weight loss coaching service that helps people worldwide losing weight. It's been an amazing journey. From October 4th 2010 to April 3rd 2012 I lost half my body weight - 80 kilos/170 lbs. Since then, I have had two cosmetic surgeries to remove excess skin. I have now quadrupled my strength, gained several kilos in muscle mass, and today I focus on building muscle, optimizing my diet, living healthy and helping people to reach the very same goals. I am stronger, healthier, thinner, happier! If you feel that you need help losing weight, don't hesitate to send me an inbox message.
Alice5775

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Posted: 05 Apr 2013, 23:55
Do a quick survey are there negative feelings associated with looking good - example too many pick up attempts....
Krhfy6

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Posted: 10 Apr 2013, 10:23
I do this notoriously. I will be on track for a month, and then all of a sudden, I find myself sitting down at a family function with rice, bread, and cake, and cannot help myself. I have found that keeping my fat intake up, helps me keep from being hungry, while keeping my carbs low. I've also found when I stick with this everything taste sweeter, and things I used to love are to sweet to eat or drink.... I do totally self sabotage though... sometimes if it is between going home and making myself something to eat or stopping at taco bell on my way through town, it's like my brain goes on auto pilot and I have ordered a burrito, crunchy taco and a soda before I even realize it. THen I feel guilty, and like I can't do anything right, and sure enough I've gained 5lbs in 2 days because I have no willpower. I find that when my fiance who does this diet too, sees me do this he chastises me for it, making me feel worse, and even more like a failure. What so far has worked the best for me to stay on track is to remember, soon, I will be wearing a swimsuit, and I want to be able to go on long hikes with my fiance. Find a goal, not neccessarily a weight loss one, but something like you want to be able to hike up to the top of that local mountain, that is the key for me... It's not about looking good, it's about the things that I want to be able to do, that require me to be in better shape.
Sometimes life is not about what we can't have, it is about what we can have and learning to love it. I do not miss you bread.
GG1203

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Posted: 10 Apr 2013, 14:41
I've definitely experienced that myself, my weight has always been a constant see-saw. The sad part is, we over eat and then feel terrible, but we also tend to over eat once we've reached our goals as a form of reward, only to start the cycle all over again. There is one thing that will motivate anyone, and that is RESULTS. We know what it takes to get there, yet it's still a struggle. I think one person said it best, you can't go into this depriving yourself of anything, it's unrealistic and unsustainable. You have to tell yourself, you can have ANYTHING you want to eat (just in moderation of course). That way, you don't feel guilty when you eat certain things. You'll find yourself craving the "bad" foods less and less as time goes on because they're not off limits. It's the old saying, "we want what we can't have", it really does apply to all facets of life. So I think critical to success is not saying we CAN'T to anything, including what we eat. Try saying to yourself, I'm going to have this amount of chocolate today, and then try to stick with smaller portions. Also, try to fill your day with other positive things so you dont become overly focused on just the food that makes you feel good. Remember also that anything in life is temporary, you can change, but it's just as much as mental change as it is physical. You have to work on the mental part first, changing your habits and the viscious cycle you're in, and the physical will follow.

Good luck.



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