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jetgemini

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Posted: 01 May 2012, 11:37
I am 64 years old and I have never had any positive body image at all. I recently visited my mom and she gave me a picture of myself at nineteen. I was shocked to realize that I was actually pretty. I know I will never be nineteen again but I am going to stop thinking negatively about how I look. What a waste!!
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fatoldlady

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Posted: 01 May 2012, 12:04
I had the same realization a few years ago. I thought I was ugly all my life and when I saw a picture of me in my early twenties, I was actually at a good body weight at the time, and I was kind of cute. I remember thinking I was fat at the time. I feel sorry for young girls these days trying so hard to fit into some sort of unrealistic body image instead of enjoying their youth and beauty. Nice to see you back.
kclab

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Posted: 01 May 2012, 14:32
Dang, I have that same little voice in my head, telling me negative things. I wish there were a mute button for it. Nuff said!
I try to remember that, like fine wine, age has its own beauty and bouguet. I am trying to focus on the positive.... and just keep moving forward and onward!! Hang in there!
NCNOLE

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Posted: 01 May 2012, 15:11
Funny, I look at old pictures and think "what was I thinking?" LOL - hairstyles that I thought looked good, clothes that I thought were stylish!! I do have some that I think, damn my body did look good. I never thought my body was decent and when my BF at the time would say something I just shrugged it off. Older and wiser!! I will accept my body the way it is now.
jetgemini

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Posted: 02 May 2012, 10:27
I posted a picture of me at a decent weight I was wearing a size 10 which is probably a realistic size for my height and age. down 1/2 pound today but I know it is mostly water. Haha I will take anything to see that scale move down. Have a good day ladies you are very inspiring.
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Loubyinleeds

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Posted: 02 May 2012, 12:10
I remember that I would never wear a bikini as I thought I was far too fat for one and that was when I weighed 8stone... I looked at the picture the other day and same as you thought what a waste of negative energy.... I think I feel better about myself now even though I am 8 stone heavier...
sharongirl61

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Posted: 03 May 2012, 07:32
I too, in looking at a picture from my late twenties (I am now 50) I did not recognize or appreciate the fit body I had because at that age I just took it for granted that was the way I was supposed to look and I didn't have to work that hard at it. Now my life is sweating bullets daily to get to where I want to be!
Bodicea

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Posted: 03 May 2012, 09:19
Can I join the club??? Also 50+ and have had the same reaction as NCNOLE, when looking at photos from high school and early twenties. "What WAS I thinking??!?"

If only I'd been able to see that I was basically at a normal weight - maybe twenty pounds heavy - I might not have gone on to put on twice that weight. Just sucks what we do to ourselves and what the media "helps" us with.

Joyce
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jetgemini

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Posted: 03 May 2012, 09:33
Welcome Bodicea! Gosh I did not realize how many women have these same feelings about our body image. My three daughters have a whole different outlook on this. They are raising their children differently. No talk about weight or size or negative comments about appearence. They stay active and eat healthy and they are focusing on building character.
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workingmom78

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Posted: 03 May 2012, 10:17
Good for your daughters! I also have two girls (one who is a teen) and there is so much pressure about appearances. I shouldn't be surprised. I used to torture myself by comparing myself to altered and air brushed magazine photos. We didn't stand a chance. My mother was very into health and maintaining a healthy weight and that kind of added to the pressure (although I don't think she advertantly meant to do that). I am seeing some more awareness into this in this generation which is encouraging...check out this link I saw yesterday about a young girl who is challneging "Seventeen" Magazine to run one cover shot a month without air brusghing or touching up the photos... https://www.change.org/petitions/seventeen-magazine-give-girls-images-of-real-girls
chef101

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Posted: 04 May 2012, 17:54
I'm only 24, but can I still join you ladies?? Wasn't that long ago that I saw a picture of myself from when I was 17, and my mind instantly said "...you sure that's me?" LOL! I used to weigh 120, and told myself everyday how fat and ugly I was. Still do that now, but just seeing myself back then is crazy coz I couldn't point out a single bit of body fat anywhere. To think I was a SIZE 3 and saying to myself "YOU'RE FAT!" Makes me wanna slap myself. I think I can each my insecurities from back then up to friends, grandparents, and parents, always hounding about weight, etc. And a sister who was 5'0 and weighed 90 pounds, heh.
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asagohan

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Posted: 04 May 2012, 18:41
eugh, i look back at when i was 18 and man did i look better, but because a jerk exbf told me i was fat it affected me for years!
pmggolly

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Posted: 09 May 2012, 06:01
I am 58 and feel better now than I did 20 years ago but weigh a lot less. I will have to go back to my old school picture and see what I think. I have always look at other pretty older women and wish I looked so good at my age...so I to do not think positively about myself until this past 1 1/2 years when I ready made up my mind to lose weight. I feel much better now but I still don't think I'm pretty. My husband says I am so that helps.
ladyteigra

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Posted: 10 May 2012, 11:48
I'm 23 and it's inspiring to see these stories, that image and culture have heavily influenced all of us. Absolutely, it's hard to wrench yourself out of looking at all the ads, the models, the movie stars, to look at yourself and your positive attributes. With advertisements screaming at us that we're not pretty enough unless we get this facial cream or that bathing suit, it's difficult to accept your own body. I have a friend that was a size 0 in high school and called herself fat. Now she's a 12, I think she looks great, but she's still moaning about it. Won't listen to anyone, not even her friends or boyfriend, but she's more glamorous then she knows. I'm loosing weight for myself--I want to be able to go hiking longer distances and keep up with my step son without loosing my breath. I don't think it should be about the clothes and the fashion, it should be about what you want out of yourself and your life.
gramechka

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Posted: 11 May 2012, 14:53
Smile Smile Smile I am 62 years old & have spent 1/2 my life thin (1 thru 31) & the other 1/2 (32-62)heavy. Inside my heart & Soul I have been the same person though I do notice that some people judge me by my weight. It has been a long battle but I am determined to weigh a healthier weight so I may enjoy a longer life span. I wish everyone on this site the best of luck in their quest & please know & believe you are ALL BEAUTIFUL RIGHT NOW!!! Sincerely, Gramechka



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