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Self Esteem, Truth & Temptation.
[quote=NowIunderstand] ...I don't think not being truthful can cause loss of self esteem. People lie to themselves all the time to get what they want. They twist the truth around to fit their conscience. They justify their acts with tales. [/quote] I agree, and perhaps mainly true of a sociopath. However I believe that most people UNCONSCIOUSLY will know the truth of what they do. It may show up in nightmares for them, or in their behavior in some way. (Subtle passive aggressive 'jokes' or any number of leaking negatives, visible to others, but not to them.) AND they may 'project' their behavior on others. But we all do that, none of us are perfect :) We all have a Shadow self we are not aware of. This Shadow is the part of our personality that we don't like. But we are NOT consciously aware of. So instead, we clearly see it in others. You know: when you see that person that somehow rubs you the wrong way? or one you just can't stand? They may be exhibiting behavior that mirrors our own Shadow self. Even if our shadow self would never go to their extreme. My first therapist said: "Our Shadow is mostly pure Gold." Meaning that the behavior we are hidden from, if brought to the light and 'gentled' & used appropriately, can be a gold mine of useful positive energy. For instance: one of my Shadows is ANGER, but I often can recognize when it happens and gentle it down from rage to just asking questions. Using the energy of the anger to motivate me to make the call to a person or business, talking calmly instead of heated, and asking them for solutions for my concerns. Or what I had perceived as unjust behavior on their part. Back to Sociopaths: look it up? But in brief: they are; 1. likable, charismatic, manipulative. 2. they feel entitled. 3. they have NO remorse. In fact they are INCAPABLE of feeling remorse or even disgust. That part of their brains have been shown to be completely inactive. (I have no idea if their unconscious is aware of it or not.) They are also pathological liars, who BELIEVE that they say when they lie. Sociopaths manipulate using fear, doing EMOTIONAL damage, and they don't care. Psychopaths are the same, except they go one step further to doing and feeling nothing when doing physical damage to others. My childhood, like most of us, was not ideal. Anger is always there below the surface, so I never married. Good choice for me. :) But I'm thankful to my cruel father in that he motivated me to try to understand humans, myself, and him. It's been a lifelong pursuit, and I use Psychology, Astrology, therapy, & countless books, to help me understand humans, and myself.
by billtech66 (submitted 2 weeks ago)
Self Esteem, Truth & Temptation.
:) Well, thank you for all the responses, ! and keep them coming if you are so inclined. :) Need to get to bed, but just want to say: My mom was a good dad. Good at guiding us, gently correcting us, & always very focused on doing what's right. She was not, however, loving or delighted with us kids. Never hugged us. Or praised us. Not complaining, she was my mom and a very very good parent. My dad was an alcoholic, which came about after a little girl ran out in front of his car on a highway. He had to carry her broken body back to her parents. He started drinking. that was before I was born. He thought he didn't deserve to have kids (My interpretation of his behavior), and we clearly got the message we didn't deserve to eat, or to LIVE. He critisized us, hit, kicked or whacked us with whatever was at hand. Once he was drunk and couldn't find his slippers. I was there so he asked where they were. NO idea! So, he accused me of hiding them. Took me up to my room, pulled my clothes down, hooked my feet under the bed end, and beat me until he was exhausted using his special strap, thick cow belly, and holes punched in it "to make blisters" he told us. I was 7 or 8 about then at most. So, my self esteem came from my SELF. and it is ALWAYS THERE. never fleeting. :) and that is the Truth. :)
by billtech66 (submitted 2 weeks ago)
Self Esteem, Truth & Temptation.
After reading others posts, and particularly Eddie1261's posts and responses to them; I've been meditating and came up with: Self Esteem, Truth & Temptation. I'm a Scorpio, so I'm good at getting to the root of things. so, think about this: 1. Self Esteem. Where do we get it? 2. Truth. How often do we see it? or Speak it? 3. Temptation. Are we not overwhelmed with this in this modern world? 4. and are question 1 and 2 and 3 closely linked? I do hold Corporations responsible for most of the Temptations. Which side tracks us and has shifted so many of us into loss of self esteem. I think Self Esteem can only come from within, from the Self. Not being truthful can cause LOSS of self esteem. If we LIE to ourselves, who can we trust!? Then we look OUTSIDE our self and try to get trust, &/OR supportive feedback that we are a good person? When we don't really believe we are? Loss of Self Esteem can cause eating disorders. Duh! I truly believe Self Esteem comes from being Honest, ALWAYS to ourself. Lie to others if need be, but personally, being honest to myself that I'm LYING to them is very important. Best way to change our lack of success in losing weight is to shift into ALWAYS being honest with ourself. AND FOCUS ON: Not overdoing exercise; Not overdoing crash or excessive dieting, like cutting back on too many calories. With a healthy self esteem we are powerful! and I'm NOT talking about having a huge powerful EGO. Healthy self esteem is: calm, centered, serene. Unflappable. HAPPY! :) & as Eddie1261 says: OWN IT. :)
by billtech66 (submitted 2 weeks ago)
my thoughts after reading others posts: reposting here as well...
LoL, thanks for all the humorous, true, supportive, realistic responses!! :) and why not get a copy of that book too? for reference, show to friends? ("Are You Confused?" by Paavo Airola. ) I bet you will love it! Blessings :)
by billtech66 (submitted a month ago)
my thoughts after reading others posts: reposting here as well...
Okay, I'll say what I think, and what works for me. We need ALL: carbs, fat, protein, AND we need micronutrients, vitamins and minerals that are normally (used to be) in most basic healthy foods. Cutting out one of the basic three is putting us in an imbalance, & I suspect will have penalties down the road. I challenge you all to educate yourselves on healthy diets, NOT fad diets, or those that advertise and brag things like "lose 10 Lbs in a week!" or fill in whatever. FOLLOW THE MONEY. LONG AGO, A great help to me was a book called "Are You Confused?" by Airola, Paavo. QUOTE: Would You Like to Know... *What is man's best diet for optimal health? *High or Low protein diet-Which is better? *How arthritis and cancer are successfully treated in Europe *The truth about nutrition-sex relationship? *What is the real cause of baldness? *How to fast-and how not to? *Is milk good for your health? END QUOTE. BLESSINGS TO YOU ALL. :)
by billtech66 (submitted a month ago)
Coffee increases Blood Sugar?
[b]Another note on calcium: decades ago scientists discovered that we need both calcium and magnesium together for them to work. The proper ratio was thought to be 2 to 1, or twice as much calcium as magnesium. Shortly after (don't know exactly without looking it up) they corrected it to needing to be a one to one ratio. that was over 20 years ago. However, what is sold now is that same incorrect 2 to 1 ratio. For me, too much calcium causes cramps. So, I don't even supplement calcium since for me it also contributes to KIDNEY STONE production. and I still have 7 stones in my kidneys, waiting to come out. :) In my mind, what corporations are doing is truly atrocious. Most pre prepared foods are NOT good for us. The so called staples, (Coffee, cows milk, Meat, white four (in almost everything) soda's, donuts, croissants or rolls, white bread, candy bars, cakes and cookies with zero nutritional value (sugar, fat, white flour & spices or chocolate), and so on.) normal things people are able to purchase, are really terrible for us when considering our overall health. Corporations are money making machines, effectively mindless. Incapable of remorse. When I was a boy in school, there was only ONE fat kid. Now most of us are fat. Eating right is not easy, we have to buck the trend, and the overwhelming overate and subtle influence of advertising. Main way I do that is eat a huge breakfast AND then a early large lunch. So I'm not interested in cookies in the afternoon or evening. [/b]
by billtech66 (submitted 2 months ago)
I cannot lose weight and am completely frustrated.
this post is relevent as well: We need food during the day. Not at night. Lets switch to worry about GETTING ENOUGH FOOD at BREAKFAST & before 2pm INSTEAD of worry about getting too much?? When we don't eat a big breakfast, we train our body to think we are in a famine. It gets very very good at RETAINING fat, for survival. When we eat a big huge breakfast, it fuels us until our big healthy lunch. Then for dinner we don't need to OR WANT TO gorge, or to crave cookies, cake, steak & potato, snacks before bed. We burn fat when we sleep. But if we eat a huge dinner or snacks before bed, our body spends a lot of time storing fat while we sleep. Since sleeping we don’t need a ton of food (a full belly). We need that DURING the day while we work. Exercising before the huge breakfast is the best time to burn fat, since we are already in burning fat mode. So as little as 10 to 15 min light to medium exercise is equal to 25 to 30 min later in the day. We don’t need to kill ourselves with aerobics to lose or maintain weight. ANYBODY can easily get fat with todays common diet and stressful lifestyle, but at 70 years old I'm still lean and healthy. How about how corporations have done this to us? Corporations produce the same basic poor quality foods, processed foods, Loaded with salt and fat, cakes and cookies with very little nutritional value (white flour, main ingredients SUGAR & FAT, then some spices or blueberries or chocolate to tempt us. And everything including cosmetics filled with supertoxins, which overload the liver with false estrogenetic chemicals ) https://www.google.com/#q=supe... Yes, and it's also due to us having so little time (commuting, working, rushing around doing things that need doing) that we don't have time to eat a good breakfast, leisurely to properly digest our healthy food choices. But, we are smarter than that. We can make those choices.! :|
by billtech66 (submitted 6 months ago)
I cannot lose weight and am completely frustrated.
Good responses; Aereobics: yes someone posted a good article here a few weeks back about that. A woman marathon runner found she got fat by running. Saying she found out that since running burns fat, using the slow twitch muscles, then our body STORES up fat since it's mainly what's needed! She switched to interval training and using fast twitch muscle groups, got lean and slim again.
by billtech66 (submitted 6 months ago)
How corporations are producing so much unhealthy choices.
You're welcome & Thanks for your good comments northernmusi...; and yes I guess it is intermittent Fasting. Breakfast literally means Break Fast. :) then to eat a good meal or 2 WHILE we need it. then fasting again. But, the nice thing is, fasting after lunch does NOT feel any more like fasting than sleeping does. I'm rarely hungry in the evening, and only eat a snack between 2pm and 7pm, nothing after that. No cravings, no tendency to wander to the refrig or cookie jar... :) Aereobics: yes someone posted a good article here a few weeks back about that. A woman marathon runner found she got fat by running. Saying she found out that since running burns fat, using the slow twitch muscles, then our body STORES up fat since it's mainly what's needed! She switched to interval training and using fast twitch muscle groups, got lean and slim again. Thanks for your support and happy others are helping us understand simple ways to get and stay healthy.
by billtech66 (submitted 6 months ago)
How corporations are producing so much unhealthy choices.
We need food during the day. Not at night. Lets switch to worry about GETTING ENOUGH FOOD at BREAKFAST & before 2pm INSTEAD of worry about getting too much?? When we don't eat a big breakfast, we train our body to think we are in a famine. It gets very very good at RETAINING fat, for survival. When we eat a big huge breakfast, it fuels us until our big healthy lunch. Then for dinner we don't need to OR WANT TO gorge, or to crave cookies, cake, steak & potato, snacks before bed. We burn fat when we sleep. But if we eat a huge dinner or snacks before bed, our body spends a lot of time storing fat while we sleep. Since sleeping we don’t need a ton of food (a full belly). We need that DURING the day while we work. Exercising before the huge breakfast is the best time to burn fat, since we are already in burning fat mode. So as little as 10 to 15 min light to medium exercise is equal to 25 to 30 min later in the day. We don’t need to kill ourselves with aerobics to lose or maintain weight. ANYBODY can easily get fat with todays common diet and stressful lifestyle, but at 70 years old I'm still lean and healthy. How about how corporations have done this to us? Corporations produce the same basic poor quality foods, processed foods, Loaded with salt and fat, cakes and cookies with very little nutritional value (white flour, main ingredients SUGAR & FAT, then some spices or blueberries or chocolate to tempt us. And everything including cosmetics filled with supertoxins, which overload the liver with false estrogenetic chemicals ) https://www.google.com/#q=supe... Yes, and it's also due to us having so little time (commuting, working, rushing around doing things that need doing) that we don't have time to eat a good breakfast, leisurely to properly digest our healthy food choices. But, we are smarter than that. We can make those choices.! :)
by billtech66 (submitted 6 months ago)
So much exercise, so little pounds lost?
All good answers posted here. ! :) 1. not enough calories eaten. 2. that wt. loss is very good, can't do it fast like so many adverts try to say. 3. You may be OVERDOING IT, BUT you are doing fantastic! and I'd add: just change some habits. Here's what I do: I never try to lose weight. I just eat and live like this. 1. Weigh every morning nude. This is how I determine how many calories I need every day. (There will be a variation of up to 2 Lb. day to day, depending on fluid retention, etc. as you know, one glass of water is a half pound.) 2. Count ALL calories. Using Fatsecret on mobil phone and web. 3. Most important: Eat Half my daily calories for Breakfast. Breakfast is not the time to Diet. We need good food right away so our bodies don't go into FAMINE MODE, where it needs to gorge to survive. (If we have not gotten adequate calories by mid day, our bodies think it's a famine and craves food all evening, even when our stomach is full. 4. Eat a big Lunch. 5 Eat a snack for dinner, and no later than 3 hours before bed time. 6. Make sure I get 35g or more of fiber every day. 7. Add a gram or two of dried Kelp or other seaweed every day, for Minerals. (For many years I was getting leg cramps and very painful abdominal cramps randomly, but not since using seaweed.) 8. I read ingredients on anything I eat. 9. At the end of the day I am RARELY HUNGRY. THIS IS NOT DIFFICULT, NOT A BATTLE. it's just changing habits.
by billtech66 (submitted a year ago)
Fat Fast - buddies
Hey, some here may think you don't have a thing to lose. :) But I'm with you on keeping up and on top of it. here's my technique: First, Losing weight is NOT a battle (Does NOT have to be). This is what I do: It is actually very easy. I never try to lose weight. I just eat and live like this. 1. Weigh every morning nude. This is how I determine how many calories I need every day. (There will be a variation of up to 2 Lb. day to day, depending on fluid retention, etc. as you know, one glass of water is a half pound.) 2. Count ALL calories. Using Fatsecret on mobil phone and web. 3. Most important: Eat Half my daily calories for Breakfast. Breakfast is not the time to Diet. We need good food right away so our bodies don't go into FAMINE MODE, where it needs to gorge to survive. (If we have not gotten adequate calories by mid day, our bodies think it's a famine and craves food all evening, even when our stomach is full. 4. Eat a big Lunch. 5 Eat a snack for dinner, and no later than 3 hours before bed time. 6. Make sure I get 35g or more of fiber every day. 7. Add a gram or two of dried Kelp or other seaweed every day, for Minerals. (For many years I was getting leg cramps and very painful abdominal cramps randomly, but not since using seaweed.) 8. I read ingredients on anything I eat. 9. At the end of the day I am RARELY HUNGRY. THIS IS NOT DIFFICULT, NOT A BATTLE. it's just changing habits.
by billtech66 (submitted a year ago)
Losing weight is NOT a battle (Does NOT have to be).
This is what I do: It is actually very easy. I never try to lose weight. I just eat and live like this. 1. Weigh every morning nude. This is how I determine how many calories I need every day. (There will be a variation of up to 2 Lb. day to day, depending on fluid retention, etc. as you know, one glass of water is a half pound.) 2. Count ALL calories. Using Fatsecret on mobil phone and web. 3. Most important: Eat Half my daily calories for Breakfast. Breakfast is not the time to Diet. :) We need good food right away so our bodies don't go into FAMINE MODE, where it needs to gorge to survive. (If we have not gotten adequate calories by mid day, our bodies think it's a famine and craves food all evening, even when our stomach is full. 4. Eat a big Lunch. 5 Eat a snack for dinner, and no later than 3 hours before bed time. 6. Make sure I get 35g or more of fiber every day. 7. Add a gram or two of dried Kelp or other seaweed every day, for Minerals. (For many years I was getting leg cramps and very painful abdominal cramps randomly, but not since using seaweed.) 8. I read ingredients on anything I eat. 9. At the end of the day I am RARELY HUNGRY. THIS IS NOT DIFFICULT, NOT A BATTLE. it's just changing habits.
by billtech66 (submitted a year ago)
RE: Dr. Andrew Jones M.D. advertisements on this site...
I followed up on this ad: found: http://www.casewatch.org/board... where he has no facility as advertised, has not practiced medicine since 2006, and is the president of the company he recommends in the ad. This advertisement is bogus, and needs to be removed.
by billtech66 (submitted a year ago)
DON'T DO CARDIO - Must Read!
LoL ! :) :d :lol: :p ;) very good discussion, I enjoyed it, thanks all. :)
by billtech66 (submitted 2 years ago)
Confusion on calories burned
I think that everyone who posted here has made at least one good point. :) I'd like to add that I agree the Fatsecret calories burned are pretty high, and I rarely think they agree with calories I actually burn in exercises I do. But there are other factors involved. We also burn calories to maintain body temperature. 1. the more muscle mass you have, the more calories you burn just laying down. So, having a database showing actual calories burned for everyone is impossible. also; 2. When we sleep we burn mainly fat. 3. When we exercise aerobically we start with burning sugar/glycogen/carbohydrates then when the initial storage of carbs is mostly burn off, we will start burning fat, and I think having some carbs left helps to burn the fat. 4. when we do heavy weight lifting we are burning carbs. so, like some of you, I mainly only use this database to track calories in the food.
by billtech66 (submitted 2 years ago)
RE: losing 2 pounds per week. :)
doing the math; one pound is 3500 calories, right? then Two pounds is 7000 calories. Losing 2 Lb. per week would then involve dropping 1000 calories per DAY, LESS than we NEED. Not less than we usually eat. or, BURNING 1000 calories more per day than we need. or combination of both, like eating 500 calories less than we need and burning 500 more calories than we usually do, per day. After we burn 500 calories in exercise we need to eat. hehe. but more importantly we need Mainly WATER, and some electrolytes. Celery* stalks or an orange is best in my opinion. and NOT some health drinks promoted for just that, which are high calorie drinks. Dehydration shows up as weight loss, but we are supposed to be 80% water. AND we can actually DIE from electrolyte** loss from excessive exercise. ! *QUOTE from http://celerynutritions.com/ar... "Since celery has a high content of sodium, it is advisable to take it when a person wants to replace electrolytes in the body. It has also proven to be better than all the other electrolyte replacement drinks like Gatorade." END QUOTE. I found out what my daily requirements of calories is by tracking how many calories I eat, and checking my weight every morning. For me, depending on how active I am, I need 2000 to 2300 calories a day. also I check http://www.freedieting.com/too... trying all options including advanced options of Katch-McCardle method since I know my body fat percentage (or pretty close.) ** Andrea Smeltzer died in her sleep at the age of 19 due to an electrolyte imbalance that was caused by her bulimia, which caused her heart to stop beating. ** Officials with the coroner's office said 17-year-old Patrick Allen died from complications of an electrolyte imbalance including hyponatremia, due to excess liquid ingestion. While Allen was consuming water, officials said he was sweating all of his sodium or salt out of his body and not replenishing that sodium -- which they said is needed by the body's organs in order to run, ABC23 reported. ABC23 spoke to an area pediatrician who said a good way to replenish sodium lost in the body is to consume sports drinks or to take salt tablets -- especially for those working out for more than two or three hours and those sweating a lot in high temperatures. However, for those working out for less than an hour or two and in more moderate temperatures, doctors said sports drinks can actually be unhealthy. END QUOTES.
by billtech66 (submitted 2 years ago)
inaccurate/limited portion sizes choices on iphone
I would like Fatsecret to fix this problem on the iphone. it's often limited to 1/4, 1/2, 3/4 portion sizes instead of tenths of an ounce or grams. I entered 4.6 oz of lemon pudding and it shows up as 4 4/8 oz. perhaps because it's linked to the same program on the iphone. please fix the iphone program. this is not acceptable.
by billtech66 (submitted 3 years ago)
How Often Do you weigh yourself?
every morning when I get up.
by billtech66 (submitted 3 years ago)
can't find 'my food diary' or 'my favorite meals',
For some reason, on my computer, which I can't understand, when I hover over MyFatSecret with the mouse, MY FOOD DIARY is just not there. or no where else in all the pages I searched. [b][u]I would prefer to have an option to add a food or recipe in the MENU BAR at all times, on every page. [/u][/b] I was able to find where to add foods or recipe with the suggestions made, however, it is a round about process. I just want to post this in the hope that the developers will see it and realize it's an unnecessary handicap to newcomers. Being difficult to add a food or recipe is another obstacle to maintaining our weight.
by billtech66 (submitted 3 years ago)
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