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how has this journey affected you life besides weight loss?
MANY changes ALL OVER this journey of weight loss. Physical of course - ability to stand longer and walk farther without heavy breathing and pain as well as more natural ambition to be physical; first time in my life I ever had the nerve to try go-cart racing or any other 'size confined' type activity. Emotionally I've worked on the eating disorder for more than the weight loss as I sought a more positive outlook and forgiving approach. People around me have noticed more than the size differences; they've commented on my overall changes. As I've recently REGAINED some of the weight loss, I can tell the difference physically - more pain when standing a longer time. This site has been very important to me as well; showing up here reminds me of why I began this endeavor and how vital it is to my overall health.
by FullaBella (submitted 3 days ago)
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I would love to see this same video but with the person feeding them waving a carrot stick or a stalk of celery... see how the baby would react then...
by FullaBella (submitted 4 months ago)
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You're not hijacking Mummy; it's fine. The one's encouraging Mom to have a Marlboro were intriguing. My how some times have changed; but others haven't.
by FullaBella (submitted 4 months ago)
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I know.. I was conflicted this morning when I saw it.. my first reaction was 'great... let's create disordered eating young in life by making the kid want the sugar/dessert more than their actual 'food'. But then thought about it thru the day. On the one hand.. how many babies have we fed making the propeller sound while saying 'open up the hanger.. here comes the plane' or 'choo choo'... I'm wondering if the kid actually recognizes candy or just 'look.. it's red.. something different. I know I didn't like that stuff on the spoon.. what's this brown shaped thing in their fingers? After all.. I eat with my fingers.. ' I guess it's like anything else.. we all watch the same video and attach different conclusions and our own emotions.
by FullaBella (submitted 4 months ago)
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by FullaBella (submitted 4 months ago)
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by FullaBella (submitted 4 months ago)
low calorie snack/food
I hate it when I come in after the movie starts.
by FullaBella (submitted 4 months ago)
Finding a Chocolate Truffle in the Rain by Geneen Roth
[quote=corifeo][quote=FullaBel... men in my family are shamed by both men and women if we are lazy or not effective provider. This is a negative pressure but it does have the positive result of making us very hard working. [/quote] I'm curious - and I'm not saying this is within your family; but what if the shame is so deep that the men result to illegal work just to be the provider. I guess I'm asking if in your family.. or by that logic .. does the end justify the means?[/quote] All I could think of was the sopranos when reading this… haha my family is boring and normal. But all action we take have some unintended consequence. [/quote] LOL - ironic but that's along the lines I was thinking too.. one of those 'I do these things for the family rather than endure shame of not having a job' and was having a subliminal thought about the correlation between peer pressure that leads to eating disorders among so many .. anything than to endure the shame of being overweight.
by FullaBella (submitted 4 months ago)
Happy Tuesday, I love the fat secret website!
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by FullaBella (submitted 4 months ago)
Finding a Chocolate Truffle in the Rain by Geneen Roth
Ironic isn't it. I agree the story was likely stretched a bit to make the ultimate point. I do love Roth and her theories on finding balance in eating healthy; some of her written thoughts seem to have flowed right from my own head but were rearranged to make sense. But this situation, I guess because of reality, I have to wonder how it would have turned out if they'd been in a car wreck. See how messed up my thoughts are to thinking 'I don't care what's going on.. I want what I want!' AS if pursuing MY dreams are secondary to the risks of life. But had there been a traffic incident.. can you imagine the husband? "You and your darn eating craving gluttony thing... look what happened!' Or a parent.. "Hey, I drove 15 miles in the rain for this.. you're going to eat every darn bite of that. Heck, lick the plate while you're at it.' Guilt, pressure, etc., no wonder I've had an eating disorder most of my life. One day at a time.
by FullaBella (submitted 4 months ago)
Finding a Chocolate Truffle in the Rain by Geneen Roth
[quote=corifeo] men in my family are shamed by both men and women if we are lazy or not effective provider. This is a negative pressure but it does have the positive result of making us very hard working. [/quote] I'm curious - and I'm not saying this is within your family; but what if the shame is so deep that the men result to illegal work just to be the provider. I guess I'm asking if in your family.. or by that logic .. does the end justify the means?
by FullaBella (submitted 4 months ago)
Finding a Chocolate Truffle in the Rain by Geneen Roth
[quote=corifeo]I know Americans are very big on individuality but the true is that peer pressure works and it is very effective both negatively and positively. Just saying[/quote] This comment .. interesting debate going on in my head. Not arguing because I learn from others here. I'm just wondering if there are any stats to compare the on going success of negative and positive peer pressure. I was thinking, sure, for every action, there is a reaction. But can negative pressure yield a long standing positive reaction?
by FullaBella (submitted 4 months ago)
Finding a Chocolate Truffle in the Rain by Geneen Roth
I'm thinking... hopefully she took the rest home for the NEXT time... or maybe husband shared. I think 15 miles in the rain is extreme too but then not saying 'well, we drove all this way, may as well clear my plate' was a nice exercise. The story is up for interpretation... that's the point of it, of course. I also think there could have been some passive / aggressive payback going on for the times she felt insulted by his comments on her weight. Something akin to a scene I saw in some movie .. can't remember it now.. will come back if I do .. but the gal ordered $$$$$ meal and took one bite... and the guy's reaction was 'are you kidding me?' Food.. how we eat .. how people react to how we eat .. it's all a struggle at times. I liked the story, I like Roth, but I think *I* would have looked out at the rain and said 'obviously the universe doesn't think I need a truffle right now... it's signaling for me to think and breathe.'
by FullaBella (submitted 4 months ago)
Finding a Chocolate Truffle in the Rain by Geneen Roth
Sharing an article from one of my favorite weight loss writers ------------------------------... Finding a Chocolate Truffle in the Rain by Geneen Roth When I first stopped dieting, my friends thought I’d gone mad. I was 50 pounds over my natural weight and could fit into only one flouncy summer dress – which I wore daily, even in winter. One night my friend Susan and I were out to dinner and I ordered a brownie with ice cream for dessert. Glowering at me, Susan said. “Really, Geneen, you can’t possibly think that eating a brownie with ice cream is good for you. Look at you! You need to lose weight! It’s disgusting. You should find a diet and stick to it.” Even 30 years later I remember exactly where we were – at a restaurant in San Jose, CA; what Susan was wearing – an orange sweater with Turquoise flecks; and what I was feeling – ashamed and fat. (We all know what I was wearing.) My face turned a thousand shades of red, and I imagined taking up long-term residence under the table…and taking a nip or two out of Susan’s ankle while I was there. But instead, I took a deep breath, straightened my back, and said (in a louder voice than was probably necessary) that I was doing something new with food and that, while I appreciated her concern, her comments were not helpful. A slightly stunned Susan muttered, “Well, I hope you know what you are doing.” I said I did. And that was that. (Sort of. A year later, after I’d reached my natural weight, Susan called and asked me if she could join my Breaking Free online support group for emotional eaters. Divine justice comes in many forms.) I often get desperate letters from people who want to know what to do and what to say to spouses and friends who comment on their weight and food intake. This morning a woman named Lizzie wrote, “Please tell me what I can say to my best friend, who is convinced that I am killing myself by allowing myself to eat what I want.” My response is always the same: Once we are adults, it is not anyone’s job but our own to monitor what goes into our mouths. It’s not that nutritional and medical information is not necessary or helpful; it is. It’s not that loving friends and family are not necessary and helpful; they are. But when it gets down to the particular foods you choose to eat on a given day, you are the boss. Why? Two reasons. The first is that unless you begin claiming that right for yourself, you will spend your life eating cottage cheese in front of people who think you should be eating cottage cheese, and brownies and ice cream when you are alone. You will spend your life as a child who is either obeying authority or rebelling against it, never taking the power that is yours. The second reason is that as loving as any intention from a caring friend or family member may be, it is misguided. When someone else comments on what you eat or how much you weigh, it evokes shame, and after working with tens of thousands of people over the years, I can say with absolute certainty that shame does not ever, under any circumstance, lead to long-lasting change. Shame only leads to more shame, more hiding, more sneaking, more bingeing. So what does work? Two things: Being clear and direct about your own needs, and reminding yourself again and again that you are the boss of your own body. Years ago I worked with a woman named Marian who was 30 pounds overweight. During the eight-week class I taught, Marian began to understand that the diet-binge cycle she’d been on for 20 years was a main contributor to her weight gain, and so she decided that she was going to stop dieting and begin eating what she wanted. Instead of allowing her husband to make comments about her weight and what she ate, she took the metaphorical bull by the horns. One evening she left our group and told her husband that she needed him as a friend and lover, not as an inquisitor and judge. She told him that although she knew he loved her, it was hurting, not helping, her when he commented on the size of her body or a particular food she was eating. And she asked for his support. When he asked how he could support her, she said, “Trust that I know what I am doing. Trust that I know what’s best for my body. Trust that listening to myself is really the right thing to do. And when you can, express your love, not your judgment.” “OK,” he said, “it’s a deal.” He admitted that it would be hard, but said he was willing to support Marian in exactly the way she asked. “I know this is new,” she replied. “And I know I’ve often asked you for advice, or to tell me if I look fat in a dress or pair of pants. But I’m going to stop all that now. Give me three months. Let’s see what happens.” During an evening in the first few weeks of her experiment, Marian decided she wanted a chocolate truffle from a restaurant 15 miles away. It was raining in torrents and she didn’t like driving in bad weather, so she asked her husband to drive her. Talk about asking for support. He gulped. “You want a truffle? In this downpour?” “Yes,” she said. Will you drive?” And off they went. When she had taken two bites of the truffle (which was the size of a lemon – no kidding), she put it down and said, “OK, I’ve had enough.” Her husband was stunned when she said this. “Enough? We just drove 15 miles in a monsoon to get it!” He wasn’t used to seeing his wife take just two bites of anything. Or to the freedom she was beginning to feel as a result of knowing what she wanted, asking for it, and receiving it without shame. Amazing things happen when you reclaim your body for your own. You stop apologizing for your weight; you stop eating when no one is looking. You start owning the immense power that has always been yours; what you eat and how it makes you feel. When you are not eating to please someone else or sneaking around the house/your car/the office and eating everything in sight, you become the proud owner of your own body. When you really know that, you’ll know exactly what to do when the self-appointed food critics in your life start acting up. Be polite; explain that you know they have your best interests at heart, but that someone else with more at stake has that covered: you, the boss of you. And if your friends and family aren’t as supportive as Marian’s husband (hey, it happens), remember that, to paraphrase Eleanor Roosevelt, no one can make you feel shame without your consent. You’re free to decide what you think, feel, and put in your body. So do what you know is right (even if, as for me, it involves brownies and ice cream), and if you ever hanker for a truffle on a rainy night and no one will drive you, drive yourself. When you want something sweet, freedom is always a good choice. [IMG]http://i.imgur.com/33R3PJ...
by FullaBella (submitted 4 months ago)
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B4 = Bingo FML = Find My Luggage haha... fooled ya Mummy... get your finger off the report abuse button
by FullaBella (submitted 4 months ago)
Circadian rhythm
NB - interesting debate; we fatter because we're watching more tv & less active... but is that because the hues are hypnotic... more thoughts..
by FullaBella (submitted 4 months ago)
Good News for Coffee Drinkers!
[quote=Vickie 5966]Here's the problem with the whole coffee/memory thing. I'm sure you need sufficient coffee in your system to help the memory. And without the memory aid, how ya gonna remember all the crucial little steps to make coffee? Sooooooo...needed to make a bit more coffee this morning. Didn't realize I had washed the pot and left it in the drainer to dry. Hit the start button and walked away. Came back a bit later for a nice hot cup only to find it all over the counter, on the floor, etc. [/quote] You're not alone. Done it. With a kuerig thank goodness, not a whole pot.. but done it. My friend gave me an espresso machine but I can't concentrate well enough that early in the morning to do it and by midmorning am backing off the caffeine. I need a butler. Maid. Servant. Something. [IMG]http://i.imgur.com/4zTCT0...
by FullaBella (submitted 4 months ago)
Is there a place to record body measurements?
So no reprimand about crying wolf?
by FullaBella (submitted 4 months ago)
kitchen question, totally off topic
I think it would depend if it's open or has doors. If open & space not needed ~ decorate. Or use it for storage and use tension rods to put up a curtain. My space is over the wall oven; stove is countertop; so it doesn't get that much heat. I have wire baskets with varieties of keurig pods in them.
by FullaBella (submitted 4 months ago)
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