SKIP IT!

You need to show us your exact food diary

Thank you I have nnow sent them an email

How can I ask the site owners to add a notes section at the foot of the food diary?

Never make yourself eat when you don't want to! You DO eat breakfast -- you have it around noon! :-)

[quote=marmom67]I suggest you take her aside not at a meal and ask to talk to her. Tell her how you feel about being questioned, you are really trying to watch what you eat, and that you would really appreciate her support. T[/quote] EXCELLENT ADVICE! Another suggestion would be to tell her (regretfully) that you have found lately that cookies, cakes etc, give you TERRIBLE heartburn. She cannot possibly keep offering you carbage after you've said that!

I was a binge eater on a major scale. I could eat a quarter-kilo of chocolate washed down with 3 or 4 family bags of chipsticks or crisps. The way I put a stop to 30+ years of binge eating was with roast pork! I read this tip on a message board... One Monday morning I cooked a crackling joint and the first meal I had was 90% crispy crackling and a bit of pork meat. Then lunch was more pork (fatty) reheated with some mushrooms and double cream. Dinner more pork meat but with a mixed salad (not too high GI). Same the next day. If desperate for something sweet or a dessert I drank a bit of the double cream. The bingeing STOPPED. The food was composed 65% fat, 30% protein and 5% carbs. So I have more or less tried to stick with that ratio, and I only binge if I start back eating carbs. I don't think serial bingers will ever get cured by eating refined carbs.

Hi Ruhu Many congratulations. I was a major sugar addict since early childhood. I ate my way up to 371 pounds with chocolate and other refined carbs. When I gave up there were times when I sat on the sofa and sobbed because I wanted chocolate so much. I now eat nothing sugary. Major event when I had a clementine the other day. Goodness it tasted SOOOO sweet! It's a lot like alcoholism. If you think you can start having "just a little bit" you may end up readdicted. I don't think I will ever eat sugar again not as a regular thing, just have an ice cream once in a while if eating out.

All my motivation is about mobility. I don't give a damn for fashion etc. I just want to be able to run, skip, jump, play badminton again.

BTW, since we are all engaged in losing weight, isn't it time people learned to spell the crucial words correctly? i.e. lose and losing NOT loose and loosing. Loose is what your jeans will be if you LOSE!

When you cannot sit with your partner in the theatre. He sits in a stall while you sit in the aisle, alone, on an armless kitchen chair the staff brought for you from their staff room!

It's not really about how much we weigh, is it? It's really about whether our skirt falls down to the floor one day, and whether we can walk 5 miles. Well, it is to ME, anyway.

I gave away my scales because each time I woke up during the night I weighed myself. So I was weighing about 6 times a day. If the scales showed a gain I burst into tears. If they stayed the same I felt frustrated and disheartened. I'm now doing it without owning a pair of scales. I don't think about my weight very often. I weigh at the pool only, and try to limit myself to once a week. I have lost 14lb since giving away my scales.

We are ALL entitled to chose whichever buddies we want -- same as in real life. I've tried having friends IRL with whom I have nothing in common and it just does not work. So stop picking on me for exercising a choice! I just accepted a buddy request and took a look at that person's daily food journal. I have nothing in common with this person. She is living on junk food, all high sugar processed foods, all day every day. As someone who has long ago given up all sugar and flour, to see someone living on cookies, cake, pizza etc on a daily, long term basis makes me squirm. But she thinks it's OK because she keeps within her calorie count. I see no point in being buddies with her because I cannot possibly support/encourage her in her unhealthy junk diet, and she cannot possibly support or encourage me in my determination never to eat any junk or any sugar. So I have done all I can do -- I have told her what I think of her diet, and probably we will un-buddy each other. I have a limited amount of time to spare on this so what is the point of having a large number of buddies with whom I have nothing in common? Better to have few, but those who share my problems and my goals and my way of eating.

I'm happy to buddy up with people who started at 300lb + and have NOW 10lb to lose, but really, I have nothing in common with someone who only weigs 90lb and wants to be 85 :-)

Thanks Hoser. I think we have something like that here in the UK.

Oh really? I'd be looking for a low carb group, though :-)

I'm gonna be on here for a long, long time! Am I the only UK member?

what is pam?

I hope one day to be in a position to advise others. As I am a serial failed dieter I don't expect anyone to listen to anything I say ... except maybe when I am holding forth on how easy it is to fall off a wagon!